Why did the two feel more and more?

There is a "seesaw law" psychology, which is said::

The relationship between people is like a seesaw of two people; it needs to cooperate with each other to maintain a "dynamic balance" for a long time.

The same is true of marriage. In real marriage, there are too many human considerations and trivial life.

Some of the marriage are all beautiful, but some have become quarrels and feathers, and they feel more and more.

Such a marriage may not be because of lack of love, but because there are too much.

It's bored for a long time, and the pragmatic romance is flattened

Girlfriend Xiaoqiu and her husband are college classmates. After a long -distance love run into the marriage hall, Lang Cai's female appearance was once called "the combination of heaven".

But recently she cried to me, and the marriage of the two is now like a pool of dead water.

Only after chatting, they knew that their seemingly perfect marriage was full of excitement.

Before getting married, Xiaoqiu's husband remembers her birthday and all commemorative Days, and she will prepare carefully every time. The full romance makes happiness fill her heart;

After getting married, Xiaoqiu's husband became more and more perfunctory, and he no longer prepared a small surprise for her, and even forgot her birthday several times.

In the face of her frustration, Xiao Qiu's husband said the most: "The old husband and wife, what are the taboos and brains?"

In his heart, he works hard, and pragmatic support is the best love for Xiaoqiu and the family;

Buying spent money is better to give children a few more lessons;

Western wine western food is not as good as the supermarket changes to the season;

Family travel, where can there be a community bend to be actual ...

Every festival, Xiao Qiu watched others sourly in the sun, but he had nothing to find him.

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Do you feel like this in your marriage:

After 3 years of marriage, the sweetness of love has already passed, and there is no exciting hand, hug and kiss;

Five years of marriage, what 520, Valentine's Day is invisible, and the expectation becomes disappointed again and again;

After 10 years of marriage, I even forgot each other's birthday and marriage anniversary.

If marriage is the grave of love, then it is too pragmatic to be the sister -in -law of marriage, which eliminates all romance and interest, so that the other half does not have surprises and expectations.

As Murakami said: "There is no small lucky life, but it is just a desert of dry."

The more the chickens are broken, the more you want to spend a little bit about your partner.

It doesn't have to spend much money, as long as it can make the other party feel attentive.

Romance is like the preservation agent of marriage, adding a little luck to the burnout life, and often evoked the initial love and cherishment.

Emotional arrears, indifferent enthusiasm

Some psychologists believe that everyone's emotional world is like a bank, and there is a "emotional account" in their hearts.

If you are good to the other person, you will save money in the emotional account; you owe him, that is, getting money in his emotional account, or even overdraft.

Recently, I saw a set of pictures- "Daily exchanges without a trace of emotional couples", I was worried.

The daily format dialogue is the status quo of the husband and wife, no temperature dialogue, and the partner refuses his partner to thousands of miles away in minutes.

In the TV series "The Wife's Selection", Qi Miao, as an emotional expert, is reasonable to say that business marriage should be ease.

But the fact is that she and her husband Dakang have gone to the edge of the divorce.

One day, Qi Miao was busy until late at night before he dragged his tired body home. He saw Dakang sitting on the sofa alone and looked at the game expressionlessly.

He looked back at his wife, and stopped talking. Qi Miao leaned off a sentence "Sleep first" and returned to his bedroom.

With a "bang", the door was closed, and the couple each faced the darkness, just like disillusioned feelings.

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Qi Miao is a typical female strong woman. She starts the company and is on TV.

She is teaching others how to maintain marriage every day, but she does not know that her emotional account has long been overdrawn.

Dakang pointed out in a blood -stroke that Qi Miao regarded him as a shared roommate, and he couldn't even see it. He decided to end this suffocating "widowed" marriage.

As the netizen commented on the barrage: "The rupture of a marriage can not be because of domestic violence and derailment. It is just the indifference and contempt of the other half, which is enough to kill a relationship ..."

Blindly ignoring and ignoring the partner, no matter how much love, it will disappear.

It takes many years to warm a heart, but a heart is only a moment.

Don't wait for your lover to go far and regret it.

