Dream of Red Mansions: Li Yan, a wealthy nursing nursing, tells us the three life principles of life

In "A Dream of Red Mansions", Baoyu has a "famous saying": the girl has not married is a priceless orb; when you marry, I do n’t know how to change many bad problems. Although it is a bead, there is no glorious treasure color. Dead beads; no matter how old, it becomes not beads, but it is the eyes of the fish.

So, who is Baoyu's most hated "fish eyes"? It turned out to be his grandmother Li Yan!

Baoyu treats the racks that never set the master. Li Yan is his grandmother. Yibaoyu's character should be respectful.

Why did Baoyu hate Li Yan? We can understand three truths from her.

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On one occasion, Li Yan was holding a crutch and scolding people relentlessly in front of the girls.

The words of scolding hurt people like a sharp sword: "I just want to make makeup fox Mei Zi to coax Baoyu, coaxing Baoyu ignores me, listen to you. You are just a few two stinky silver girls ... "

The scolding person is a fairy, and she really does not have the slightest demon. What's more, she also cursed "let the pull out to match a kid."

Li Yan didn't understand her identity, did she think she was the master? Can you send off a girl at will? Intersection

The attacking people are usually gentle and smooth. This time I really aggrieved and couldn't help crying.

The attacker was originally a close -fitting girl beside Jia's mother. It can be seen that among the many girls in Rongguo Mansion, attacking people is reassuring.

Li Yan was abused, obviously he was entangled. Li Yan's wave of operation has risen to personal attacks.

In the current words, it is "not harmful and strong insult."

Li Yan is Baoyu's grandmother, which is said to be an elder. She believes that the attack was tuned by her, and now she has forgotten the righteousness and plays a big name in front of her. But from her scolding words, she couldn't see what the elders should have, but it felt like she was an old disrespect.

Thanks to Sister Feng's cleverness and kindly calling "a good mother", saying, "Do you know that you don't know the rules, and you can't get angry here?"

Sister Feng is clearly warning her: According to Jiafu's rules, slaves can't be noisy in the main room of the master! If you discipline others all day, you are noisy, it shouldn't be!

Sister Feng persuaded Li Yan to end the farce. It was given to Li Yan's face, but also cleverly pointed out that she was not.

Li Yan has been in Jiafu for many years. Can you not know the rules of Jiafu? This time the noise lost both face and losing.

Everything pays attention to "degree", "degree" is the same. Although there is only one word, it is actually difficult to grasp. Li Yan is obviously that he is not fast or too late.

For people, we must grasp the size. Some people look smooth and smooth, and everyone often thinks that they are either different or lucky. In fact, many times, they know how to know.

When people are too far away, the relationship is faded; if it is too close, the contradiction comes, so if you have intimate relationships, you must have a proportion.

As San Mao said: "Friends are intimate, and the size should not be lost; if you think you are familiar, the result is an anti -survival isolation."

02 Don't challenge the bottom line of others

Baoyu drank in Aunt Xue. Li Yan was afraid that Mother Jia and Mrs. Wang blamed blame.

Li Yan asked Aunt Xue, and Aunt Xue laughed: "Old goods! Just rest assured to drink you, I don't allow him to drink too much.

Li Yan turned to Daiyu for help, and Daiyu opened it directly.

Baoyu called "Good Mom" ​​to tell, but Li Yan used the "killer": "You can be at home at home, beware of your book!"

In this sentence, he hit Baoyu's "weakness", and he was uncomfortable in his heart, slowly put down the wine and drooped.

Li Yan is really low in emotional quotient!

She didn't think about it. Baoyu was drinking at her aunt's house. Can Aunt Xue let him drink too much? Take a step back, even if she drinks more, she has no need to take care of Aunt Xue.

It is also a grandmother, which is reminiscent of Jia Yi's grandmother Zhao Yan.

Zhao Yan wanted to find a difference for the two children. Sister Feng, like her elders, asked Zhao Yan to eat and drink.

Zhao Yan "refused to be unwilling" and only sat down on the small stool under the puppet. She was soberly aware of her identity, and it was precisely because of her humility and wisdom that she was respected by the couple of Jia Yi.

Zhao Yan knew that Sister Feng was the head of the house and deliberately worshiped. Sister Feng was full of heart, and she was full of her mouth. The work of the two sons was appropriate.

In Jiafu, the grandmother's status is very high, and there is face in front of the master. Zhao Yan easily crushed the emotional quotient and the IQ is not online, which was in sharp contrast to her.

