After middle age, please set the four abilities of you

People often say that forty is not confused.

I found out that the days were still confused.

Holding a child's future in one hand, holding his parents in his later years, he walked in the hardships of the years.

But life always needs to meet the difficulties. If you have no roof, you must learn to support your own umbrella.

After middle age, he learned to set up 4 kinds of abilities and live a bright and calmness in the second half of his life.

Make money

San Mao said: "The comedy in the world can generate it without money. Most of the tragedies in the world are not related to money."

How bitter life is, you know if you lack money.

Fu Sheng, CEO of Cheetah Mobile, was hospitalized as soon as he came to Beijing.

During the hospitalization, I encountered a thing that changed his life.

His clinical patients worsened and needed surgery in urgent need, but dragged again and again because of less than 400,000 yuan.

In the end, he had to sign a borrowing agreement. The intention of the agreement was the 400,000 borrowed, and he will be repaid by his son who just went to junior high school.

The hospital quickly arranged surgery.

Fu Sheng watched him be pushed out of the operating room, but was pushed out in less than half an hour.

It turned out that he took the initiative to give up the operation.

Fu Sheng asked very puzzledly: "It can be recovered early after doing surgery early, and how can I give up the surgery fee?"

The patient smiled bitterly and shook his head: "If you don't give up, you can't give up. I was pushed in. I only knew that my disease cost was 400,000, and the rejection fee was 400,000. My son was still so small, so I had to carry 800,000 debt on the debt. How can I bear it? If you give up the surgery, you can save money. "

After hearing it, Fu Sheng was shocked by a cold sweat. He did not expect that lack of money can force people to give up the opportunity to give birth to life -saving.

He said, "Until now, I remember his expression of talking. I was afraid that one day I would become like this because I had no money, so I had to work hard to make money. This is my motivation for so many years."

When I was young, I always felt that I was tacky and thought that it was happiness when I was stable now, but when I really took the life of the family, I knew that a penny could really stum the hero.

There is a word that is very good. When people are middle -aged, they are not afraid of no one who loves, so they are afraid of making no money to earn.

The hardship of making money is far less difficult than lack of money.

Wallets are empty, where can I still be straightforward, and there are low eyebrows and hardships of gritting and gritting their teeth everywhere. Only by making more money can we fight the difficulties of life and make life decent and stable.

Taking advantage of time to earn money, you can reserve more room for life.

Source: panoramic vision

Ability

I have heard a sentence: "The life of middle -aged people is a super -out question."

Indeed, the smoothness of the middle -aged people is unexpected, and stumbling is the norm.

In the face of the bumps of fate, if the heart is irritable, it will be tripped over. If you can stabilize your mind, you can turn danger into peace.

Remember to see such a story:

Investor Chris Gardner, when he participated in the interview of Hugon Securities, was facing a crisis of bankruptcy and divorce, and he was urgently needed to get the job.

He bought a new suit for himself with only a little savings.

But on the day of the show, a competitor rushed to the podium, splashing the paint with Chris, and provoked: "What do you think of this company will recruit a suit with paint?"

Chris Gardner's face turned red instantly, but the next second, he restrained his anger and said calmly: "That must be because the guy's pants are particularly sophisticated."

His humorous answer made the interviewer laugh. His calm and intelligent way of doing things not only did not make the troublemakers succeed, but instead let the examiner look at him in another way. In the end, he successfully got his position.

Shakespeare said: "Who can keep calm in the surprise, keep stable under anger, and keep awake between anger, who is the real hero."

When people are middle -aged, they are too small in family work, and they are unexpectedly unexpected on their lives. The troubles are always unsolved, so we do n’t know how to fight.

We have complained in a hurry, hate the impermanence of life, but think about it. It is also those tricky things that have tempered our unwavering mentality. The bumps of life have unknowingly achieved our ability to poison.

In the future life, you might as well calm down and deal with it calmly; you will find that behind the seemingly unsolved issues, new surprises are often hidden.

Source: panoramic vision

Solo

When we were young, we were always afraid of loneliness, so we went to the hustle and bustle of the field, consuming a lot of time, and only gained a few scenes and wine and meat friends.

