After reading the opening speech of President Harvard, I understand what is the highest state of respect.

The same blind date is respectful.

Author: CC

Two days ago, a speech at the opening ceremony of Harvard University President Lawrence Bako brushed the screen in the circle of friends.

In his speech, he shared his own experience with the freshmen.

When he was freshman, he met a roommate, Allen.

The two people have a very different personality, and they are not pleasing to each other as soon as they meet.

Allen is tall and healthy, but he is a small man;

Allen usually live a little bit, but he must keep clean everywhere;

When Allen studied, he often opened his sound to the largest, but he only liked a quiet learning environment;

Allen likes almost all New York sports teams, but he feels annoying ...

Such things made Lawrence Bako feel that they would never be together.

But as he continued to get along, he realized that he had too much prejudice against Allen and knew little.

Allen is not only well -known, but also an excellent writer. He is also very righteous and kind.

The two of them often debate on political issues and have rarely reached an agreement, but they always respect each other and learn from each other. They have never blushed.

Even Allen also introduced his current wife -Adele.

Two people who do not speculate everywhere have gradually become close friends of their lives, and they have witnessed many important moments in each other's life.

Until now, the friendship between the two of them has continued for 53 years.

Talking about this, Lawrence Bako said with emotion:

Please do not quickly judge a person according to your appearance or your first impression. Harvard Campus is a microcosm of the real world. Each student must learn to learn from the differences. Learn to respect different opinions. The world will not be kind to you because you are a Harvard graduate.

The world is so big, everyone has their own three views and feelings.

If you can't understand, the best way is to try to tolerate and respect.

Confucius once said, "A gentleman is different."

The best cultivation of a person is to respect the person who is different from you.

1

Respect the preferences of others

Zhang Wei, a media person, has always been a person who is extremely interested in the festival.

Especially the noisy and chaotic atmosphere at the scene would make him nervous and feel inexplicable.

Therefore, whenever a friend invites him to participate in the music festival, he always refuses politely.

Compared to that kind of fanatical scene, he is more willing to stay in the room quietly, read a book, and enjoy a song.

But after the music festival starts every year, he still patiently browses the on -site map sent by friends.

Then, I was interested in discussing the singer on the stage.

He wrote the real idea in an article:

Sometimes we can't get used to others, but because they are different from us. Everyone will encounter a lifestyle that they do not understand: those who are safe and keep their own people watching Ye Ye Sheng Song; lively people look at the introverts. Do n’t oppose it because you do n’t like it.

However, how many people can allow others to like what they don't like without derogation?

Many times, we will make a "person with ourselves".

If you want to buy a house in a big city, why do you feel that those who return to the countryside are not good;

I love health, see others eating junk food, stay up late without exercise;

When you look forward to marriage, you urge others to get married and have children quickly ...

Wang Erd has a saying that he is particularly reasonable:

"Live the life you want is not selfish, asking others to live according to your own wishes."

This world is diverse. What you appreciate and like may be worthless in the eyes of others;

And what you hate and hate is likely to be a baby in the eyes of others.

The world is different, and everyone has the right to pursue their preferences.

As Zhou Guoping said: "We should remember that we may not do whatever they want, and they must not be applied to others."

When you know how to respect others, you will be respected by others.

2

Respect the choice of others

There is a term "hostile projection" in psychology, which is simply "non -intensive enemy".

As long as I think it is different, it is my enemy;

As long as I can't understand the choice of the other party, then I will prove that I am right by attacking this person, and he is wrong.

In this way, it is easy to fall into a "underlying harm mode". You step on me and I step on you and pour each other.

But people who know how to respect can be compatible even if they part ways.

Lu Xun and Lin Yutang were friends who have been intersecting for nearly ten years.

Later, the two made different choices in their personal literary trends:

Lin Yutang is a well -known humorous master, and is confident in his literary perspectives. He always expresses his dissatisfaction with reality;

However, Lu Xun believes that in the struggle of blood and fire, there is no humor at all: "As long as I live, I have to pick up the pen and respect their pistols."

In this way, they went further and farther in their minds and less and less exchanges.

Until 1936, Lu Xun died of tuberculosis.

Four days later, Lin Yutang wrote such a text:

Lu Xun won the second time with me, and the alienate was twice, which was the departure, all of which were natural ... I always respect Lu Xun; Lu Xun looked at me, I liked him to know each other, Lu Xun abandoned me, and I had no regrets. The same is the same as what they see, and it is the trace of clutch. Lu Xun and Lin Yutang, although different ideas and different choices, have never slandered each other.

Not to do the relationship between others because of each other's relationship with each other.

There is a saying that the villain is different, and the gentleman is different.

I don't necessarily agree with what you say, but I will respect the rights you express;

I don't support your approach, but I don't interfere with your choice.

Those who really have a big pattern can also accept all the differences between the other party while insisting on their own claims.

3

Respect the three views of others

In an interview, Luo Yonghao shared a transformation of his own journey.

When he was young, he was particularly disgusted with people with superstitious thoughts.

I think this is all virtual shelves, deceiving themselves.

Therefore, he is very disdainful when he sees those who believe in Feng Shui and ask God to worship the Buddha.

And none of the friends he made at that time were stained with these things.

It was not until he started his own business that he started to understand the practices of those people slowly.

The greater the career, the greater the risks and responsibilities.

Either worship God or believe in feng shui, but they are not a form of stress.

In their cognition, these are things that can disaster and disaster and drive bad luck.

Neither hurts nor hurt yourself.

After understanding this level, Luo Yonghao began to change his thoughts slowly.

Although he still didn't believe it, he began to try and accept people who were different from himself, and more and more friends around him.

In this world, we will encounter various people.

Due to the different status, position, and growth environment, naturally many people will not agree with themselves and have different opinions.

People with low levels refute when they don't agree, and they blame the words.

In the end, only two defeats will be defeated, and the two sides will not stand up.

For those who have a large pattern, they understand the same blind date, and they respect each other.

Do not take your own ruler to measure others' lives.

The German classical philosopher Kant once said:

I respect any independent soul, although I don't recognize some, but I can understand it as much as possible.

When you learn to respect others' lives and three views, while bringing warmth to others, you can also achieve better yourself.

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Knowing, there was a classic question that countless people were watching:

What kind of experience is it to more than 100 countries?

Many people underneath leave a message:

If you have been to Tibet, you will have different views on life and death, even if you are against your beliefs; if you have been to Africa and other places, you can even solve a monogamy. Multi -wife; if you have seen enough people, you will understand that there are tens of millions of concepts in this world, and there is no absolute correctness.

It is difficult for a person's eyes to be unsatisfactory, and it is likely to be the natural righteousness in the eyes of another person.

Being able to accept the three views of others and respect the way of life derived from others is the beginning of our out of ourselves and really seeing the world.

Like a praise and encourage friends.

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