Life of the Red Mansion: How much love can I change back to the sense of security

Author:China Well -off Time:2022.06.20

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Wen | Chen Yantao

The change of Daiyu showed us the richness and complexity of human nature. Many parents want their children to be sensible and obedient, but they do not know that behind this may be the child's suppressed self and the lack of security.

In the eyes of the readers who are familiar with "Dream of Red Mansions", there have been three Lin Daiyu.

One was the careful when she first entered Jiafu, and refused to do more steps and say a word, lest Daiyu who was afraid of being laughed. She is extremely clever and cautious, observing everywhere, and everywhere. At this time, Daiyu was a lady who said with caution and gentleness.

One is Daiyu, who is "lonely and self -promised, and there is no dust under the eyes." After a few years in Jiafu, Daiyu suddenly grew into a little hedgehog with a little humorous and funny feeling. She was sensitive and self -esteem.

There is also a Daiyu, who is a bitter guidance and poetry teacher who has the patience and teachings, and is the older sister of Baoqin who comes from the air.

Why is there three different performances in the same Daiyu?

The first is because of the growth and the various of Daiyu's growth will make her reflect and understand, but another important reason for Daiyu to change is a sense of security.

If Daiyu has a parent, maybe her sense of insecurity will not be so strong. Both her and Xiang Yun felt that both their parents died so that they "had many inconsistent things in the hometown of wealthy and rich."

As an orphan woman, she is sensitive to inferiority, and she often has a sad word in poetry, so that many readers mistakenly think that Daiyu's life in Jiafu is very difficult. In the words, she finds the evidence that Daiyu is not treated well. But in fact, Daiyu's sensitive and pessimistic personality at this time did not originate from her true situation, but from her inner feelings.

As far as the situation is concerned, Shi Xiangyun, who is better than the same parents and do her uncle and work in the middle of the night, is much better, not to mention Xing Yanyan, who is also embarrassed and embarrassed to the winter.

The second stage of Daiyu began to show the true temperament, which is also because of the sense of security. Jia's mother's love and Baoyu's meticulous consideration and love, and the living environment of peace and abundance are slowly making up for the lack of security of the orphan girl. So at this time, she dared to show her edge to everyone.

In the third stage, Daiyu began to become peaceful and warm, which is also because Baoyu gave her confidence and security. After the thirty -sixth round of "distinguishing the affection and the pear fragrant courtyard", Baoyu knew about love, and it was "the tears of each person." After the long mutual temptation and suspicion, Baoyu said "you can rest assured" with "complaining lungs", and the consistent consideration and true feelings, gave Daiyu's love for love. With a sense of emotional security, Daiyu gradually relaxed and became gentle and warm.

And Baodi's "Lan Yan Jie Doubt" dispelled Daiyu's doubts and defense. Aunt Xue's "love words and comfort" made Daiyu feel the warm friendship other than Mother Jia and Baoyu. She began to try to feel the broad world outside the Xiaoxiang Pavilion, began to try to give and accept, and began to warm and peaceful.

Several obvious changes in Daiyu, in addition to showing us a great writer's intention to shape the characters, also showed us the richness and complexity of human nature. As parents, they often do not know how much their choices will have a personality impact on their children. Many people want their children to be sensible, obedient, and understand, but they do not know that behind this, maybe the child's suppressed self and lack of security.

You don't know how long it takes for your child's life to explore to no longer have psychological shadows to make life full of sunshine. We can never calculate, how much love is needed to change back to the precious sense of security.