If you keep a low -key on these 4 things for a long time, it means that you are quite mature

Psychologist Jane Loevinger pointed out that whether the individual's psychology is mature depends on "a person's experience of himself and the world can reach a complicated level."

So, how to judge whether a person is mature?

The more mature people, the more they can keep the following 4 things. If you do it, it means that you are quite mature and attractive.

Keep low when successful

Keep a low -key when successful

At the psychological level, there are too many people who are habitually attributed to their own success and failure to the environment; and the success of others is attributed to the environment and failure.

Some people start to flutter when they succeed, the "self" in their hearts is constantly expanding, showing off their achievements around high -profile, bragging about what they are good at, and even bullying people, and eventually proud.

As everyone knows, there are mountains outside the mountain, and there are people outside.

The so -called maturity is the low -key and restrained characteristics of the precipitated and restrained after fading last year.

Being able to keep his achievements, material or fame and fortune is low -key when everything is better than others, and not proud to prove that a person can truly mature mental maturity.

Some people in life know how to express themselves moderately, show some achievements they have achieved in a low -key manner, or the main sharing is a mood, which is a normal behavior.

When a person has grades, he will definitely be happy, and you must also consider the feelings of others. After all, some people are unsatisfactory. If it is too public at this moment, it will make others uncomfortable.

If it is too high -profile, it is also easy to be jealous, and there is a danger of a bird with a gun.

There is also the truth of the heart:

Failure is the mother of success, but success may also become a mother of failure. The mutual conversion of the two depends on human thinking and behavior.

Those who like high -profile showing off are empty in their hearts.

Most people who like to swing and swing are mostly proud.

And mature people often do not forget their original intentions, and they will not be complacent and stagnant because of a little grade. They know that learning is endless, and they will continue to improve themselves and want to achieve more results.

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The more mature people understand, the more mature people understand that when the situation of others is not as good as you, when you need to ask you to help, don't always look high, let alone laugh at or make trouble.

On the one hand, this is to think about others with goodwill, and on the other hand, people are social, and you also need someone else.

The real strong will never be revealed, they are expensive but not showing, and they are not dazzling. They will not get along with others. They know how to converge. They always save their strengths, not anxious, and wisdom.

When a person has a lot of themselves, the lower the flowers and applause when you face success, the more low -key, and the more you can achieve big things.

After all, the low -key gorgeous is the highest level of Versailles.

Keep a low -key when encountering setbacks

In life, you will encounter such people:

Seeing that someone else had a high score, he said that he was temporarily hugging the Buddha's feet, otherwise it would definitely surpass him.

Do n’t work hard on your own, seeing that colleagues are promoted and salary, and they say that they please the boss.

Seeing that friends have a car and a house, the rent is turned into the moonlight for a second, so they blame their parents to have no money.

When they encountered a little thing, they complained that God's injustice was thrown on the pot on others. He frequently sold miserable in the circle of friends, and he couldn't wait for everyone to know his "pain".

What is a sign of a person to mature?

There is a praise on the Internet: "Learn to control your emotions, rather than blindly controlled it."

There is a well -known "Mustang effect" in psychology.

On the African grasslands, a bat was lying on Mustang to suck blood.

Some horses started to be irritable and died in a loud roar and kicking.

Experts have found that the volume of bats of bats is not enough to cause the horse to die.

So what is the culprit?

It turned out that the real cause of the real death of Mustang was the emotion of anger and out of control.

Therefore, when you encounter setbacks, keep calm, otherwise you will easily fall into the vortex of the "Mustang Effect", and the loss is getting worse.

Whether a person's heart matures depends on his state of dealing with the problem.

It is commonplace to talk to family and friends when I do n’t care.

However, complaining or venting blindly does not solve the problem. It will only eliminate their will, or it will cause trouble to others, or it will become a laughing stock of others.

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So more often, mature people will not easily reveal their misfortunes to others, but have the ability to self -digestion.

They know how to manage their emotions, do not easily shrink in the face of difficulties, can deal with problems in low -key, think about solutions, and strive to change the status quo.

They are not shocked, they can see the direction of progress, and they will not make excuses for their failure. They believe that failure is also an opportunity for them to grow. They will carefully analyze the reasons for failure and summarize their experience.

From a psychological point of view, the ultimate goal of a person's mature is the part that can accept itself and the world's imperfect or even bad part.

Not only can balance your inner contradictions, reconcile with yourself, but also reasonably transform your own negative emotions, actively coordinate and resolve external conflicts, give up impossible goals, and adhere to your pursuit.

Keep in mind that only if you are sinking, can you defeat.

Rather than venting negative energy, it is better to counterattack low -key.

