Mo Yan: Don’t be happy with those who don't like you

Author: Insight on onetong

It is difficult for a hundred people to cook for a hundred people.

A painter wants to draw a beloved painting.

He took the work to the street, put a pen, and attached a line of text:

"If you think this painting is poor, please mark it in the painting."

When he retracted the painting at night, he found that the whole painting was covered with labels. Looking at the various deficiencies pointed out, he was very lost.

The next day, the painter decided to change a way to understand everyone's preferences.

So he drew the same painting again, but this time, he asked the ornamental to make a mark in a place where he thought was good.

As a result, the place where he was once picky was replaced on the label of praise.

In fact, life is the same. No matter what you do, someone will always like you, and someone will always hate you.

If your evaluation of others is worried, it is equivalent to handing the key to happiness to others.

What is the correct approach?

Mo Yan said in "How to treat people who don't like you":

"It's like a gust of wind scratching. What you have to do is to pat the dust on your body and turn around and walk away quietly. Then, forget this person who doesn't like yourself silently."

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No matter what you do, you will be picked out by someone

Mo Yan once talked about one thing he had experienced.

Once, he asked friends to eat. After everyone was full, there were many roast ducks left on the table.

Mo Yan from a peasant did not want to waste, so he continued to eat.

At this time, a friend said: "Look at Mo Yan, you have to eat his money back."

Mo Yan was extremely embarrassing, and the meat sandwiched on the chopstick was not eaten.

After returning home, Mo Yan told his mother to his mother. The mother asked him to ask for dinner in the future and eat something.

So, when he invited to dinner again, he was full of stomachs in advance and ate very much at the banquet.

As a result, another person said, "Look at the power of Mo Yan's fake modeling, as if he can eat Jia Baoyu with the internal teeth."

Some people are ridiculed when you eat meat, and you chew slowly.

You treat others enthusiastically, some people say you are false; you are taciturn, and some people say that you are fake.

When you return to your family, some people say that you do n’t think about it; you work hard, and some people say that you are fighting for a strong victory ...

There are no absolute perfect people in this world, nor did they not be commented.

Those who love to draw hands are that no matter how good you do, they can pick out the thorn.

Just like the story of the well -known father and son riding a donkey.

Father rides a donkey, the son is holding a donkey, the father is said to be cruel;

The son rides a donkey, the father is holding a donkey, and the son is said to be filial;

The two rode a donkey together, and they were said to be too cruel to the donkey.

The last two simply came down to hold the donkey, but they would still be blamed for stupidity.

As the so -called, it is difficult for a hundred people to cook for a hundred people.

It is difficult to adjust the mouths, and the rumors are difficult to avoid. If you take the words of others, you lose.

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Don't like someone who doesn't like you anymore, throw happiness

Chen Yu, the youngest Chinese supermodel in the history of Victoria's secret, caused heated discussion when returning home.

She returned to her hometown, and someone laughed at her even if she couldn't even say her hometown.

She came to the Great Wall because she was very different, and many tourists pointed at her, and she didn't care.

Some reporters puzzled: "All the way, so many people commented on you, you seem to never care."

Chen Yu said with a smile: "The model is in the career of the spotlight. If I care too much about the views of others, I am afraid it will have been depressed."

When she first started walking on the catwalk, she was often criticized:

"What kind of thing is this?"

"Can you still be a supermodel proportion?"

Seeing these comments, her heart was not a taste.

To this end, she constantly adjusted her posture and the training became more and more hard, but the harsh sound did not decrease.

The stage that should have been pleasant to her has become a nightmare that she can't avoid.

Gradually she realized that because of a few words of others, she almost gave up her dream.

So she began to try to block the outside world and live in the heart.

Later, the state became better and better, and at the age of 19, he appeared on the stage of Victoria's Secret.

There is such a sentence in "Norwegian Forest":

"No matter what others say, your feelings are the most correct. No matter what everyone in the world thinks, you should not disrupt your rhythm."

Others are passengers, and only you are the helm of your own life.

Losing happiness in someone who doesn't like you is a person's greatest stupidity.

After winning the Nobel Prize in Literature, Mo Yan quickly became popular, but also faced various criticisms.

Many people slandered his works and abused his family. He did not publish a book for a long time, and the industry insiders began to ridicule his Jiang Lang.

But Mo Yan looked very thoroughly. "Even if there is a generation of great men, no one can be accepted by everyone, and it is lucky to be supported by most people."

He wrote in the book:

"There are always people in this world that people don't like you. This is always something that cannot be changed. Because good and bad is one thing, it is another thing to like it.

A person lives in this world, and it is the best attitude to live for those who like themselves. "

The road of life, since you can't control the mouth of others, it is better to keep your heart. When your heart is firm enough, the outside world is just a cloud of smoke.

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Do yourself well, better than please others

I like the tourist blogger Fang Qi. She always describes the beauty of the world in warm language, known as the "treasure girl".

But unlike today's stars, she has suffered many doubts when she first started to be self -media.

Netizens said that her copywriting is always a style, and speaking is always a tone.

Such doubts made her start again and again.

Later, she even tried to cater to and please, to write a guide that she was not good at, did not interested in bringing goods, and living the life she didn't like.

But one day, she suddenly received a letter from many fans: "I miss the words you used to be. When I was unhappy, I would watch your videos, because there is the best and healing words in the world."

Seeing this passage, Fang Qi suddenly realized, continued to shoot the beautiful scenery, wrote beautiful copywriting, pledged a good rhyme, and made a "Fang Qi -style" sound.

I really agree: "If people do the extreme, they will emit unique glory. Naturally, they will attract more friends with the same frequency resonance and do not need to please who."

Do yourself better than please others.

When Mo Yan just appeared in the literary world, many critics criticized his novels with complicated language. There were both classical written languages ​​and translators language. They were more local language and low style.

But Mo Yan didn't care. In his opinion, Shandong dialect was closer to Mandarin. Many native words in Shandong dialect wrote on the paper, and it would become very elegant ancient sayings.

If a unified written language is used, the article will become dead and uninteresting, so he insists on writing novels in local language.

This way of writing makes his novels meaningful, more infectious, and loves readers.

Writer Feng Tang once said:

"Dare to be yourself, dare to express yourself, and dare to please yourself. In this chaotic world, you can stand up to your position and live your own pattern."

Walking in the world is a kind of ability to please yourself, loyalty to the original heart is a state.

Going forward with a smile, walking frankly, all your beauty will come to you.

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The columnist Harvis and friends bought newspapers on the newspaper stall. Friends politely said "thank you" to the newspaper and trafficking, but the newspaper trafficking was right.

After walking away, Harvis asked: "This guy has a poor attitude, isn't it?"

My friend said, "He is like this every day."

Harchis asked: "So why are you so polite to him?"

The friend smiled: "Why do I let him decide my behavior?"

If you live for a lifetime, there are very few things that can be controlled. How can you easily give the key to happiness to others?

For the rest of your life, please clean up your mood, don't grieve yourself, don't please others, and live up to this short life.

Like a praise and encourage friends.

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