There are three calamities in middle age, and they are blessed when they escape

Author: Hard See Muye

Physical self -discipline, improvement in ability, wake -up in life.

There is a question on Zhihu, what is the biggest robbery of middle -aged people?

In thousands of answers, the top three are: disease, unemployment, and unsatisfactory partner.

Anything that falls on the middle -aged people is a mountain.

When people reach middle age, the three major calamities, the sooner the better, the better, the blessing.

01 disease

Professor Liu Guoen of Peking University has done a follow -up investigation for more than 20 years and found that the key factor that determines the accumulation of a person's wealth is good health.

In the same middle -class family, there are houses and cars, and there are 200,000 deposits.

But after getting sick, unable to work, the income is zero, and it becomes the poor.

When people reach middle age, they carry their careers on their left hand and carry their families in their right hand. Without a strong physique, it is difficult to provoke these two burdens.

Some time ago, watching the variety show "Living Life" was broken by Huang Lei.

Huang Lei was uncomfortable because of his illness, fever and vomiting, and the whole person was very uncomfortable. After recovery, he shed tears at the camera.

For the reason, Huang Lei said four words: middle -aged crisis.

Huang Lei's biggest crisis comes from the child. Now he is 51 years old, and his youngest child is only 5 years old.

As a parent, you must have more time to accompany the child and witness every stage of his life.

But at this time, Huang Lei found that she was getting worse and worse, and often became sick. Occasionally, she wanted to play basketball and run, and she couldn't make it.

In order to prevent himself from getting sick, Huang Lei began to run to improve his body for a long -lasting rain and rain.

Every morning, he runs in a small park near home, and he can often see the running photos he showed on Weibo.

When recording "Life", the other guests were still asleep, but he insisted on getting up early.

Persist in exercise, let him lose more than ten pounds, and the whole person looks more refined.

The People's Daily has published an article "How many people have not survived the dangerous period of 45-55 years old":

"The age of 45-55 should be one of the golden age of life, but it is also a high risk of life. During this period, the disease is very easy to explode. The swamp land on the journey. "

When I was young, I always felt that money and status were the most important things in the world.

After middle age, you need to sort it for life and put your health first.

Persist in exercise every day, eat clean food, maintain adequate sleep, and live in an orderly life.

Only in this way can people who love you and the one you love.

02

unemployment

Luo Zhenyu once proposed a visual concept: U disk survival.

The rough meaning is that once the work is changed, you should be like a U disk, which can be inserted on the next computer at any time.

The workplace crisis of middle -aged people is often not the age crisis, but there is no skill.

When the tide of survival strikes, your skills are your lifebuilding circle.

Since the media person@自 自 has a cousin, her husband died unexpectedly in an accident. At that time, she was unemployed at home, pregnant 8 months, and a 6 -year -old daughter at home.

The neighborhood neighbors looked at the poor orphans and widows, and they all felt that their mother -in -law collapsed.

After giving birth to a child, Lin Li's cousin introduced to a housekeeping company to be a moon.

She is unwilling to pick up the dirty work, she is willing;

When others are resting, she uses all free time to learn the elderly care, baby care and massage, cooking skills, etc.

Two years later, she tried to get an intermediate -level career certificate, a professional gold medal month and a nutritionist certificate with hard work.

For every object of serving, she will make records in detail, such as the baby's feeding time period, growth and changes, the dietary preferences of Baoma, physical recovery, and so on.

Her specialty not only trained a large number of loyal returning customers for the company, but also made her salary several times. Several housekeeping companies wanted to dig her over with high salaries.

Bai Yansong once said that no matter what occupation you are engaged in, the degree of difficulty and salary level, what is important is that you must be an indispensable person in this position.

When people reach middle age, they are most afraid that they have no skills and stop learning.

My friend Lao Liao was unemployed shortly ago, which was completely in my expectation.

After graduating from college, Lao Liao went to Beijing for a few years. Later, he was forced to return to his hometown cities.

After returning from Beijing, he found a good and stable job.

But in the past ten years, his work skills have not improved, and he has been eating old books.

Some people say: "There are two sorrows in life, no longer in love after marriage, and no longer study after work."

One person is rigid and stops learning, and middle age will inevitably sing.

Learn one more skill, and you will open one more exit; how long you have skills, life has more options.

From today, there will be more charging in the workplace after middle age.

03

Unsatisfactory partner

A young man went to the store to buy a bowl. He picked up a bowl and gently hit with other bowls in turn.

The sound of each bowl is turbid. He concluded that these are not good bowls, because the sound of good bowls is crisp.

The boss smiled, picked up a bowl and handed it to him, and let him try.

Unexpectedly, the sound of this bowl and each bowl was very pleasant.

Young people are very puzzled. The boss said:

"The bowl you start to get is one of the seconds, and you use it to try the bowl sound.

If you want to get a bowl of bowls, you have to ensure that the one you get is to have a bowl. "

This truth is very profound.

When people reach middle age, many people regret marrying and marrying people in front of them. I think there are many problems with my partner.

But it is difficult for us to think that the manufacturer of the problem is exactly ourselves.

Zhang Ping, a psychological counselor, often quarreled with his wife for a while. He always depends on his wife's not pleasing to the eye and almost divorced.

He felt that his wife had too strong temper in the past two years, so he was so unbearable.

Sometimes he discussed something with his wife. Before he talked, his wife lost her patience.

In the morning, the child woke up late, or when he went out, his wife would scold as he followed him.

Why did Zhang Ping understand the gentle and water -like wife, why did he become a middle -aged villow?

One day late, he was hard to sleep. He thought that he had opened the studio with his friends in the past years and was busy starting a business. He rarely asked about things at home.

The old man was sick, and his wife was sent to the hospital; the wife was still his wife who taught the child to do homework.

He suddenly understood that it was not that the wife's temper was worse, but she was too tired.

After thinking about this, he pressed the idea of ​​divorce and tried to return to the family.

He tried to get off work as early as possible every day.

Slowly, he found that his wife had a temper, and the relationship between the two was getting better and better.

There is a saying that changing yourself is God and changing others is neuropathy.

There is no perfect partner in this world. Happy marriage is that you accommodate me and I have accommodated you.

When people reach middle age, they have a gentle spleen, a little indifferent to something, and more tolerant of their emotions, so that they can not tire for a long time.

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When people reach middle age, they caught difficulties, and their good recipes are not outside and outsiders.

And in your own, self -discipline, improvement in ability, and wake -up in life.

Like a praise and encourage friends.

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