It turns out that this is the turtle rabbit race (profound)

Text/Gao Xiaolan

Everyone has heard the story of the turtle rabbit race.

The turtles insisted step by step, and finally overtaked the rabbit and won.

The success of a turtle is that it does not affect its own process because of the rhythm of others.

The same is true of being a person. If you don't care about the attention of others, do not cater to the preferences of others, and concentrate on yourself, is the best practice of life.

If you don't compare with others, you will live easier

Think about it, from small to large, do we have always lived in comparison with others?

When I was young, I grew up; when I grew up, I was more than working; after getting married, it was better than children ... It can be said that comparison is the norm of our lives, but not compare.

Writer Marshall said: "Compared with others, it is the beginning of tragic life."

Indeed, everything is compared with others, and it will only increase troubles. In the end, serious self -doubts are caused, and their hearts are depressed.

I have seen such a story.

Lin Feng, who has worked hard for more than 10 years, finally reached the position of the business supervisor with an annual salary of nearly 70,000 yuan.

He bought a car with more than 100,000 yuan with accumulated deposits. When he was preparing to attend a classmate party, he showed off.

Unexpectedly, as soon as he met, Lin Feng was deadly.

It turned out that most of the cars of the students were more than 200,000 yuan, and they learned in some chat that the annual salary of the students was almost 150,000.

In contrast, Lin Feng felt that he was particularly shameful and his face flushed.

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During the whole party, he was extremely lost. He did not expect that he worked so hard and lags behind others. The unevenness in his heart made him taste tasteless.

After returning home, the scenery of the classmates was still constantly stimulating Lin Feng, making him depressed all day.

In this repeated comparison, Lin Feng was diagnosed with moderate depression. He was admitted to the hospital, and he could only press the pause button.

If a person always puts his eyes on others, he will live more and more painful, and he breeds endless inferiority, so he forgets that he is actually excellent.

Bian Zhilin's poem wrote: "You stand on the bridge to see the scenery, and the people who watch the scenery look at you upstairs."

When you look at the scenery in the distance, you also become the scenery in the eyes of others; when you envy others, you are actually envious of you.

To give up with others and be good at ourselves, we will reduce a lot of negatives and live more comfortably.

The best state of life is to live a good life. Shoes are worn on your feet. You know the road of warmth. The road under your feet must be finished.

Firm your choice and take the road of identifying

Japanese writer Matsuura Matsuya once said: "I want to spend every day with my own rhythm than with the current."

It is true that we can live with our own rhythm and take the path we want to take.

Friend Jimmy, after graduation, started a job from nine to five. Such a life made him feel very distressed, and even felt that this was not what he wanted.

Later, Jimmy had done different types of work in Shanghai, Xiamen, Beijing and other places. During the period, he found that he had a "habit".

Every time I work, after saving a sum of money, I will resign without hesitation to travel around the world.

At that time, he graduated with him. Someone was admitted to civil servants.

Relatives and friends persuaded him: "Don't always think about playing, you have to learn to save money. What famous hall can travel?"

Nevertheless, Jimmy knew in his heart that travel for him is not only to visit mountains and water, but also his own career.

In insisting on doing his own life, Jimmy has paid a lot, but he has realized his dream. Now he is a professional traveler.

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In this world, everyone's personality, situation, and concepts are different, so the mainstream life path may not be applicable.

A person who is eager to realize his own value, if he returns to the family, he will definitely complain to his belly; a person who likes free risks, if he does a stable job, he will definitely not be happy.

Only when people firmly believe in their inner choices can they create an external world that suits them and finally realize their pursuit of happiness in happiness.

Mr. Yang Yan said: "We used to look forward to the recognition of the outside world. Only in the end, we know that the world is ourselves and has nothing to do with others."

Everyone has their own path of life. Now that you have made up your mind, don't look around. As long as you follow the road that you think is determined, you can laugh to the end.

Be yourself, always love you real appearance

In this world, it seems that everyone is teaching us how to please others, but no one teaches us how to love ourselves.

As a result, we are always habitually seeking comprehensiveness, thinking that this can get the kindness of others.

As everyone knows, when you start to be yourself and put yourself in your heart, you can really start controlling your life.

In the single -white drama "Hear She Speaking · Magic Mirror", the female lead Yoyo is a girl who has been abducted by the social aesthetic standard.

She feels that her nose is low, her lips, wide eyes, and less hair, which is simply a big collection of ugly genes.

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In order to get rid of the shadow of being discriminated against by her classmates, she spent more than two hours a day to make makeup to make herself beautiful.

Then turn on the beauty camera, complete the operation of selfie, repair, and send a circle of friends, and finally wait to like it. For YOYO, makeup really relieves her appearance and anxiety for a period of time, making her unique.

Once, at the classmate gathering, Yoyo, who was reborn, became the focus of everyone's attention. At that time, she didn't mention how happy her heart was.

But after returning home, YOYO found that his double eyelids were posted, hanging on the corner of your eyes, and even the wigs moved back.

This prompted YOYO into a plastic surgery hospital.

In the hospital, after the old doctor carefully looked at it, he only said one sentence: "Girl, don't care too much about the evaluation of others, and be your own girl is the most beautiful."

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So she started to re -examine herself: Is the beauty in the eyes of the public? Who are I pleased? Who do I want to be?

When YOYO removed her makeup, she stood in front of the floor -to -ceiling window and looked at a clean and simple face reflected on the glass, she found that she was perfect and perfectly became her.

In fact, most people in reality have a sense of realism, often wearing masks to live, doing things that they don't like in violation of.

But Adler said: "We don't need to live according to the expectations of others, and we should not ask others to live according to our expectations."

Even though there are too many in this era, doing yourself true, always the same.

Just like a bird chose to fly in the sky, the fish chose to swim in the river. When a person is willing to be himself, the more independent he will be, and then his life will enter a positive cycle.

The words "yourself" are simple to say, but it is not easy to do it.

Living in this complicated social group, we will inevitably be affected by the people around us, and forget to follow our hearts and make ourselves more and more dumb.

But Goethe once said: "Everyone should insist on taking the path they developed, not scared by rumors, nor is it restrained by others' opinions."

On the road of life, we are all our own ferries. Only by holding the steering wheel tightly in our hands can we reach the distance we want.

At the end of the text, "watching", I hope everyone can be unbounded, live freely, live up to youth, and live up to themselves.

Author: Gao Xiaolan, warm you and me in words to illuminate our way forward. Editor on duty: Liu Yan.

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