Your kindness is very expensive, you must give it to the right person

What is kindness?

Some people say that when they see strangers out of their hearts, pretending not to see it is kindness;

Some people say that they see people crying, and ask a few words "What's wrong", which is also kind;

Others say that if the walls of other people's homes are about to fall, if they cannot help, it is also a kind of kindness.

Of course, this is kind, but I stubbornly think that kindness is not kind to everyone, and kindness also depends on people.

Because the kind people cannot be cold, let alone be comfortable.

Good people must be the mainstream of the times, so that it is not to live up to goodness, and it is the normal order of society.

1

During the study abroad in Spain, the writer San Mao remembered his parents. When he was doing things outside, he had to be educated.

So in the process of getting along with the dormitory girl, humble, polite, and gentle, and returned everywhere.

But three months later, San Mao not only had to pave her own bed, but also paved the bed of others. She hung the clothes that others lost, washed the dirty ground, and cleaned the waste paper that was thrown on the ground every other day.

Later, her clothes and shoes became public fashion stores. Different female classmates borrowed it every day, and even even more than a word.

Sanmao usually receives a call from different female classmates in the dormitory. Go downstairs to hot the red pants for me, I came back and changed to go out again, please ask you! "," Leave me for me "...

Later, one time, San Mao couldn't stand a group of people drinking randomly on her bed, and opened the curtain angrily. As a result, the dean was seen, and at the same time, the dean was unjustly selling contraceptives in the school. As a result, San Mao The grievances and anger touched.

She saw a broom in the corridor, grabbed the broom, and rushed back to the room. In the group of classmates, she raised the broom and called and used it together.

But the incident not only had a worse, but also reversed.

The clothes I borrowed out were still back, and I deliberately did not lay the bed and helped sort it out. Some people in the dormitory were consciously cleaned ...

And more interesting, those people actually took the horse's fart in turn.

Sanmao goes downstairs for breakfast, and some female classmates will bring her the first part of the first; before the shampooing, someone will take the initiative to help Sanmao roll; when it rains, someone will tell her to get it. Do not get cold.

You tolerate them, consider themselves beautiful and kindness, but they pinch you as soft persimmons. You put away your kindness and wear hard ice and cold armor. Instead, they come to the hot face to stick cold buttocks.

According to common sense, you should not be good to me, would I treat you well?

Why does this kind of abnormal situation occur in life?

There is a line in the movie "Black List":

"Why do others dare to do bad things on you because you make people feel that doing bad things on you, you can pay any cost."

The human heart is always like this. If he can keep asking and not to pay, he will take all the value and regardless of others.

Du Shaoqing in "The History of Rulin Wai" is generous to anyone. Basically, whoever finds him will borrow money, he will gladly agree, and then tell the borrowed person, don't consider the matter of paying money, if you are not enough to come to me again.

Therefore, the person who borrowed money for him is endless. If others do not have money, they must also make a reason to borrow money. He never accounts for the reason why those people borrow money are true or false.

Over time, everyone around him asked him for money. In the end, Du Shaoqing scattered his family money and had nothing.

Russell said: "If rationality does not exist, it is meaningless."

Goodness must be right, but more importantly, your kindness must be given to the right person.

Kind is very expensive, you must not pay wrong.

2

A restaurant owner of Jixi, Heilongjiang, was going to go to the restaurant to open the door. When she went to the door of the restaurant, she found that the snow in front of the shop had been cleaned up.

Ms. Li saw an old man with a shovel with a shovel with a curious attitude with a curious attitude.

And this old man Ms. Li knew.

It turned out that the old man was 81 years old and lived by picking up the empty bottle and carton, and Ms. Li felt that the elderly had not been easy to live. For two years, she left the old man for meals every day.

When the old man's meals are not enough, she will take the initiative to add food to the old man, especially in winter thinking that she always leaves a hot meal for the elderly.

Zhi En Tu Bao, although the elderly do a trivial matter, it can make people feel the conscience of human beings. For the society, it is extremely meaningful.

