Following the second, it will only reduce the exciting points of life

Have you ever had such an experience?

When looking for a job, you can choose a job you like, but hesitated at the critical moment: "The pressure of big cities is high, or go back to my hometown. Anyway, the salary is almost the same."

At a certain age, he was persuaded by his family: "I'm not young, don't pick three more, find a person who is almost the same, get married."

When shopping, I like a piece of clothing, that is, the price is expensive. Friends suggest: "Just a piece of clothes, you don't need to spend so much money, just buy a similar one."

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So, you have repeatedly chose to retreat.

As everyone knows, every compromise and concession will make you get farther and farther from the life you want.

Everything is only "almost", which is the biggest obstacle on the road of life

Writer Chekhov said: "Deficiency of themselves is one of the fundamental characteristics of anyone who really has genius."

Anyone who has achieved achievement is high standards and strict requirements for themselves.

Everyone knows that Qi Baishi is a generation of painting masters, but in fact, his engraving skills are also very good. There is also a small story about his experience in studying seal engraving.

When Qi Baishi was young, he especially loved seal engraving, but was not very satisfied with his engraving technology.

One day, he went to visit a senior, and the seniors said to him, "You go to pick a few burdens of Chu Shi to go home, follow the grinding, follow the grinding, and wait for the carved stone powder to be filled with three or four snack boxes. Kung Fu It's home. "

This was a joke, but Qi Baishi was attentive. He really picked a few burdens of Chu Shi and put it at home, carved it, smoothed and engraved, and grinded a lot of blood bubbles in his hand.

Many people say to him: "Almost, there are not many people who know the engraving, and few people will distinguish between good and bad."

Qi Baishi was unmoved and still focused on carving. Gradually, Chu Shi at home was polished, and Qi Baishi also trained the engraving skills to be pure.

If you always feel "almost", it is easy to relax your requirements for yourself.

Every time, after the year, the distance between ordinary and excellence is opened.

In Tang Taizong's "Emperor Fan": The method is taken, only to the middle;

If you want to get a good result, you must have higher requirements for yourself.

In this world, none of the success is easy and easy to achieve, and the separation between success and failure is hard work and persistence.

If a person, if you only ask for everything, you will always lose your arms with success.

Reducing self -requirements is the biggest irresponsibility to yourself

There is a classic line of the hit drama "Beijing Women's Book": "All you do, you don't pay attention to it, you can deal with your negative energy, no matter how small, you will act on your future."

Indeed, the future is composed of every current, and time will verify everything.

My friend Xiao Xuan once told me her professional story and was deeply touched.

Xiaoxuan was a project manager in a large company.

When she first entered the company, she was very enthusiastic about her work and walked early every day, and she took the initiative to express her thoughts every time.

At that time, she joined her, and another girl Xiaomin also worked hard.

At a regular meeting, Xiaomin proposed the standardized management of projects. There were many more forms to fill in, and the process was cumbersome, which caused many people's dissatisfaction.

One day, Xiao Xuan and Xiaomin accidentally heard their colleagues discussing: "I just came so positive, I didn't want to please the boss and climb up desperately."

The two were embarrassed and always felt that colleagues were intentionally alienated.

As a result, Xiaomin changed, always saying "almost the same."

During the meeting, Xiaomin no longer took the initiative to express his opinions; every day after get off work, regardless of the work at hand, he would check in with his colleagues.

One year later, Xiao Xuan was promoted to the deputy president of the department.

And Xiaomin lost his hard work in order to "co -group", and naturally did not have any achievements in his work.

Life is like walking against the water.

Blind reduction in self -requirements is the greatest irresponsibility of yourself.

In life, there are many such scenes:

When you do something seriously, someone always jumps out and said to you, "It's almost okay, why bother so serious?"

In order not to make themselves "alternative", some people persisted and began to follow the flow.

Obviously, you can do better, but always perfunctory things with "almost" as an excuse.

When encountering difficulties, it is not to actively find solutions, but to comfort yourself with "almost" and "just take it".

Because we were afraid of failure and injury, we blindly lowered our requirements for ourselves. It was almost here, there was a little, and the gap between others and others also missed the opportunity to make ourselves better.

Life is very expensive, refuse to live a "downgrade" life

Writer Lao Yang's owl once told a story around him: while he was internship in a magazine, he met ABBY.

ABBY is the kind of person who is improving at work. Every manuscript of her supervisor requires the best, so the manuscript that is given to her will always be required to modify it repeatedly.

Someone couldn't stand it. She scolded her as "holding the feathers as an arrow", and she did not argue with the other party, and killed the manuscript directly.

It is precisely because of picky, the quality of ABBY's manuscript has always been the best in the magazine.

In terms of life, ABBY also has his own persistence. Regardless of whether the suitor is rich or has a lot of resources, he cannot get spiritual resonance and say goodbye.

She said, "Everything I do is what I want, and I will not live according to anyone's thoughts." Give up the past.

A few years later, when the author saw ABBY again, she had been forced to marry people by age and her family's pressure. In order to take care of the children, they also took the initiative to apply to the leisure department.

Although the relationship between colleagues has become harmonious and her salary is not low, she is not happy.

During the separation, ABBY said sadly, "Don't compromise easily, compromise just seem to save effort. But as long as you take a step back, even if it is a small step, it will be difficult for you to move forward."

Yes, sometimes, if you compromise once, you will be a lifetime.

Some things, one step back is the sea wide sky; but some things may be a lifelong regret.

Like the words of the words: "The so -called low -match life is the sum of the requirements of countless times."

When there is no boyfriend who has no boyfriend, I will find someone to get together; if I do n’t find my favorite job, I just find one first ...

If you do n’t get the best, choose a substitute for yourself.

However, the choice after reducing the standard will only make people regret and slowly lose your pursuit of a better life.

Conclusion

I like a word very much: "No one life is depends on retreating."

Almost, it is just an excuse for self -evasion. It is a lie of self -comfort.

When you encounter things, if you are always perfunctory, you are destined to do nothing in your life; if everything goes, you can gain a wonderful life.

There is only one life, don't live a "downgrade" life.

For the rest of my life, I hope you and I can adjust their mentality, do my best, and live the best self.

Author: Zimo, perceive in life, walk in the text.

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