If the pattern is big, you can speak, tolerate people,

Zhang Chao, a scholar of the Qing Dynasty, once divided life into a triple realm:

The first: look at the moon from the window; the second: look at the moon in the courtyard; the third: the moon is played on the platform.

The height of a person stands for the height and the depth of thought, determining his mind and demeanor.

Those with small patterns are easily trapped in the land of squares and sink in trivial.

People with a large pattern are broad -minded, can tolerate the world's difficult things, and live freely.

01 The pattern is large, and I can speak

Lao Tzu said: "If you are good, you are good at water, and all things are not arguing."

People with noble character, like water, can tolerate and nourish all things, but do not fight.

Lu Mengzheng in the Song Dynasty, his family was poor since he was a child.

Later, he worked hard to read the high school champion, the official to the prime minister.

Once, he played on the dynasty, and suddenly he murmured behind him: I did not expect that the little beggar who lived in the broken kiln also became the prime minister.

Lu Meng was pretending not to hear, and he didn't go back.

The followers were to check who said who said it, but Lu Mengzheng stopped the way:

"If you know who it is, it is inevitable that your heart is unhappy and difficult to get along.

These generous words, even Song Taizong lamented: "Meng Zheng Qi, I don't do it."

The ancients said: "The disaster of nobles is in the unbearable, so you must not be able to bear it."

Disasters and disasters often originate from unbearable and tolerance.

A person's external performance reveals the inner pattern everywhere.

Perhaps at home: the parents are nagging, and they often smile; the partner is complaining, as much as possible to accompany as much as possible; the child is yelling, and immediately hugs.

Perhaps it was outside the home: the villain was ridiculed and regarded him as an appreciation; the idle man was chewing his tongue, treating him as an applause; the wicked was deliberately ugly and regarded him as a performance.

Human sadness and joy are not connected, and each person's cognition is also very different.

A person with a large pattern can speak.

He can accommodate the noise of the outside world and does not fight for right or wrong; he can tolerate everyone's discussions and not argue.

All these are neither ignorant nor confused, but to distinguish the wisdom of life and eagerness, and it is also a far -sightedness that is profitable and avoiding harm.

For a century in life, if you can keep your original intention and tolerate others, it is not only tolerant of others, but also for spare yourself.

02 The pattern is large and can tolerate people

"The Book of the Seek" said: "Taishan does not allow the soil, so it can become large;

Do not abandon any tiny soil, which has achieved the tall of Taishan; it does not exclude several small streams, which has achieved the deep and wide rivers.

Human, the same is true.

If you can accommodate the unreasonable and bad habits of others, you can achieve your pattern and gas field.

When Emperor Hanwu was young, he took privately to a deserted shop.

Late at night, Emperor Hanwu wanted some hot water, but the shop was politely said, "Only the cold water that just finished washing the vegetables."

The follower immediately wanted to attack, but it was stopped by Emperor Hanwu.

After the group settled, the store said to his wife: "This group must be robbers, and they must call everyone to attack them."

The wife stopped: "No, look at the temperament, they may be big people."

In the end, she drunk her husband, killing chickens and sheep, waiting for Emperor Hanwu and his party.

When he left the next day, Emperor Hanwu not only did not blame the man's rudeness, but gave a reward.

Because he understands that the party who wears a sword in the middle of the night is indeed easy to misunderstand.

There is a cloud in the old saying: "Only the width can tolerate people, but only thick can be loaded."

Being a person, tolerant of others is a kind of cultivation, and kindness is a virtue.

A person with a large pattern can tolerate people.

Su Shi in the Northern Song Dynasty was not annoyed by the drunk man who was able to push himself down.

Jiang Yan of the Three Kingdoms, who was allowed to "only answer" Yang opera, smiled frankly and accepted his temper nature.

Qi Xiong of the Spring and Autumn Period, he was able to shoot his own Guan Zhong who had shot himself.

Either Su Shi, Jiang Yan and Qi Gonggong, they have the difficulty of inspecting people and forgive people. They all have a large pattern worth copying.

When we blame others and can't get used to others, why not think about it, how can we do better.

Only "blame yourself with the heart of the person and forgive yourself with your own heart", can "not what you can, and adults cannot achieve"!

03 The pattern is large and can tolerate things

The ancients: "There must be tolerance, it is good;

The world is complicated, and the patience can be achieved; the people's hearts are different, and they are tolerant to achieve morality.

Zhang Zhidong, one of the four famous ministers in ZTE in the late Qing Dynasty, was particularly short.

When he was just the governor of Hu Guang, a painter drew the "three shorts" watercolors, namely two local officials and Zhang Zhidong.

The two of them are famous for their short figures.

The painter exhibited this painting in Wuchang and attracted countless people who laughed and watched lively.

Zhang Zhidong said that he wanted to grab the painter into the prison, and he himself said with a smile, "It's not worth spending."

In the end, he actually paid his pocket and asked his subordinates to buy back the painting.

As soon as the news was spread, the painter was surprised, and since then, the people of the city praised the people.

People with a broad mind can control their emotions even when they encounter big things, let alone worry about trivial matters.

Perhaps the injury of a person who is jealous: Forbearance, the clear person is clear, and the time will give the answer.

Perhaps it is the contempt of a rude person: let me, their own value, does not use others to define it.

Perhaps it was the deception of Little Man: smiling, people doing, heaven is watching, taking a good way.In the world, there has never been a "big event" that has to be revealed, nor does it have to ask for a "urgency", let alone a "important thing" of black and white.

Many times, the so -called major events, urgency, and important things are the "capacity" between thoughts.

If the heart is comparative, the prosperity encounters is a barrenness; if the heart is relaxed, the cold winter of the lunar moon can also be full of spring.

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The ancients: "The wise will be humble, and the wise will be tolerant."

The pattern and tolerance are the wisdom of life:

Being able to speak, complaints will become less, and will become larger and larger;

Being able to accommodate people, the road will become wider, and the mind will become wider and wider;

If you can tolerate things, the problem will become smaller, and the horizon will become higher and higher.

For the rest of my life, a person with a big pattern, the larger the pattern, the smaller the temper, and the hardships of life and enjoying the sweetness of life.

May you and me enlarge the pattern and live peacefully in your life.

Source: Watching Night Reading (ID: zxyd999520)

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