People, I would rather be a wolf, don't be a sheep

Author: Insight on onetong

The rose was wearing a thorn, and it did not become thorns.

There is a delicious detail in "Jin Ping Mei".

On one occasion, a lady of a guy dunked the big maids of each room.

In terms of status, it is headed by the grandmother Wu Yueniang's maiden, but in the table, everyone holds Pan Jinlian's maid Pang Chunmei.

There is no reason for him, because Pang Chunmei is not easy to mess with.

Once the people in the house offended her, she immediately yelled, and Ximen Qing had a bias, and she dared to refute in person.

If you think about it, the same is true in real life.

Weak people are often deceived, and it is not easy to get more likely to win the respect of others.

So ah, people would rather be like a wolf, and don't be as soft as sheep.

01

Soft as sheep can only be slaughtered. Writer Zhou Guoping told a rogue story in the book "When You Learn".

This rogue had borrowed a sum of money from a friend and promised to pay it back a few days later.

A few days later, the friend urged him to pay back the money, but he looked unhappy and said straightforwardly, "Why do you count this way, only a few days, come to force the debt?"

The friend smiled embarrassed, thinking whether he was too harsh, so he pressed it.

In the next few years, the rogue bought a car and a house, and the life was smooth.

One day, my friend's mother was urgently needed to use money and had to use money. I had to ask for asking, but the rogue yelled: "How do you count this, how long have you been, and you still miss it?"

In the end, not only did they not pay back the money, but also said that his friend had a lot of money, not to be deeply intertwined.

Mr. Yang Yan wrote such a paragraph in "Benefits to Life":

"Sometimes, you can be a honest person who is unsuccessful, and people use you to insult you; you can bear it generously, and people will invade you to harm you."

Humanity is this. The more you go back step by step, the more unscrupulous the other party.

Too weak, only let people slaughter and be controlled everywhere.

Writer Bangni has always had a wish, hoping to return to the past and give himself a ending for many years.

When she was a child, she was short and fat, and she was stupid.

In a physical education class, a male classmate, in front of the classmate, took a basketball on her head. Although she was grieving, she chose to swallow it.

However, since then, the male classmate has treated her as a gas bag with his small group.

In the physical education class, the male classmate laughed at her running posture and asked her to pick up the ball, but from beginning to end, she did not resist, but ran to the corner after class, crying silently.

After being bullied for a long time, she began to doubt herself, so that she had resisted sports class from elementary school to universities, and even now she was afraid of doing exercise in front of others.

Whenever she thinks of this past, she will ask herself. If she was still hand, would there be no memories of this humiliation.

There is a classic line in the movie "Black List":

"Why do others dare to do bad things on you because you make people feel that doing bad things on you, you can pay any price."

Some hearts are not hot, some are destined to be unfamiliar. The weaker you are, the more you do n’t take you seriously.

02

Occasionally, you can protect yourself. Someone once asked Confucius: "What is the resentment with virtue?"

Confucius said: "Why should you report virtue? Report to resentment and virtue with virtue."

Others bullish you, but you try to influence him with morality. He will not be grateful for your benevolence, but feel that you are afraid of him.

Therefore, in the face of those who hurt us, do not blindly tolerate, occasionally wolf, and showing their teeth to protect themselves.

When Wang Yangming was 13 years old, the biological mother Zheng died, and his father continued.

The stepmother had a suspicion of Wang Yangming's heart, so she was looking for faults everywhere. With a little mistake, he punished him heavy.

Wang Yangming was polite to his stepmother, but his stepmother did not depend on, and he intensified.

Wang Yangming, who was unbearable, thought of a trick.

He knew that his stepmother believed in Buddhism, and one day he got up quietly in the middle of the night, and moved the tea tray that was originally placed in the living room to the door of the Buddhist temple. After seeing the stepmother, he suspected that there was evil.

The next day, he bought a crow and put it on the stepmother. When the stepmother sorted out the bed, he was convinced that there was a ghost. He quickly invited the witch to divination, and the witch had been bought by Wang Yangming.

"The ex -wife of Wang Chaotuan was very angry with his son's abuse, so he sued the heaven and earth. Now the emperor sent Yin Soldie to arrest your soul.

After listening, the stepmother was frightened, and quickly kneeled.

Since then, his stepmother no longer dares to treat Yangming, and even treat him as if he is out.

As the saying goes: "Tiger dew is beyond the strict snake, and the crane is bright."

In this life, there must be both the bodhisattva's low eyebrows and the means of King Kong.

Once someone has to enter the ruler and kick his nose on his face, you must want to deal with it.

Tolerance has a ruler, tolerance, you will find that the bad guys around you will become less and less.

03

I would rather be a wolf, don't be a sheep. Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said:

"We are always used to talking about sacrifice, habit to tolerate, always worrying that they will hurt others, and they are afraid of being harmed. But the reality is that no one can destroy anyone between adults. When others perceive you are a one, no one is a one, no one is a one, no one is a one, no one is a one, no one is a one. When you are a good person, you are easy to be respected, and it is easy to gain a good relationship. "

When the writer was in an internship in a company in Shanghai, he encountered a very aggressive colleague.

He is a bull dug from Wall Street and goes straight.

Whoever did not do a good job, he would immediately point out, and his words were sharp, often the listener was ashamed, even facing the boss. However, the boss mocked himself: "The more powerful people, the more temper, as a boss, there must be a amount of capacity."

Moreover, the boss intends to give him privileges.

But Daniel did not appreciate: "You can't do this, the rules should be applied to everyone, no one can exception."

Will my colleagues hate him in such a person who does not show affection?

The late love said, "No no no! We all like him very much."

I have seen a very interesting survey:

One of the people who say good and everything are good, and a person with clear edges and corners, which one will you prefer?

Most people choose the latter, why is this?

A netizen explained very well:

"Everyone has their own edges and corners, and this corner is the magnetism of a person.

The interaction between people is like a magnet, and there will always be attraction and mutual exclusion. The old man has turned himself into a non -magnetic wood because he hides his love and hate.

If each magnet finds the same kind of magnets as it is piled up, what is the difference between a lonely piece of wood from being excluded? "

The soft sheep finally became the food on the table; and the fierce wolf became the king of the field.

Only when you take yourself seriously will others really take you seriously.

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I like Gu Cheng's two small poems:

The rose was wearing a thorn, and it did not become thorns.

It is just to defend its Chunhua and not be stunned by the beasts.

Give the angular corners, and the spikes are not to hurt others, but to better protect ourselves.

As Yu Hua said: "When we treat this world fiercely, the world suddenly becomes gentle."

When you are not easy to mess with, the world will be gentle to you.

Like a praise and encourage friends.

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