Regardless of whether couples or lover, don't take the initiative to do this. If you take the initiative, you lose

Love can be fascinating and easy to make people lose.

Especially for women, when they invest in a relationship, they will pay wholeheartedly, just to stay with their beloved people.

However, there is always a gap between reality and ideals.

Sometimes, your blindly paid and sacrifice may not be able to win ideal love, but will make the other person getting cold and not cherishing.

Just as Eason Chan sang in "Red Rose": "What you can't get will always be a commotion, and those who are preferred are not afraid."

There is nothing wrong with the love of people, but love must be limited.

Therefore, even if you love someone deeply, you must keep these three "bottom lines" and you can't touch it.

Don't be humbled again for love again

If you hold an unequal love in your hand and be injured all over the body, are you still willing to continue?

the answer is negative.

Any relationship, only one person is working hard, will be disappointed after all.

Lin Lin's boyfriend, she took the initiative to pursue, she really loved him.

Every time I chat with you, I will never leave him.

As soon as the boyfriend's circle of friends is updated, Lin Lin is always the first praise;

My boyfriend complained that the cafeteria meals are unpalatable. Linlin specializes in recipes on the Internet, and only for a long time to give him a delicious love bento;

As soon as the rest day, Linlin will take a few hours of car to wash the dirty clothes for her boyfriend for many days;

Tossed for a long time to prepare a birthday surprise for her boyfriend, Linlin just said, "He is happy."

But these efforts did not get a little grateful to his boyfriend. He even thought that all this was reasonable, and he ignored Lin Lin's feelings.

Lin Lin was accused for half an hour because he had a urgent matter for him to help him with a courier; Lin Lin had no time to send meals to play games, and he scolded on the phone.

Not only that, he also often made a joke in the face of Linlin in his friends.

Lin Lin finally understood that love without dignity has eventually become an abyss.

This kind of care of love has brought endless despair to Lin Lin, and the heart carefully worshiped, turned around and was discarded.

Love is undoubtedly beautiful, but always lifts up to a person to love someone, no matter how beautiful it is.

Because he will not be touched by you, he will only enjoy your humbleness and get used to your dedication.

At that time, it might be temporarily maintained, but it could not deceive the verification of time.

Good love has never been a unicorn, and it is not anyone who pleases who, but a two -way running in you.

After all, no matter how hot the love is, it takes a long time, and it will be injured without response.

So don't love the one who makes you desperately catch up.

Can't give you a return, it will only make you sad, then "forget it."

It is very short for a lifetime.

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Don't rely too much on love anymore

Love is like a tight rope. The tighterness, the easier it is to disconnect.

Unfortunately, many people don't understand this truth.

At the beginning of falling in love, because I was afraid of losing, I desperately wanted to seize each other, and I couldn't wait to stick together for 24 hours.

But people are like this, the more entanglement, the more they want to break away.

In the movie "Born Love", Kun Meibao, innocent and domineering, exhausted all to rely on her boyfriend Zhang Tailin to gain a sense of love.

On one occasion, her boyfriend and relatives went out to drink, and did not dare to say it, so they lied.

However, she found the bar directly along the GPS positioning in her boyfriend's mobile phone, and the two quarreled.

Regardless of whether her boyfriend is working or going out, she always calls the post on the occasion and ask him: "Where? What are you doing? Who is with?"

It even harass the friends around her boyfriend.

In order to be able to go to get off work with her boyfriend every day, she did not hesitate to spend heavy money and rent a house downstairs.

Such love is too suffocating, and her boyfriend feels that he can't get angry and just want to escape.

Love wants to be tired together. This is nothing wrong, but everything must be.

Moderate dependencies can closer the relationship between each other, but once the degree is too much, it is slowly corroding each other's love.

Migi said:

"Everyone needs independent space to digest love. Sticking together will only make love stagnate, and finally the fetus is dead."

In emotion, learn to reduce your desire to depend on, don't always think about dependence in love.

Good love should be affectionate but not entangled, close without dependence.

So, no matter how much you love, please be independent and mature. Don't treat each other as the whole of life.

Give more freedom of each other, but can promote the feelings of both parties and hold happiness in their hands.

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Don't lose yourself again

In emotion, women are always prone to emotional, especially when they meet love.

No matter how much you love each other, remember not to use yourself to achieve a relationship.

Last year, a circle of "Red High Heels" made a circle, which also allowed actors Liu Mindao to go into the public's vision again.

Few people know that Liu Mintao has been transformed into a self -confidence and free look, which has spent 37 years.

At the age of 30, she chose to get married during the rising period. She resolutely gave up her career and became the "virtuous help" of her husband.

However, life is not a fairy tale.

The 7 -year marriage life seems to be full of happiness, but in fact hidden hidden dangers.

She turned around her husband and daughter all day, busy with chai oil and salt. Unconsciously, she had lost herself, but she couldn't even get a love hug. Fortunately, she suddenly realized and walked out of this unfortunate marriage.

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After the divorce, she lived more and more sober and clear. She no longer needed to restrain herself for others, and also recovered her own rainbow sky.

Acting, on the variety show, returning to the screen, with long -lost seriousness and persistence, gradually shining and radiating.

In her spare time, she will spend time with her family, reading, drawing, traveling ...

All Liu Mintao's release and rebellion was to jump out of the world and live his own wonderful.

In fact, it is very dangerous to give up yourself for love.

Because once love becomes quality, you will not only lose love, but you will even have a state of abandonment, and you don't even have room for returning.

Therefore, don't completely rely on the breath of love, you must have the ability to draw at any time, and the self -free and free confidence.

When we were born, none of them belonged to who belonged to, and what we could live, and we must always rely on ourselves to fight.

If you want to love for a long time, don't break your wings easily.

Always strive to improve yourself and make you always have enough charm.

You will finally understand that feelings are just icing on the cake of life. It is better without it!

So, please welcome the new scenery with the best attitude and live your own light.

The lover is enough for her seven points, and the remaining three points love themselves.

Just listen to some sweet words, don't take it seriously; some vows and promise are moved, don't believe it.

The freshness of love is a limited happiness, and the independent and confident self is the eternal noodles.

May you always maintain principles in love and not lose yourself.

Then meet him who makes you feel excited, heal all your regrets and helplessness, and go to the sea of ​​stars.

Author: a uncle. Source: One Monday Book (ID: YER808). One Monday book, no matter how busy you are, you will not forget to charge.

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