A person who passes a better person: the mouth is expensive, the ears are clear, the heart is obedient

Wen | 蓁 蓁

-The book and signing author-

Walking in the world, some people spend their efforts, but they touch the wall everywhere; some people are calm and calm, but smoothly.

There is a way that the situation of life will be different.

The better a person, often there are three signs.

mouth

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expensive

"Zhu Zijia Xun" said: "There are many words of the world, and you will lose more."

People have been learning to speak since birth, and only speaking is a kind of ability. In fact, speaking is even more art.

It is right to say that it can achieve a person; if it is out of time, you can bury a person.

The ancients said: "The mouth can spit roses, and it can also vomit glimpse."

Life is alive, speaking and doing things should be thoughtful.

If there is no cover, it is likely to be bad, but the lotus spitting lotus can bring good luck.

In the late Qing Dynasty, Governor Zhang Zhidong of Huguang and Tan Jixuan, the governor of Hubei, had a bad relationship.

One day, the two ate on the Yellow Crane Tower, and argued due to the width of the Hanshui River.

Tan Jiyu said: "The river surface is five miles and three points." Zhang Zhidong retorted: "Obviously seven miles three points."

The two scrambled to face red ears, and no one was willing to make a concession. Others had to call Chen Shiping, Jiangxia County, Jiangxia County to judge.

I saw that he owed his hands and cleverly said: "When the river surface rises, it is seven miles three points. When the water falls, it is five miles three points. The two adults have nothing to say."

When Zhang and Tan heard it, they laughed, and they praised him for being smart and exported extraordinary.

Later, Chen Shiping was promoted to Wuchang Zhifu, and the official voice has always been good, becoming a model of the late Qing Dynasty.

"Wake -ups" said: "The tongue is a interest book, and the mouth is a blessing door."

A person who speaks is not only moving, but also attentive. If you have a ruler in your heart, you will speak.

What it reflects is a person's high emotional quotient and even wisdom.

You know, helping others is helping himself.

Good words, no embarrassment before people, not being resentful after others. Here, we are for the good destiny for themselves and accumulate blessings.

Many times in life, it is not others, it is their own mouth.

The richer your mouth, the better your life.

Ear

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Bright

For a lifetime, whether it is defeated, mediocre or excellence, will inevitably hear all kinds of voices.

These voices are praise, slander, affirmation, and insults.

And a wise person has a clear understanding of himself, and will not be easily controlled by his own choices because of the evaluation of others.

Just as a couplet in Yuelu Academy said: "It's right and wrong to be self -tried, and they will be heard from others."

During the Republic of China, Hu Shi once vigorously promoted vernacular. In this regard, the writer Huang Kan was very uncomfortable. Every time he had a class, he must scold Hu Shi first before he was officially opened.

Once, he told the students' benefits to the students, and took Hu Shi for example:

"If Hu Shi's wife died in his hometown, his family sent him a telegram. If he used vernacular, he must have wrote" Your wife is dead, come back quickly ', there are 11 words; if you use classical Chinese, only 4 need 4 The word 'wife is funeral ", and the telephone fee can be saved two -thirds."

Another time, he was talking about the class, and suddenly said to the students, "Actually, Hu Shi may not be really promoting vernacular."

The students were puzzled, and he said in a bad way: "Otherwise, he should not call Hu Shi, but he should call‘ Where to go ’.”

As soon as the words fell, the students laughed, and Huang Kan was even more proud.

These words soon passed to Hu Shi's ears, but did not take it to heart.

Huang Kan's public slander did not extinguish Hu Shi's determination to promote vernacular. On the contrary, he spared no effort to laid a good foundation for the spread of culture and the opening of the people's wisdom.

Wang Yangming once said: "Everyone has its own fixed pins, and the root source of Wanhua is always in the heart."

In life, instead of being more realistic about the slander and blame of others, it is better to be boring, it is better to be yourself and please yourself.

In the world, you can't be satisfied with everyone. Don't grieve yourself in order to cater to others.

Other people's thoughts do not need to change, others' gossip, let alone need to care.

Life must be stubborn, but for a century, he has learned to be alone in your own world, and it is natural to follow the world of others.

Heart

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Follow

Zhuangzi once said: "Respect for not being happy, insulting without anger, but the same thing as heaven."

When people live for a lifetime, in the face of unwilling people and things, different mentions will bring different results.

Control your heart, do not like it, adversity is not angry, and you can live calmly.

When Bai Juyi was in his 50s, he suffered from eye diseases, and later injured his waist due to a horse fall. His physical pain made him resign from the official retreat.

However, he was not pessimistic because of this, but went to the hospital to meditate every day and read. He once wrote in the poem: "The life of his heart is delayed, and he has no spirit of things."

It is often said that "a hundred years of dreams, seventy years old", but Bai Juyi lived to 75 years old. After eight emperors, it can be described as long -lasting.

Contemporary writer Wang Zengqi is also an open -minded and optimistic person, known as "contemporary Su Dongpo".

He has been decentralized in rural areas to accept labor transformation, and people who work together are always frowning. Only he knows how to make fun.

He once wrote in "Plants and Tree on Earth": "The world loves me first, I can't help but love it."

Whether it is Bai Juyi, a lifetime, or Wang Zengqi, who has suffered from suffering, they can use optimism to fight hardships, use openness to resist sorrow, understand that there is no worries in the heart, and life without worry.As in "Small Window Young" said: "There is no disease in the body, there is nothing in my heart, the spring bird is Sheng Ge."

Regardless of the situation of life, it is not anxious, discouraged, not sad, no obstacles to the body and mind, and letting go everywhere, which is the greatest happiness in life.

"Zuo Zhuan" has a cloud: "There is no door, no one is called."

Whether a person lives happily, is not in heaven and earth, not in others, but in himself.

The mouth is expensive, not to talk about gossip; ears, not listening to nonsense; your heart, do not want to be delusional.

For the rest of our lives, I hope that we can raise virtue, not irritable, not resentful, get better and better.

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