Someone hates you, remember these three sentences, you will win

A person, no matter how good you are, someone always hates you.

Similarly, no matter how bad you are, someone always likes you.

This world is one thing, it is another thing to like it.

No matter how good the radish is, some people only love green vegetables.

Yang Kang is not good at it, and there is no regret for Mu Nianci.

Therefore, don't change yourself because of the good and evil of others, so that you will only lose.

Especially when others hate you, don't be frustrated, do not have to do anything, and continue to do yourself.

He hates him

Don't ask the reason

When many people find that others hate themselves, they always want to figure out the reason.

Sometimes I just ask, sometimes I ask from other parts of the corner.

No matter what method, the answer you get may not be real, and it is likely to destroy your mood.

Girlfriend has talked about one thing.

She said that she was a very good colleague. For a period of time, she suddenly did not be cold or hot, intentionally alienated her, and even targeted her in public.

Where she was, colleagues turned and left.

She was strange, reflected what she did, and felt that she had nothing wrong, and she didn't want to lose this friendship.

So one night, only two of them left the office to work overtime.

She went directly to ask:

"You seem to hate me recently, why? Where did I do something wrong, can you tell me?"

My colleague Pi Xiaoli didn't laugh: "You think too much."

Girlfriend is unwilling and continue to ask:

"No, there must be a reason, otherwise how can you suddenly be like this?"

Colleagues are a little impatient: "I'm busy, how can I have time to think about these messy things."

She asked with a sincerity and asked nothing, but the other party was grayed.

Some people say that there are only interests between colleagues and no friendship.

Her hot face posted a cold buttocks and understood one thing:

Unless the other party takes the initiative to say, don't ask if you ask, and ask if you ask.

There is a saying in the book "Far Savior":

"A relationship is broken, and it is never the real reason to say that it is never the real reason. I can't say it."

Lin Huiyin and Bingxin, were two dazzling new stars in the literary world.

At the beginning, she was like a sister and had close contacts. Later, Bing Xin gradually became jealous of Lin Huiyin, and the relationship gradually drifted away, and even issued a article to ridicule Lin Huiyin.

Because Lin Huiyin excellent in all aspects such as face value, study experience, background of foreign abroad, and social talents.

When someone asked the reason for the two people, Bingxin said lightly, "the personality is not the same", and it has been stubborn.

Therefore, people are hated and alienated, just accept it, don't ask why.

In the world of adults, there are causes of relatives and evils, and more questions will seem immature, and they are not interesting.

As Mr. Yang Yan said:

"Do yourself well, dear and follow the fate. Time will precipitate the most sincere feelings, and wind and rain will test the warmest companionship."

Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone, and don't underestimate your courage to leave anyone.

Who hates you, let him hate it, love and hate, regardless of the reason.

You hate it casually

I am not living to please you

The female poet Yu Xiuhua once interviewed.

Moderator asked:

"Many people on the Internet don't like you, and your poems, saying too vulgar, what do you think about this?"

Yu Xiuhua said: "I don't like it if I don't like it. I write poems to please them, and I don't ask them to read my poems."

Yu Xiuhua Tu Source: Baidu Encyclopedia

She has never taken the good and evil of others, and even disdain.

She only focuses on what she likes and her evaluation of herself.

This open -minded and free -cutting made her live in the height and depth of rock in her "shaking" life.

Writers Yu Hua was in her 20s and was afraid that she was not in groups and was not liked.

In order to please the people around him, he joined some small groups and enjoyed the peace of mind that was surrounded by "friends".

If others say a word, he will figure out the minds of others, and what is the voice outside the words, lest he will be wrong.

Another impatient look, he immediately reflected himself, fearing that the other party was unhappy.

Every day, be careful to look at the color, and the people around him like to listen, he says what he likes.

Later, he slowly became strong, and after having a fame, he knew he was so stupid.

He said in "Shouting in Droms":

"I hate me hate me, indicating that we are not a type of person. The twisted melon is not sweet, and there is no need to invite too many passers -by in life."

The best state between people is: I am very happy that you can like it, and you don't mind you hate it.

You hate me, it's your business.

I don't hate me, I don't care if you hate it or like it. This is my business.

Everyone is a fragment of others' lives. Why should they "cut their footsteps" to meet the tastes of others in order to please others?

There is a saying in the book "The Bad Courage":

"We are not living to satisfy the expectations of others. Determining your state of life is not anyone else, but yourself."

So, you hate it casually. I live for myself in my life, but I am not specifically pleased.

Annoyed place

Maybe it's your excellent place

There is a post on Zhihu: In the eyes of acquaintances, what is the most allowed?

A high praise answer is: In the eyes of acquaintances, there are no cattle.

Whenever you live well, you can be hated, and more than one person. Netizen@网 Share her experience.

She said that her communication records had thousands of people. Every time she posted a circle of friends, many people liked her and frequently interacted.

But once, her academic papers won an internationally award. She happily sent pictures of certificates, bonuses, and awards scenes to the circle of friends to share her joy with everyone.

Who knows, there are very few people who like it, and there are only two or three comments.

What made her unexpected was that since that day, the people around him began to leave her inexplicably.

Even a few so -called dead parties on weekdays also intentionally or unintentionally "drawing the boundaries" with her.

She suddenly became a person that everyone hated, and she was a little depressed in her heart.

That night, we talked for a long time.

She asked, "Am I really annoying? Shouldn't those things show it?"

I don't know how to answer, and I suddenly remembered a sentence of psychologist Wu Zhihong:

"It's not that you are flattering, but it's excellent."

In the book "malicious", Higashino Keigo has a thought -provoking person.

"I hate you to realize my ideals first, and I hate your superior life.

"I hate me so disdain at the beginning, and now I have a bright future.

"I also hate my own cowardice. I hate my luck enough to be enough.

"I will give you all the hate to myself, all to hate you."

Humanity is this: I can accept that you have always been mediocre, but you can't accept that you are suddenly excellent.

The better you, the more people hate you.

Unless you are so good that they are completely unpredictable, this hate will stop, and slowly becomes a meaningful admiration.

The book "Old Fox's Heart Sutra" said:

"Excellent is often scared. People will be as dirty in front of the excellent people.

The ancients also said that Mu Xiu was in Lin, and the wind would destroy it;

Therefore, self -confidence, don't be afraid of being annoying.

The place you hate is the place where you are better than them.

After chatting that night, I suddenly remembered another sentence and sent it to@那:

"What they hate is not excellent, but the excellent people around them."

At the end

Life is alive.

If you hate it, just hate it, just have a clear conscience.

Anyway, for those who hate you, no matter what you do, they will hate it.

It is better to go with him, you can do it, you can stay away, and you are happy.

Mo Yan has a paragraph that says this:

"I don't like it, just don't like it, there is no reason, just like a gust of wind. What you have to do is to pat the dust on your body and turn around and walk away."

Don't ask the reason, don't explain, don't be annoyed.

Rather than doing useless confrontations with those who hate you, it is better to leave the game chic and gallop freely in a wider world.

Finally, in the words of a netizen, we will encourage you:

"In this world, there are many bad people, terrible people, and people who don't like us.

"It doesn't matter, we work hard to leave them one day, not fighting them."

Light at the end of the text [watching], encourage everyone.

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