Don't worry about the initial enthusiasm, don't forget to use warm concerns to open the long -lost heart door.

Only by treating each other well can we hold hands on the sunset, watch the maple leaves fall, and enjoy the winter snow.

Different frequencies, the gap is built into a gap

In the TV series "Dajiang Dahe 2", Song Yunhui and Cheng Kaiyan were divorced by the fairy family members, but the audience did not regret it. Instead, they clapped their hands.

It stands to reason that the two have no economic crisis and the two -mother -in -law contradictory contradiction. Why did the original love that was originally affectionate finally reached the field?

In fact, many things have already been buried, and the ultimate separation is inevitable.

Song Yunhui played by Wang Kai was born in an ordinary family. In order to change his destiny, he studied hard and climbed the peak of life step by step.

From the small grassroots staff to the deputy factory director, he has not stopped growing, continuously enriched his knowledge, and expanded his pattern. Cheng Kaiyan has been used to support from a young age, and she has been used to the days of comfortable and lazy.

After Song Yunhui became the deputy factory director, in order to go hand in hand, the husband and wife were able to move together, and he deliberately transferred Cheng Kaiyan to the local job.

Whether Song Yunhui reminded Cheng Kaiyan to learn Japanese or the accounting certificate, she was perfunctory.

Her thoughts were not self -improved at all, but had a good relationship with colleagues, and her career was stagnant.

To make matters worse, most of the time she was suspicious, complaining that her husband and other women had gone too close, and repeatedly interfered with Song Yunhui's work.

She did not understand Song Yunhui's dedication to her career, and Song Yunhui was not to her.

The gap between the two is getting bigger and bigger, the psychological distance is getting farther and farther, and in the end, they can only part ways.

Source: panoramic vision

I have heard such a sentence: "The fading of all relationships in the marriage is because the frequency is different."

It's like a radio, and the channels of channels can never listen to each other's voice.

All sentient beings are like ants, floating in the sea of ​​fate, and everyone is eager to move forward lightly.

Once the people who are traveling are different, they keep consumption, and the relationship will fall apart sooner or later.

Rather than walking alone and running counter to each other, it is better to accompany each other and achieve each other.

Because, only people with the same pace can there be a way to go before, and there are years to look back.

Freshly as early marriage, but it is just a way to collect the way

Qian Yanshu said, "No matter who you marry, after getting married, you always find that you are not the original person, and change the other."

If you do n’t change yourself in marriage and change your partner, you will still repeat the same mistakes.

The freshly fresh marriage is just a choice, which is constantly running in between husband and wife in seeking common groundwork.

1. Pay attention to breathing, but suppress days

Feelings are a kind of energy flow, good marriage, can breathe freely.

As mentioned in the book "Five Languages ​​of Love":

You can prepare carefully, or express your care for your partner with the help of physical contact, praise language, etc., which are all storage of emotional value.

2. Pay attention to the sense of private domain, but the day of unlocking

Whenever they have a sense of private domain, the most full love is given to the other party, creating a private space for the two.

The agreed time, say what you want to say, let the other party understand your feelings, and understand your needs, in order to solve each other's heart knot and cure each other.

3. Pay attention to freshness, but tired days

I have heard a word: "The biggest enemy in marriage is not someone else, but a static self."

Change a hairstyle, learn a few new dishes, master a few new skills ... You will always keep the charm and inject continuous live water into the boring marriage.

someone said:

The truth of marriage is, don't expect your man to be a hero who stepped on the colorful auspicious clouds, and the heroes are also down;

Don't expect your wife to be a beautiful and kind little angel, and angels may not fly.

Men and women have their own difficulties in marriage. Relying on the efforts of one person, they cannot support the marriage of two people.

None of the couples are very suitable for their births, and they are completely co -produced, and some are just running in in the years.

May you, with a tacit attitude, positive attitude, and growing up with your lover with a positive attitude, accompanied by your lover.

Author: Mu Rou, Public Account: Rourou Crushing (ID: lovemr106). Source: Ten o'clock reading (ID: duhaoshu) a large number of national reading subscribed by 30 million people. Reprinted, please contact ten o'clock.

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