Choose an annual salary of 40W or 10W civil servants in the big city?

If you can choose, do you want a 40W annual salary of a big city or a 10W civil servant?

Most of the workers will choose the former, after all, no one will be able to live with money.

However, high returns mean high payments, and the peaks of the peaks are crowded in the morning and evening; staying up late day and night; the rest days and annual leave that is delayed by work, and those in the workplace.

Andy used to be such a middle -level manager who worked hard in Shanghai with an annual salary of 40W. But Andy said: I am too tired, not only the body, but also the spirit.

She came to Shanghai for 10 years, and the 10 -year -old touches made her have the high salary and high positions of others. But she also paid too much. During this period, she did not talk about love, did not take a vacation, and almost never returned home. Sometimes I am busy, even the New Year to promote projects in the company. She wanted to go home.

Such a life makes her tired, and she starts to think about how to change. She finally made up her mind to give up a high salary and return to her hometown to be an ordinary civil servant.

One month after returning home, she watched her hometown lights, listened to the familiar hometown dialect, and walked in a familiar and strange street. She knew that she chose the right. Whether she is physical or soul, she feels freedom.

"Lobster Professor" wrote in his book "Twelve Rules of Life 2": If one day you find that your work is killing your heart, then you can consider it, start to work hard to update your resume and job search process to find another other I have a job.

Although this process is difficult, it is often discouraged, but in fact you only need to succeed once. You may find a higher salary and more interesting job. Colleagues will not only fight your morale, but will make you glowing. So maybe follow the call of the soul is the best policy, otherwise you need to live in self -betrayal and watch yourself tolerate those things you can't tolerate. This is the worst situation.

Considering changes, you may have the following ideas.

First, I may be fired. Then prepare for the next job, or carefully prepare in front of your leadership. At the same time, don't think that being fired is the worst result.

Second, I am afraid of changes. Fear is inevitable, but you have to see what is comparing with. For example, continuing to work in the inner work will make yourself weaker and annoying, more vulnerable to anxiety and tyranny, these are more terrible than changes. There is no absolute choice in life, so you should fully consider the risks to stay and stay. I have witnessed many people who successfully got rid of a lifeless life after many years of planning and achieved better psychological and living conditions.

Third, maybe no one will ask me. That's right, the possibility of rejection of job application is very high. I would suggest that my visitors established reasonable expectations, such as assuming that there will be one success in 50 applications. Even if you can do it, sometimes you may not get it, but this is often not aimed at you, but the inevitable result of society's vagueness and subjectivity of value judgment.

The cause of this result is endless: for example, although a resume is convenient, it is not so simple to handle; for example, some positions have been selected internally, and the recruitment is only a walk through the market; In order to maintain the current talent inventory, not to meet the current needs. This is an actuarial, statistics, or baseline issues, not necessarily the defect of you.

You must always know these pessimistic status quo to avoid easily discouraged. Carefully prepare 150 resumes and return to three or five interview opportunities. This process may take a year, but it is also stronger than a lifetime of suffering. However, this process is not difficult. You have to prepare psychological preparations and make plans to let people who understand your ideas and difficulties to support you.

In addition, your professional skills development may be insufficient. If you try to improve in your work, you will be more likely to find new jobs. After all, when you have nowhere to go, you can't say anything about corrupted power. Therefore, you have the obligation to make yourself in a relatively strong position and make good use of this advantage. You also need to consider the worst results and discuss these possibilities with those who will be implicated.

Don't forget, it may be the worst situation where you staying at you should not stay, because you will be tortured slowly for decades.

Even if it is slow, the continuous despair will accelerate your aging, and even make you want to end your career or even life as soon as possible. The old saying is not as good as short pain. You may bear the shame of years. You will send four or five or even ten resumes a week. Most of them will not be seen again. But you only need to luck once, and the hope and difficulties in a few years are better than a career that is frustrated and suppressed.

It is also necessary to explain that what I discussed here is not the problem of hate my work because I don't want to get up early, not the problem of mood in bad weather, I just want to lie at home.

We are not discussing the frustration when being asked to do necessary but trivial things, such as the bottom levels of garbage, sweeping and cleaning the bathroom, or what new people in the workplace must do. The resentment caused by these necessary jobs usually stems from lack of gratitude, arrogant heart, low eyes, or freedom. It is not the same thing that refusing to call your conscience and dissatisfaction with the humble position.

The betrayal of the soul will prevent people from creating value in their work, let people do ridiculous and meaningless things, cover up the injustice to others with lies, deceive and betray themselves in the future. And when others suffer the same pain. This betrayal is also selectively ignored, making your words and deeds running counter to the values ​​in the heart, and deceiving himself. There is no doubt that at the individual or social level, the road to the desperate situation is paved by the attitude and behavior of violating conscience.

Do you choose to stay in the existing company, or do other jobs, or go back to his hometown to live a comfortable life?

In any case, please obey your heart, don't do it with evil.

"Twelve Rules of Life 2" proposed from a new perspective that only the borders that be brave beyond order can accumulate the inherent energy that resist pessimism, anxiety and pain, and obtain a free and rich life.

Well -known psychologist Professor Jordan Peter Sen is concerned about how modern readers are very concerned, such as how to operate intimacy, how to break through the bottleneck of career, how to resolve the inner pain, and refine the 12 basic rules of cracking down the dilemma of life. Every time you are confused, hesitant, and suffer.

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