After half a lifetime, I know that life is a single wooden bridge. No one can accompany them forever. Parents will grow old. The child will travel long, the partner will leave, and the journey of life is destined to only travel alone.

Living lonely is the norm in life, and enjoying loneliness is the most beautiful gesture.

In 2012, Wang Yan became China's first architect to win the Pritzker Award.

Talking about his successful experience, he said with emotion: "I have to thank for so many years of loneliness, it allows me to think quietly."

As soon as he entered the university, when others were lingering in the dinner, he had been walking on the road of deep mountains.

Write notes, observe the magical ghost ax, and learn the high and low stations of the building. He is happy.

In the 1990s, China built a high -rise building. Many friends with their peers made a lot of money through Dongfeng, but he was far away from the lively and moved to Hangzhou alone. In the early morning, I did decoration with the craftsmen.

In Hangzhou's alone time, Wang Yan gave birth to many inspirations.

Based on these inspirations, he built a museum that could be touched by history with "tile", and used red bricks to burn the clouds on the wall to burn the clouds.

His unique aesthetic and architectural styles have been recognized by the world and became famous overnight.

The concentration and reflection of him alone, and finally made his work.

After the middle age, it is more invented that it is more useful than the front and back clusters. It is the strength of concentration of cultivation; more important than the Ukishi virtual name is the courage between the world.

Schopenhauer once said: "Only when a person is lonely can he be fully become himself."

Sometimes, God let you be empty, just to help you find your true yourself.

Perhaps reading a book to enrich the soul, maybe you go out and run, strong physique, or even sit in front of the window, the thought of precipitating your heart ...

As long as you are willing, those who have no one to ask for help can be used to quench a better self.

Source: panoramic vision

Self -consistent ability

Lu Yu told a story in "Dialogue".

A reader once wrote to her and talked about the hardships of her life.

He said, "It's really bitter to be a musician. Because you can't accept the performance, the rent can't afford it. Eat the water noodles every day. Do you say I should find a job?"

Lu Yu advised him to find a job, and he agreed.

Unexpectedly, his reply one year later was even more painful.

Soon after writing a letter, he received an invitation from the "Good Voice of China" program group. He wanted to go, and he was afraid of being eliminated.

He was annoyed by this incident. When he was looking for other jobs, he thought about the sea choice that he hadn't made.

Lu Yu looked at the letter and shook his head straight, and said helplessly, "Please think about what you want first, always twist like this, you will only miss everything."

When the world is not deeply involved, we all have a lot of expectations for life: want to show their feet in life, want to have a bright career, and stay with those who love each other ...

After half of my life, I know that life is not so simple. Most of them are the isolation and helplessness in the dark tide.

Many times, the middle -aged people's twist is not losing their fighting spirit, but because the burden on her body is too heavy, but life is as thin as ice.

In the face of an unsatisfactory life, instead of being tangled in pain and being tortured by the body, it is better to learn to consider yourself and jump out of suffering.

The happiness of life never comes from a good card, but accepted its own cards and tried to make it a good card.

Half half of the self -considers is "she", the opportunity to miss, the relationship between the dispersion, the dream ... Only the door to the obsession can open the window of the new life.

The other half is "Na". The heart is calm and accepts the difficulties of life.

The path of life is thorns. Instead of looking at the eyes, it is better to take the road under the foot. You will find that the road ahead of the road is also full of. As long as we keep walking, we will eventually reach the other side.

Zhou Guoping once said: "At a certain age, we must always learn to get along with all the peace around the world."

The years are ruthless, like engraving, and wise people know how to use this carving knife to sculpt their own brilliant life.

Efforts to make money can solve the dazzling world; calm down, can solve the urgent need; be good at being alone, you can get to time; happy to be self -consistent, you can enjoy life.

For the rest of our lives, I hope that we can laugh at life, embrace every scenery, and bring ordinary life.

Author: Bow Bridge, Gong Gongbi ink, with text as a bridge, hoping to know the interesting you in the world of words.

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