When people reach middle age, learn to appreciate others

Confucius once said: "Three people, there must be my teacher."

When a person's mind always appreciates others, people and things that are not used to it will become less and less, and their hearts will become more and more open.

When bringing the comfort of the spring breeze to others, it also makes himself a person with love and light in his heart.

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Appreciation of others is a high -level cultivation.

There is such a paragraph in "The Analects of Confucius": "Soning and humans is good, and it will contrary to it, and then reconcile."

This means: Confucius sings with others. If others sang well, he will definitely let him sing aside, and then follow his tone singing.

It is conceivable how happy the singer should be.

After all, Confucius was the "celebrity" that everyone respected at the time. It was acceptable and recognized by his courtesy and modesty, which was the silent praise, which was the best promotion.

It can be seen that the practice of condensing lights and focusing to others is the greatest respect for him in interpersonal communication.

Psychologist William James once said: "The deepest fundamentals in human nature are the desire for praise."

People are eager to be appreciated and praised by others. But in real life, people always appreciate and praise others, more jealous and suppression.

For example, in the same office, a colleague is particularly dedicated and diligent, and the achievements achieved by others are not able to reach others. In this regard, colleagues congratulate the people who congratulate them are far less than those who are jealous of them.

Of course, if this colleague has been promoted, the situation will reverse again. Those who are not pleasing to him will immediately change their face and start to be packed.

Obviously, this is by no means appreciation, but a means of competition.

A person can't see that others are better than themselves, especially those who can't see themselves better than themselves. In the final analysis, they are insufficient and insufficient.

When a person starts to learn to appreciate others, he does not hesitate to encourage the eyes, a positive smile, a small likes that not only can instantly shorten the distance of a relationship, melt the ice in the hearts of others, but also allow yourself to get it. The tranquility and joy of the soul.

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Appreciation of others is a profound ability.

"Gentlemen are not different, and they are good at things." Xunzi warned people in "Persuasion".

If a person wants to achieve a great cause, you must not only have a wide range of knowledge, but also have the ability to learn from others and borrow external forces.

The reason why it can be "good and false" is derived from "wisdom to the eye", that is, appreciate the ability of others.

"Mencius" listed in many "Heaven will fall into the people, they must first suffer their minds, work hard, hungry their body skin, lack of their body, and let them go. Example of Zeng Yiqi ":

For example, Shun was sent in the acre, and Fu said that he was raised in the version of the built, the glue was raised in the fish salt, Guan Yi was held in the scholar, and Sun Shoao raised it in the sea, and Baili held it in the city.

This means: Shun was used in the field labor. Fu said that it was selected from the work of building walls. The glue was recommended in the sale of fish salt. Baili was selected from the market.

Before they became famous, they were extremely ordinary people. On the one hand, they endured hardships and ease of their appreciation. On the one hand, they were reused by appreciation.

When people reach middle age, if they have worked hard for half a lifetime, they still have a certain distance from the ideal goal. If they fail to encounter "Bole", let yourself be a "Bole".

Learning to appreciate others, whether the other party is not named or has achieved great achievements, and learn to see the flash point on the other party, just like inspiring yourself.

Speaking of the subtle strengths, the flashing spots that never be valued, and always give encouragement and support. One day, there will be outstanding and different. While achieving others, you can also make yourself gain a sense of "gifted roses and have a fragrance in hand".

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Only by appreciating others can you gain the appreciation of others.

The blessing is blessed, and the lovers love back.

A person who knows how to appreciate others can gain the appreciation of others.

I have read such a story:

When the writer Lin Qingxuan was a reporter, he reported that a thief was very delicate.

At the end of the article, he couldn't help but sigh: "Thief like the mind, such a dexterous manner, and unique style like a thief, is so stylish. If you do n’t do a thief, you will have achievements in any line?"

Unexpectedly, this sentence affected the life of the "thief".

Lin Qingxuan's appreciation touched the softest string in his heart. He reflected that he had never thought about doing business except to be a thief?

Therefore, he reborn and became a person again. A few years later, he became a big boss of an experience chain restaurant.

When Lin Qingxuan and the young man met again, they all felt sorry. Without Lin Qingxuan's appreciation, the youth may break the jar like that in his life; and the young man used actions to transform themselves, as if he was fulfilling one The "silent" agreement, his great success, in turn, is also a kind of feedback and induction of goodwill.

The originator of American interpersonal relationships, Kataki, said: "It is a good way to use the method of making people pleasing to people from time to time. Remember, what people like to praise others are things they feel unpredictable."Therefore, do not hesitate to express your appreciation of others. Sometimes, this is to send charcoal in the snow.

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End words:

When people reach middle age, everything seems to have settled, but it does not mean that we can do it once and for all.

The relationship that needs to be maintained, and still needs to be operated with heart; the cause that needs to work hard, and still needs to do my best.

At this time, we still need to continue to "external force" support and learn to appreciate others. In fact, we are also living for our younger generation.

Author: Rufeng is light and cloudy.

Your happiness, my blessing.

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