The most advanced way of living in adults, clearing yourself

Some people say that life is like tea. When the empty cup is right, you can taste it.

The word "empty" expressed the highest state.

The cup is empty to install the water, the house is empty to live in.

The most advanced way of living in adults is to clear themselves from time to time.

Only when a person cleans himself in a timely manner can he get energy restart and give new vitality.

It is said that 90%of humans' troubles come from interpersonal relationships, and the most energy is also consumed in interpersonal relationships.

The larger the circle, the more relationships, the easier it is to be involved in it.

After people live to a certain age, they will understand that the larger the circle, the better, but the clean.

Real friends are also expensive but not expensive.

Therefore, a person's relationship network must also be cleaned in a timely manner.

For example, if there are some relationships, if you have deteriorated or make you very tired, you don't need to maintain it effort, you must clean up.

Yue Yunpeng once told him and the little story.

After his small hair became famous, he often borrowed money with him in various names such as his child to school and his mother's illness, but he only returned a part of the time when he repaid the money, and the remaining money was gone.

Later, Yue Yunpeng inquired that he didn't do a small business, and he was at home every day, and he didn't work at all.

Those excuses of borrowing money also cheated him.

So Yue Yunpeng directly gave him 10,000 yuan as a "breakup" fee, and he had broken off with him since then.

If people want to make themselves relaxed, they should be like this. Don't be dragged by unwavering relationships.

Don't consider too much, the different ways do not conspire, don't care about the opinions of others, pay attention to the tongue of others, and only follow your heart.

Smart people will not spend energy on useless social relationships, such as those wine bureaus with little meaning, no more realistic wine and meat friends.

Instead of spending energy in these useless people, it is better to use it in really important people and things.

People are able to distinguish between the main and seconds, and they are not upside down.

In fact, this world is not disturbing, but how you choose.

As Made said:

In this world, it seems that the surroundings are complicated, and people are all kinds of people and other people, but in essence, it is still your world of being alone. If you are clear, the world will be clean. If you are simple, the world will be difficult to complicate.

Therefore, the clean relationship also reflects a person's realm and cultivation.

In Zhihu, there is an interesting question: What do you admire your wife most?

A friend described his wife like this:

There is no anxiety for struggle, eating, drinking, sleeping, and playing. Without fitness, no verification, focus on work during the day, do your job well, and focus on bringing baby at night. Hee hip -hop, played with his daughter very happy, bathing for the baby, the two talked about laughter, very happy, without pain without baby. Sleep well, fall asleep, don't wake up in the middle, you can sleep until noon on the weekend. Although never exercise, it is almost not sick ...

A few simple descriptions make people feel the happy life of a woman with a good mentality.

Such people can be emptied at any time, do not entangle the past, do not bother the consequences, but only be responsible for living the moment.

One person has such a state, which is really the most admirable and the easiest type of living.

Such people will naturally not be "sick".

Feng Tang In his article "The Secret of Non -Small Cancer in Life, Just these Three Points", he used his experience of treating cancer doctors to summarize such a law:

Most of the "disease" is transformed by "disease".

The three most important points of "disease" are:

One is shameless, the other is not afraid, the third is not in a hurry.

These three points are actually talking about the problem of taking the mindset, that is,:

Don't care too much about yourself in the eyes of others.

Don't have the highest energy levels such as self -blame, regret, shame.

Everything is done, listening to the destiny, and after finishing the effort to do, let go.

Don't be afraid of all the results, and don't rush for anything.

The word "attitude", disassembling it is "a little bigger."

If you have a bigger heart, you do n’t have so many things. He always opens your heart, clear the bad emotions, and live every minute and every second.

And if the heart is not injured, the years will be unhappy, so how can people live without worry?

I heard such a story:

There is a grandma who has never wore shoes in his life.

She often walked around wearing huge shoes and looked hard.

So some people asked her why she was curious. She always said: "Both shoes and small shoes are the same price, why not buy big?"

The grandmother looks very smart: spending the same price, naturally we have to get big, otherwise it is a loss.

But she paid for her "cleverness" and did not wear the price of fitting shoes throughout her life.

This is like our life.

There were so many demands, but no one was greedy for more desires. He was busy for his own desires. As a result, he was either bullshit or the end of his desire.

There is a saying good: "There are gold in the family, but there are three meals a day, there are thousands of hectares in the family, but the night sleeps seven feet."

In fact, people's life, four characters are enough, that is: clean and contentment.

The so -called cleanliness is to abandon miscellaneous desires, live a simpler life, not be tired of it, prevent too much desire to mix your life, keep your heart clear, and know your focus. Contents are that the heart does not move blindly, and it is easy to stop, and you will not pay for your complicated desires and vanity.

The Buddhist scriptures are miserable. Life and death are fatigue, starting from greed; a few do not do, physically and mentally.

Only after the fireworks of the city well, they will eventually notice that the essence of life is a process of "turning into complication".

Avenue is the best state of life.

The great writer Shen Congwen once admitted his life to his nephew and painter Huang Yongyu.

The first one is to fall and get up quickly. Don't "appreciate" the pit you smashed.

The reason is:

Already fell, just remember the lesson of wrestling, and then continue to "appreciate" the pit. I am poor or complained about myself, and I have nothing to do, and I have broken my mood.

Furthermore, this "appreciation" will delay the future journey.

And because of a bad mood, the attention is not concentrated, it is likely to fall again.

Shen Lao told Huang Yongyu's life truth:

No matter what happened, it happened, and the past passed, no longer entangled, and don't look back.

People must have the ability to turn and restart life.

Just like the original Taiwanese idol singer Xu Junhao, the lead singer of "Kimi Boys", he injured because of accidental injuries and exited the entertainment industry. Essence

After studying for seven years, he went to Germany to study a master's degree in medical.

Now I have done a dentist and has become a model of the new industry.

His story tells us: life can come again at any time. It is useless to suffer.

Zeng Guofan once said: "Things come in response, not in love in the past."

The best life is to let go of the past and let the heart return to zero, so as to start again.

Only by letting go can the new vitality restart, and only if you let it go, can your life become wider.

Writer Bi Shumin said:

"Only by placing all your body and mind in the best state can you turn himself into a soft cotton yarn, and embrace each other with thousands of holes and thousands of times, and weave a wonderful and gorgeous life."

Only when you keep cleaning yourself, dump the dregs around, empty the garbage of the soul, put down the negative body, so that you can always maintain a best state in order to live a better life.

Author | Ai second hand, signed the author at 10 o'clock.

Picture | Visual China

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