Reading | The power of trust

Author:Banyue talk about new media Time:2022.09.02

About 6 months ago, I joined a gym. At the same time every morning, when my fitness team is exercising, there will always be a personal coach appear there. He quietly executed his fitness plan, and each action was done by him, and it looked easy.

But I know how much effort he has paid. Every time I want to complain and give up, I will silently look at him, watching him forced himself to the limits of physical fitness, and draw the motivation to move forward from him.

A few weeks ago, I saw that he was practicing pulling up. He raised his body and looked effortless. I have never done my bodies up, but he is so easy to do, making my challenge cells a bit talked about, and I can't help but step forward and ask him if I can try it.

He immediately retreated and encouraged me to grab the horizontal bar. I held the horizontal bar and pulled my body hard, only to do it twice, and I used all my strength. He walked behind me and held me the third and fourth "traction". It felt really great, I seemed to feel unprecedented power.

The next day, after finishing the group exercise, I invited him to "observe" and I practiced my pull -up. In the next few days, I can only do two every time. I felt very bad, but he told me seriously that he felt that I was amazing.

He said that when they train firefighters, they would ask men firefighters to do 5 drawers, and female firefighters can do 1 to 2. In fact, most people can't even do one, so he can make two surprises and surprises at me at once. He also told me that if I persist every day, I can do five or six. By the way, I am 50 years old and I am a "old aunt".

I do n’t know much. He said that I could do it, and I did n’t doubt to try it, but it was really successful! I didn't realize how difficult the traction is upwards, it is just a tool for me to achieve fitness goals. I am grateful for the trust and encouragement of my personal coach for me. He not only provided me with a possibility, but also built a ladder of expectations to success.

How many times others told us not to, should not, don't be so high? How many times we told our children, friends, and colleagues, saying that their thoughts could not be realized at all? How many times haven't you tried it, we tell ourselves that we will fail? Such examples are endless.

I remember the conversation between the two of them before the daughter went to college. He was in good intentions. He had to pay a hundred times effort to tell his daughter that if he wanted to succeed. When he entered college, he entered a real society. She had to grow up as soon as possible. As a result, two years later, the child dropped out of school.

On the contrary, she also told her daughter that her college life was the beginning of adventure, and she was proud of her. I remember that at the time, she had prepared her daughter's clothes to participate in the graduation ceremony. Later, the child successfully completed his studies and obtained a degree in physiology.

Looking back, there is no intellectual difference in these two children. The only difference is the psychological suggestion they get?

Because of my own experience, I know how good the thoughts are tied in, and I know the importance of supporting others -let them know our trust and believe, instead of telling them not.

I want to be a person like that private coach, support, encourage, and believe in the person I love, support one when they are tired, and have been with them on the second day, the third day ... can still Continue to try.

This is a valuable lesson I learned.