Nan Huaijin: You must know the amount when you speak, and do not make these three problems

1. It's difficult to speak, it's hard to speak

Confucius said: The gentleman has three crickets: the words are not enough, it is the irritability;

This is the truth of Confucius talking about being a life. There are three crickets on the gentleman. If the subordinates are right, the descendants are to the seniors, and the courtiers can be said to be a gentleman. In fact, friends are also the same. Confucius said that there are three major problems in the middle:

The first is to express yourself, love to make the limelight, and speak when you speak without your turn. This is irritability and insufficient cultivation.

The second is that when you should speak, you are afraid of responsibility without talking. This kind of person is too Yin and private, called hidden, and it is not good.

Third, when speaking, to observe the environment for the group, to observe the attitude towards individuals, the other party is worrying and pain, and to talk to him proud, or discuss major issues, you must not get good results. This is called 瞽, which is equivalent to no eyes, and I can't see it clearly!

For example, in the past, diplomacy was at the banquet. During the political corruption in the late Qing Dynasty, industry and commerce or political trading all negotiated in the brothel. For example, during the period of the Beiyang government, at that stage of Yuan Shikai and Cao Yan's bribery, some people saw a poem signed by the Canghai Taoist in the Beijing brothel. There were a lot of soda. He read it verbally. Until now, I still remember one of them said: "Whoever accepts the talents in Yanshi, Zhao Wang Aishi is also mournful. The entanglement of the people's production and the golden gold as the debt platform." How sad this is! The Beiyang government relied on foreign debt to do political trading. As a result, those unusuals who issued a wealth of wealth spent the money in the brothel. The so -called tangled bonus has spent a lot of money over the middle class. As a result, the national debts are on their backs, and they will never be clear.

There are no brothels now, just in restaurants and ballrooms. Not only are China, but also foreign countries. In the past, many large diplomatic activities in Japan were carried out in the golf courses. So now as a diplomat, these things must be played, which is equivalent to solving problems on the Mahjong table. From these facts, I know that Confucius is really deeply affectionate. Whether it is persuading others or suggestions, it is good to ask for a request. Talking about things must look at the color first. Of course, the way to talk about the color of people is very bad for bad aspects. The Buddha said it cannot be said.

2. Do not lose others, nor do they say

Zi said: You can say without saying. Can't say it with words. Those who know without losing their words.

This is the reason that it is difficult for people to live. Confucius said: A person can talk straight to him, but he is afraid of offending people, unlike Shi Yu, who is willing to speak straight to him, which is sorry for others. It is his own friend. If you see him a mistake, you will rather be a warning, and even now he can understand himself. He also recognizes that he is a friend. He can hate me. When he fails, he will think of his words. Yes, it is worthy of people. So in the case of speaking, not talking to him, sorry, should not be. Sometimes some people cannot talk straight to him. If you talk straight to him, not only waste, but also offend people. So a truly wise person should say it when you say it. Neither loses people nor a word. This principle reminds us of the story of Fan Yan seeing King Qin Zhao in history.

King Qin Zhao asked him once, twice, he did not speak, making the person who recommended him embarrassed. Fan Yan said that the plan I put forward can contribute to the Qin Kingdom immediately and strong, and dominate the world. The recommended person later reported to King Qin. Therefore, for the third time, King Qin Zhao pushed away all the official affairs, took back the left and right people, and met Fan Ye alone, and asked politely. Fan Ye said that King Qin Zhao said, and immediately published him as the Prime Minister. During the Warring States Period, there are many such things, which shows "difficulty".

It is known from the experience of life that this is the case between friends, and even between parents and husbands in the family. When the other party is unsatisfactory, ask questions to talk about it. Of course, it is unlucky. This is the wrong time. We see many young friends, as cadres of others, and touched the big nails with the chief. Come back, a complaint. In fact, the chief may have something else today. He was annoyed in his heart. He ran into cadres, reported irrelevant things, and even related to his heart, just touched his mold. The so -called: "Bo Yan talked, everywhere." Therefore, it is really difficult to speak between people and people between people and people. This is only to have a lot of life experience before it will be understood. Students in the school get along with, and colleagues in the society often encounter such things. It is not time to say, and the results are all right.

3. Word art

The Lu people are Changfu. Min Ziyi said: What is the same, what is it? Why bother to change! Zi said: Madam does not say anything, saying that there must be.

This means that Lu Guo had a financial and economic problem at that time. One of the Lu State has served as the Changfu. This "Changfu" is similar to the modern head of financial and economic, but it cannot be completely compared with the present. Now the fiscal economy is separated, and accounting is also independent. In the past, the so -called Changfu was managed by money, including finance, economy, the State Taxation Bureau, and even the audit department. These businesses were concentrated together. In other words, it is how to collect money and how to use money. At that time, the person in charge of the Changfu institution of Lu Guo probably wanted to change the system at the time. Min Ziyi spoke. He said that the system should not be easily changed, or the existing system is still used. If the change system is relatively large, and the entire society will have to fluctuate in order to be suitable for the new system. It is better to use the old system. what do you think? This is the attitude of Min Zizhen's speech. It is modest, gentle, and polite. He is a society, and he never wants to come out to be an official, and his position is over, so he said, "Why should you change it!" This is very important. We do not talk about foreign countries and study Chinese history, regardless Structural form, if it is completely changed all at once, there is almost no precedent for success at that time. This is the truth of the Book of Changes. There is only a gradual change in the world, no mutations, and mutations are going on. This is the principle of political philosophy, and it is also troublesome to study. Therefore, Min Zizheng did not advocate a momentary change system at that time, otherwise the result of mutation and society had to have problems, so after he was polite, the next conclusion "Why change", this is a major opinion of Min Zizheng politically. Later, it was passed on to his teacher Confucius, so Confucius said, "Madam is silent, there must be a word." The "lady" here is not a wife, and "husband" is the words of the words. Sound. Confucius believes that Min Zizheng is "訚訚", usually honest and honest, but this time he spoke for the interests of the country, the interests of the public, and he said very meaningful, right! As soon as he spoke, he grasped the point. This is the appreciation of Min Zizheng. However, don't just look at the words that Confucius praised Min Zizheng, but easily let go of the eight words of "lady is not talking, and there must be a word". This is what we have to learn. To say "there must be a middle", like a shooting target, when you go out, you will be in a red heart, and when you talk about the main points.

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