This is a thing that makes us believe in love in the world. In fact, humans and humans are not just indifferent and interests.

In fact, people's hearts change their hearts, and goodwill is mutual. When goodness meets goodness, when every kindness is not disappointed, every love has a response. This is the most beautiful world.

There is an interesting topic on Weibo: "When are you tired of being a good person?"

"I help him love the point, but he is the time to this division."

"I found that the evaluation of me behind others is weak."

"When I know that they are just looking for me when they have difficulties, but I have difficulties, but they are indifferent."

... ...

We will not be tired of being a good person for no reason. We are just chilling, and some people take goodness as a cheap occupation.

Mo Yan once told a story. I was impressed: Once the Mid -Autumn Festival, their family had a rare dumpling, and each person had only one bowl.

Just as a begging old man came to their doorstep when he ate dumplings.

Mo Yan raised half a bowl of sweet potatoes and sent him, but the beggar said angrily:

"I am an old man, you eat dumplings, but let me eat sweet potatoes. How do you grow your heart?"

You seem to be graceful, but you have different responses.

Goodness must be given to the right, because if you help a social defeat, it is equivalent to nourishing tumors. This is terrible.

High -level kindness must be to people.

3

There is such a story in "Lu's Spring and Autumn".

There is a law in Lu State. The Lu people have become slaves abroad. If anyone can redeem them, they can reimburse the ransom at the Treasury. On one occasion, Confucius' disciples redeemed a Lu country abroad and refused to collect national compensation after returning to China.

Confucius said, "Zigong did wrong. From now on, the Lu people will not redeem slaves from other countries. Receiving compensation from the country will not damage your product; No one will redeem the compatriots who have been killed again. "

Zi Lu rescued a drowning person, and the man thanked him for sending a cow, and Zilu accepted it. Confucius said happily: "The Lu people will definitely be brave to save the water."

Zigong did a good thing with his own money. He should have been a model of morality. Why did Confucius criticize him?

The error of Zigong is that the moral standards that the original people can achieve should be extended to the height that most people can reach. This will make many people look forward to the good things for redeeming people.

First of all, not everyone has money, and even if you have money, you do n’t have to think of this money, so the best way is to not redeem people, so there is no loss.

Good people can not ask for rewards, but kind people, I hope you will receive a return, because it deserves it.

In Germany, picking up someone else's things can be rewarded: Article 971 of the German Code: "Pacquone can ask the person to pay for the right of the person. It is worth five percent, exceeding this number, and more than three % is calculated. "

Only a good person has a good report, so that more good people will emerge, so that they can gather into a true healthy and friendly society.

Luo Peixin said that a healthy and rational society does not need to "shape" into heroes and moral models.

I help you, in fact, I hope to get a reward;

I picked up your things and sent it to you. In fact, I also hope to pay for it;

I gave you a basket of apples for the fruit harvest in my family. In fact, I also hope that your peaches can get a little to me;

... ...

Don't think this is ashamed, this is the true thought of most people, and I think it is reasonable and normal.

Is it a good thing to do a good thing? Doing good deeds is a good heart, and gifts are common, and there is no conflict between the two.

As long as you do not use justice to make personal gain.

The protagonists of these three stories are kind, but the results are completely different.

The example of Sanmao is more angry, but I ca n’t help but sigh when I see the results. There are really many people who specialize in softening persimmons, so kindness requires a little claw tooth. Do not grow evil forces.

The story of the restaurant's snow is undoubtedly moved. Two good people warmed the whole winter, making people feel warm.

The story of "Zigong redeeming people" and "Zilu suffer" have risen to the level of philosophy, telling us that we must worry about doing good deeds and not be willful.

These are worth thinking about. Of course, there must be no problem to do good deeds, but you can consider whether the goal is suitable and whether you need to accept returns.

We should take goodness as a choice question rather than a must -choose question.

Author: Qin Qingqing Qingqing, a member of the readers. Qinqi poetry and paintings are all like, and Chai Mi oil and salt are also happy.

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