Reading | Parenting parents cannot just hang on their mouths

Author:Banyue talk about new media Time:2022.09.04

When I went back to my hometown, I saw my long -lost parents. Because of the epidemic, I haven't seen them for two years.

Because my parents do not use smartphones, I usually cannot connect with them, so they only judge from the occasional call, and they have changed a lot. And this time, I clearly feel that they are a lot old, especially my father, with a lot of white hair.

In the evening, I helped my mother cook and talked with her. Mother said that in the past two years, your dad's spleen has changed, and he will get angry when you don't agree, as if you have changed it.

I fell asleep the next day. After getting up at 9 o'clock, I saw my father sitting in front of the old house to make a bamboo basket.编竹器是父亲的拿手绝活，年轻时他是村里有名的篾匠，房前屋后砍回的竹子，经他的一双巧手，很快就变成一个个漂亮的竹篮、竹篓、竹The dustpan, as well as cool bamboo mats, bamboo chairs, bamboo pillows ... His craftsmanship can make the bamboo baskets densely unpredictable and hold the water!

Father can not only make all kinds of bamboo wares, but also make fast. In the past, he could be busy with people while chatting with people. With both hands flipping, those seemingly irrelevant slices and bamboo poles with uneven thickness and different lengths have formed a beautiful and strong bambooware. Essence It's amazing.

But this time, the father I saw was no longer the ingenious craftsman in memory. He moved slowly, and he stopped thinking about it from time to time. It didn't seem to confirm. During this period, the mother came to him and asked, did he make a mistake again? My father gave her a white glance and said angrily, just what you said!

He found that he had made a mistake and had to dismantle it, so he sighed and said that he was old and he couldn't accept it.

My mother took the words, isn't it? In the past, you can easily make 3 bamboo baskets a day. I can take it to the town to sell it in the morning the next morning. No one comes.

After his father listened, he immediately threw the bamboo basket in his hand and said, "You can, you come! Then he left with anger.

At noon, I accompanied my father to eat in the old house. Although it was only in May, there were already mosquitoes in the low -old house. They flew around in front of their father's eyes. He patted his palms and hit hard, but several times in a row, no one was shot.

This made him very unhappy, but turned to blame his mother to do not do the sanitation at home, which attracted mosquitoes. Then he sighed again and said, saying that it was really not used, and even a mosquito could not be hit.

After the holidays, I left home and started thinking about the reason why my father's temper became poor. Does he feel that he is getting older and less and fewer things can be controlled, and try to resist aging by trying to lose his temper? And I am usually too busy and care about him too little, and should have a certain relationship.

So I decided to make some changes for my father. I first transferred a sum of money to the cousin of my hometown, asked him to buy a smart phone for his father and helped pick up the Internet at home. Since then, I will call my father a few online video calls every week, and often deliberately ask some questions he is familiar with, saying that I need to use an article. My father was very happy after listening, always answering me with a smile, saying very vigorously. A few months later, my mother told me that your dad has a better temper, and it seems that he seems to be more and more young!

After all, a few people who can look at life and death are a minority. My father is just an ordinary country old man. It is normal for him to be afraid that aging and being ignored by his children. As children, we must truly understand the changes in their physical and mental, understand the aging they are experiencing, and give them the necessary care and support to alleviate the anxiety and weakness that they bring to them due to aging.

Honoring his parents will never hang on his mouth.