"Sisters": growth like buckwheat

In Zhu Mo's novel "Sisters", the 8 -year -old sister chose a completely different path after her parents divorced. Sister Tao Jiang worked hard in a big city and was unwilling to get married. Her sister Tao Ran stayed in her hometown and got married and had children very early. When they are trapped in work and marriage dilemma, they are discouraged, disappointed, and sad. They share their lives through letters, dispute their views, encourage each other, and eventually understand each other's choices.

■ Wang Luoluo

Compared with men, women always face less choices and more difficulties. Many times, women are like buckwheat. The wind comes, and as the wind boweds, the wind went, and the wind raised her head again.

In Zhu Mo's novel "Sisters" (Jiangsu Phoenix Literature and Art Publishing House, December 2021), the 8 -year -old sisters chose a completely different path after their parents divorced. Sister Tao Jiang worked hard in a big city and was unwilling to get married. Her sister Tao Ran stayed in her hometown and got married and had children very early. When they are trapped in work and marriage dilemma, they are discouraged, disappointed, and sad. They share their lives through letters, dispute their views, encourage each other, and eventually understand each other's choices. After the wind, they kept looking up and became more brave and confident.

Women's choices can be diverse

At present, people are quite controversial whether women are full -time housewives. Some people think that women should not be a full -time wife, and they should have their own career; the other person thinks that being an improper full -time wife should be the freedom of women's choice.

In the book, her sister Tao Ran also encountered such a dilemma. After graduating from college, she got married and co -organized with her in -laws. She had no chance to employment and started my career of a full -time housewife. However, the hard -working mother -in -law and the spoiled, a big boy -like husband made her situation difficult. Sister Tao Jiang said angrily in the letter: "Originally your life can have more beautiful choices, the weakness in your bones destroyed all the possibilities!"

Tao Ran was not discouraged easily. She wrote to her sister: "You can't praise this kind of life because you can't choose a life yourself. Criticizing this kind of life. We need feelings and do not mean that we are not promising; eager to maintain the family is not a shameful thing. "

In the society, many women have strong working ability, and they also have certain wealth and human resources to support their parenting, but they prefer to focus on family life and parenting, and choose to become full -time housewives. In recent years, women's consciousness has continued to improve, but there have been more extreme remarks on the Internet. Women are single and focus on their careers, and they can always get a praise. On the contrary, once a woman expresses the desire for family and parenting, it is often "verbal" by netizens and is used to use the vocabulary such as "Jiao Wife". In fact, we can listen to Tao Ran's voice, treat and respect the different choices of women equally.

Sister Tao Jiang is another choice. She feels full and peace of mind for her daily hard work, and enjoys the sense of accomplishment brought by her career. However, when she fell in the bathroom one day, she suddenly felt tired and decided to stop stopping. In the footsteps, choose to study abroad, "Go to see a larger world, live a completely different life, learn new things in the new environment, and find new self." Sister returns to China to continue to carry out new careers, and new love, new love, But until the end of the novel, I did not write that my sister would get married.

The roads of the sisters are in line with the distinction between women in mainstream society, one focuses on families, and one goes to her career. But do women only have two ways to choose? Can families and careers be taken into account? Just as countless successful women are asked, when you balance your family and career, you have asked: "Why don't you ask the question of men."

Russell once said: "Differential polymorphism is the source of happiness." As we look at the different choices of women, we must also consider giving women more choices. In the United States' former female astronaut Katy Corman congratulated the female astronaut Wang Yaping in our country, he said, "When you look at the stars outside the window, see our earth, don't forget, billions of women also use you to use you for you Looking out of the window, including me. "Whether it is a astronaut, a chef, singer, scientist, etc., society can be more affordable measures in social security, employment, education, parenting, etc. Anyone who becomes.

Open the secret in the closet

There is a closet in each family, with the secrets of the family hidden in the closet. The sisters opened the door of the house again in the communication, and the reader could see the reason behind the sisters' different choices. Native families have given them warmth and harm, and they have shaped their different personalities.

Sister Tao Ran, who has lived under the aura of excellent and beautiful sister since childhood, is the little daughter who is often ignored by her parents. She often has to listen to her sister. After the parents are divorced, both parents and sisters can leave freely, and Tao Ran, a ten -year -old, can only face a fragmented life alone. The care of the opposite sex was a light in the dark, making her cherish the first love of true love, and more eager for a complete family.

As a screenwriter who has worked hard in the film and television industry for many years, the author wrote that her sister Tao Jiang was more familiar with her own, and she had her own shadow. Tao Jiang witnessed every step of the fidelity of his loved parents. After witnessing his father's derailment, he took the initiative to persuade his parents and then read and work. She believes that feelings are unreliable, and only her independence is the most reliable. During her post competition, she worked overtime day and night to serve people with performance. The letter she wrote to her sister was always fast -moving, and she was aggressive. In the book, the author quoted Japanese writers to Tian Bangzi: "The family gives us love and warmth, and tied us together to suffer from each other's edges and corners; Tell us to worry. We polish, bump, pinch, chisel, and trim in this relationship have been repeatedly tamed by it and grow up according to its shape. Its good and bad have become part of us. "

The younger sister looks like water. When the wind blows, her weapon is with Rou Kegang, clarifying her goals, and acting decisively. She gradually overcome her weak character, seized the weakness of the harsh mother -in -law and aunt, encouraged her husband to bear family responsibility, and also found her career. The sister was like a fire. When the wind blows, she can stun the flags, follow the trend, and be ready to go. Temporarily stopped the pace of career, and gradually changed from a intense life to calmness. They seem to be indisputable, arguing about the way of living in each other. My sister did not want her sister to be bound for prematurely. She tried to let her sister see her work scene and was attracted by lively and prosperous. As a result, she became the urge to watch the world outside, but her sister saw the hard work and loneliness behind her sister's gloriousness.

But they are more often -loved ones who blend with water and milk. They have a unable to understand and care. In the letter, they recall the happy time of growing up and growing up in their childhood. Based on their respective personality, they provided the other party to provide the other party to provide the other party. When the sister Tao Ran entered the marriage, he felt that he was tied to the invisible rope, and he complained to his sister. The key is to let her find a way to solve the problem. In terms of emotions, her sister is like a elementary school student. When she meets the feeling, the other party is not so active. She is also confused and confused. Only by the guidance of her sister, she dials the clouds.

Just like the sister who is alive in the hit Korean drama "Our Blues Time". Although her sister is a patient with incomplete mental development, she has been silently concerned about her sister, regarding her beautiful sister for her pride, her sister seems indifferent, but she always wants to think and take care of her sister.

If women are like buckwheat, then the relationship between sisters is mutual assistance between buckwheat. When they pull their hands to resist the difficulties, buckwheats can always stand up after the wind.

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