A person's truly mature: put away Zhang Yang, accept impermanence

What to choose, we set by ourselves.

There is a question and answer on the Internet: What is a person with a mature person?

There is a praise answer underneath: "Quit sensitivity, put away the publicity, and accept impermanence."

Deeply agree that a person's true maturity is never an age growth, but a mature mind.

When we were young, we were sensitive, thought more, liked to express ourselves, but it was difficult to accept things and wishes;

Later, we appreciated the life of life, and then became more invented: maintaining low -key and bluntness, and being able to accept the impermanence of life is the beginning of a person's maturity.

The heart is indifferent, and the world is calm, which is the biggest foundation for us to face life.

01

Abstain

I wonder if you have felt like this:

When chatting, without an emoticon package, you will feel that the text is stiff and will make the other party misunderstanding;

When lying on the bed at night, you will think that you are not good at saying during the day to make the other party discomfort;

The mood every day is like a roller coaster.

Many times, it is obviously just a trivial matter, but it is enough to make us disturb our minds.

Excessive sensitivity is an unnecessary self -consumption.

The author of "The Courage of Not Care" is a psychological counselor, but at the same time, she is also a high -sensitive person who cannot ignore things around her.

Once, the neighbor's car exceeded the parking space. After she saw it, she was very angry: "This blocking parking space is not easy to go out!"

"The quality of this family is really poor, so I have to tell him to stop!"

"If I really say that to him, would he do something that made me even more happy?"

But when she thought of the picture of the parking lot, she couldn't help being angry, and even when she was working, she would worry about it.

Although she was a psychological counselor, she was troubled by her sensitive for a long time.

Until later, she saw a sentence of Greek philosopher Epik during reading:

It is not things that affect people, but people's views on things.

She suddenly realized that she thought too much, and then added a lot of trouble to life.

Life is your own. What others do have nothing to do with you. If you can't ignore it, you will only make yourself more irritable.

Later, the trust of Oshima also began to consciously remind himself to clear the boundaries of other people's affairs with his own life, and then he slowly quit his sensitivity.

I have heard a word: sensitivity is a high level of empathy.

An other person's eyes and unintentional words may be staged in your heart tens of millions of small theaters;

The wind and cranes, the plants and trees are all soldiers, and the trace of the strands can set off a huge wave.

In fact, sensitive people have never been defeated by the difficulties around them, but are dragged down by the danger of inner fantasies.

Writer Matsuura Mataro once said: "The so -called life difficulties, but you think about it, the shackles of self -setting."

A truly mature person often rarely changes in the accident, and it will not automatically bring into the role of others to worry about others.

Focusing on ourselves, bluntness and slow action are the best response to the outside world.

02

Zhang Yang

As the saying goes: Mu Xiu Yu Lin, the wind will destroy it; if you do higher than the public, you will destroy it.

When we were young, we often rushed to show ourselves, and we were proud, and therefore caused a lot of trouble.

Luo Xiang, a well -known legal scholar, is a genius teenager who is admitted to Peking University from a remote town in Hunan.

After obtaining a doctorate degree, he successfully became a professor of France.

Because the first half of the life was smooth, and some honors were added, Luo Xiang was a bit arrogant.

He looked down on anyone, and no one looked at it.

When talking to others, you are always aggressive, and you must say that the other person is speechless.

And he has many enemies for himself.

After eating a lot of losses, he slowly learned to converge.

"Ghost Valley" has a saying: "The heaven and earth, in the high and deep;

When we gradually mature, we more invented: know how to hide it and be humble and obscure, is the wisdom of a person's life.

In 2010, the well -known American magazine "Fortune" announced the latest ranking of Fortune 500 companies in 2010, and Huawei was shortlisted for the first time.

However, in the face of various interviews and meetings, president Ren Zhengfei is always avoided.

Once, at the Beijing International Telecom Show, Ren Zhengfei was receiving customers in front of the company's booth. A old man came over and asked him, "Is there any CEO Ren Zhengfei?"

Ren Zhengfei asked: "Are you looking for him?"

The man replied: "It's okay, so I want to see this legendary figure who led Huawei to today."

Ren Zhengfei replied: "It's really uncomfortable. He hasn't come here today, but I will definitely convey what you want."

Some people say: Zhang Yang is instinct, but humility is a kind of ability.

Life is alive, and no one of us predicts tomorrow. Too publicity will inevitably expose ourselves to everyone and become the target of criticism.

Keeping low -key and humbleness, cleverness, and talent is the best rule in this world.

The so -called true maturity is just after eating the secret losses of publicity, and learned to treat others with a low posture.

03

Accept impermanence

In "Dream of Red Mansions", there is a song "Hate impermanence": "Xironghua is just right, hate impermanence is here again."

This is the case in life. The moment was still the scenery, the next moment was heavy rain.

Many times, we always think about fighting with destiny, and finally defeat;

It was not until it became mature that we found that accepting it calmly is the most wise choice.

"The biggest tragedy in life is to win all opponents, but to the times." This is the evaluation of many people to Yu Minhong.

In February 2021, the market value of New Oriental exceeded 200 billion yuan and reached its peak, and the education industry also ushered in a high time.

Yu Minhong predicted: "Within 3 years, 20 billion US dollars of education companies will appear."

However, the voice did not fall, the "double reduction" policy was introduced, the education industry was hit hard, and the stock price of New Oriental should be cut down.

Coupled with students' refund, teacher resignation compensation, and teaching outlets, the new Oriental company has almost little book.

Yu Minhong once again came to his life to dark, but he did not retreat, but decisively shut down the education and training business of primary and secondary schools, and once again grasped the wind of the times, bringing the oriental selection to return to the public vision.

Some people say: Yu Minhong's entrepreneurial experience has been ups and downs, which is enough to shoot two or three "Chinese partners", because he deeply insists on the complexity of the world, and can overcome the inner anxiety and fear, and dance with uncertainty.

Born as a person, the life of life is normal, and life will not always be smooth. If you want to be comfortable, you must embrace changes with an open heart and accept impermanence.

Just as a sentence in "Half of the Flower Field": Unfortunately, it is often, loneliness is often, and it is born to taste bitterness.

The world is unpredictable. Yesterday's joy may also be the sorrow of tomorrow. Learning to see it and see through, our lives will not have too much emotion and loss.

Knowing how to be dormant in the change and accumulating power in impermanence. I believe that one day, we will stand out and usher in our own flowering period.

04

I agree with one sentence: people's life, what meets, is settled; but what we choose, we set by ourselves.

The noise of the outside world, the honor and disgrace of wearing, and the ups and downs of life are not we can control.

As we gradually mature, we will understand:

Due to the hustle and bustle of the world, you can keep your heart prosperous;

No matter what kind of glory, put away the Zhang Yang, you can be low -key without losing elegance;

Due to the ups and downs of life and impermanence, the days can calm down.

Those who are really amazing will accept the giving of destiny frankly, understand that the situation will turn around, and they can also bear fruit.

In the future, I hope you and I can have a firm heart, more mature and stable in the changes of life, and achieve a better self.

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