Keep a low -key when facing the evaluation of the outside world

Do not underestimate the power of killing. When you are at high light, the outside world will welcome you with the best attitude.

Faced with overwhelming praise, how many people can insist on their own intentions?

If a person is bound by false praise, he will lose himself in the pace of Ah, and he will eventually fall into the abyss of the degenerate abyss.

Mature people do not necessarily have the ability to read people.

But their mature mentality will help them automatically filter out a lot of falsehood.

Why is this?

Because mature people are often not arrogant and impatient when they succeed, they will be happy because of the praise of others, but at the same time they will respond to these praise rationally and will not be stunned.

They know very well that everyone has experienced success and failure.

When successful, you will be praised. Don't overestimate yourself at this time, just like you will be laughed at when you fail. Don't underestimate yourself at that time.

Otherwise, you are happy, and you are not sad.

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As a result, some of the outside world deliberately welcoming and false attachment, and suddenly they were invalidated to them.

For socializing, they usually have mature dating guidelines, that is, maintaining a relatively balanced relationship between themselves and friends, neither self -centered nor compromise.

They will choose a circle of friends who are suitable for them. Even if there are fewer friends, they will be full of in -depth exchanges and trust. Such relations have greater energy and long -lasting friendship.

People who are not mature enough often choose to "do it for others". Excessive living in the worldly evaluation system always depends on the evaluation of others.

Faced with praise, they were easily lost in the overwhelming words and were bound by some nihilic things.

In the face of slander, they are easy to get angry, and even make excessive excitement, or live in the fear of governing by others, as if some of their own advantages no longer exist.

And the more psychological and mature individuals, the more you know the nature of the pursuit of life: "Reduce meaningless restraint and pursue freedom."

They don't like mixing the circle, they can distinguish what they should do, they will not be too aggrieved for the sake of groups, know how to treat themselves as an opportunity to understand themselves, see the true feelings and needs in their hearts, so as to be their own life. Controller.

Type the touting of others with ordinary heart, and at the same time allow some people to be disappointed with you, and gradually return to the calmness of your heart from the excitement outside, indicating that you are mature.

Keep a low -key when facing temptation

Have you ever heard a famous experiment on "delay satisfaction" by Walt Michel, a professor of psychology at Stanford University in the United States?

The researchers gave a batch of 4 -year -old children a piece of fudge each, and told them that if he could wait for him to eat this sugar, he could eat the second piece of sugar, and it took 20 minutes to wait for 20 minutes.

If he eats sugar before he comes back, he cannot get a second piece.

Later, the researchers left, leaving children and tempting fudge.

Sure enough, some children couldn't wait to eat the fudge, while some children could persist to the end.

Many years later, the researchers' follow -up survey of the children who participated in the experiment that year found that children who can only eat sugar before they can endure the last moment are compared with those children who eat sugar first:

Their self -control is stronger, their will is firm, and they can resist the temptation in front of them for longer results, which is obviously easier to succeed.

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Think about your child, let alone an adult?

Mature people will not be confused by the prosperity of the outside world, and they will not be lost in the livelihood of materialism. Even if they succeed, they can continue to walk forward with a cautious attitude.

On the one hand, it is the temptation of a million annual salary.

Which one is better?

The 13 -year -old became the most popular Internet celebrity boy Zhong Meimei, who was most imitated by the teacher's expression, and domineering rejected the temptation of the former million annual salary. Through efforts, he successfully passed the key high school in Heilongjiang Province: Harbin No. 3 Middle School.

Many netizens were surprised to see this news.

After all, the annual salary of one million is expected to be incompatible for most people.

But desire is like a bottomless hole, think calmly, if you give up your studies early, will this practice wise?

I am fortunate that Zhong Meimei and his parents have mature values. In the face of huge temptations, I can make different choices from some Internet celebrities, and will not make money around him after he became famous overnight.

It is a rare balance between the two identities of "net red" and "student".

His pick -up at this stage has made us look forward to the future development of this boy.

After all, in the face of temptation, people who can be sober, know how to leave, and be responsible for their lives can they live a more quality life.

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The more mature people, the more they will not use a single absolute "right" or "wrong". It is not black or white to judge one thing, but to look at everything with a diversified and developing vision.

They are always low -key, not arrogant or impatient when they are proud, they are not humble when they are frustrated.

Use this high -level life attitude and open -minded wisdom to win life.

Author: Du Yanxin, a master's degree in psychology at the University of London, England, a national second -level psychological counselor, has studied psychology for many years. Sister Xin wants to accompany you with professionalism and warmth! Source: Simple Psychology (ID: xinli01).

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