The grandmother is second only to her mother. As far as Li Yan is concerned, Baoyu is the life of Jia's mother. She is the highest servant of Jiafu. Don't say that it is Baoyu, that is, Mother Jia and Mrs. Wang will look at her.

Judging from the relationship between people, Li Yan is Baoyu's grandmother. After Baoyu grew up, Li Gui's son Li Gui was Baoyu's personal follow -up, and the relationship between the master and servant was very harmonious. According to the truth, the three of them should be very close.

However, Li Yan held a good hand in his hands and played thin. Instead of winning Baoyu's respect, Baoyu was annoyed and disgusted! I don't care about the feelings of others. Pointing on the life of others is to challenge the bottom line of others.

Being a person to be able to settle himself, Li Yan is narcissistic and arrogant. They play the role of the commander in their lives, thinking that they can point the rivers and mountains.

Do n’t you know that in real life, everyone can avoid such people. Life is like drinking water, knowing cold and cold, and people must learn to respect each other. Do not point to others' lives, respect others, and respect yourself.

Instead of painting your own life, it is better to focus on your improvement and cultivation. This is the awe of life, and it is also a manifestation of a person's senior emotional intelligence.

03 Don't take yourself too seriously

Who has the highest status of Jiafu's grandmother? Of course it is Baoyu!

Li Yan is the old predecessor of Jiafu. She relies on the old to sell the old with this capital, showing her identity. Almost every time he appeared, the chickens and dogs were restless.

Li Yan thought that he was working hard and had an old qualification. Never use yourself as an outsider, freely enter and leave Baoyu's place. In her narrow consciousness, Baoyu's good things were left to her.

Just eating such a small thing, let Baoyu again and again.

Yuan Fei loves Baoyu most, and gives him sugar steamed crispy. Everyone knows that Baoyu is a warm man and knows that he loves to eat and leaves it specifically. After Li Yan knew, he was angry and ate.

Baoyu went to Yushi to watch the show, and saw the bun with a tofu leather bag, and brought Qingwen back. Unexpectedly, Li Yan saw Baozi, thinking that Baoyu was left for himself. Her grandson likes to eat it, so she took it away.

Baoyu wanted to drink a good maple tea in the morning, but Qian Xue handed over a new cup of tea. When I asked the original committee, I knew it was Li Yan drinking again.

Baoyu is not a person who does not understand gratitude, nor is it a person who loses his temper easily. This time, Baoyu couldn't bear it. He fell the cup on the ground in anger, and he also stunned Li Yan out of Jiafu.

Li Yan was too serious about himself, he was proud of himself, and completely anger Baoyu.

This kind of faction of Li Yan has a fight with Jiao Da in Ning Guofu.

Jiao Da, as the peers of Ning Guogong and Rong Guogong, carried the owner from the dead. After finally finding water, drinking for the owner, drinking horse urine by yourself. Indeed, the entire family contributed to the family, and was the first generation of entrepreneurial family.

When Jiao Da finished drinking, he made a mess, because his identity was special, and no one dared to provoke him.

Jiao Da hung his credit all day and scolded Jia Rong, the fifth -generation master of Ning Guofu: "I watched you grew up, causing me to make me hot, the red knife went in, and the white knife came out! "

As a servant of his hometown, saying this is too much! Later, the more he scolded, the less dislike, he was tied up and thrown in the horse circle.

Those who take themselves seriously will often imagine their own figures. I want to be recognized by others, and the reason is still unconfident. Some moves are even funny!

If it is placed today, Li Yan is like an overwhelming Internet celebrity, attacking people, Qingwen, Ping'er and others have already patted her on the beach. Her leaning on the old selling the old, making Baoyu, Miss Miss, and Madam should have disappeared about her.

Everyone has its complexity and multi -facetability, and we must not use a label to define a person.

Li Yan is not a wicked, but her behaviors are not recruited, causing gods and hates. Even the little girl doesn't like to care about her, and even says, "A big old goods!"

In ancient times, the mother did not feed their children in person. They will let the grandmother feed and take care of the children. When the children grow up, they usually respect the grandmother and use them as their confidants.

Undoubtedly, the influence of the grandmother on the child is far -reaching. Jiafu naturally wants to use the trustworthy person, and Baoyu's grandmother must be carefully selected. When Bao Yu was young, Li Yan must have devoted a lot of effort.

I have to sigh, although Li Yan has accumulated ancient times, but his heart was unsuccessful. Finally, it is really sad to live a "fish eye" for Baoyu's most hate!

Author: Caixia Man Tian, ​​Teacher. This article is the original works of the Red Building.

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