Why do we get more and less likely to call?

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Turn on the "Recent Call Record" in the phone. How many calls do you have to call your family and friends in the past week?

And in the WeChat that you opened 24 hours, their avatar is lying quietly in the message list, as long as you say something, that person can jump up and leave you more "near"; You, the high school classmate who is not so good to you eat for dinner, this proper distance makes you feel safe: although it is never approaching, it seems to never stay away.

Now we seem to be more willing to use short text and images as the medium of exchange, and even the sound has been eliminated.

When did you start to escape from calling?

The changes that have brought people to people, especially the influence of the Internet on young people. MIT professor and social psychologist Shirley Turker spent 15 years to collect hundreds of contemporary students First -hand research materials.

In the real dialogue again and again, Shirley tapped the desire deeply in the hearts: Today we lack a sense of security but also eager to be intimidating, so we can help technology to find a certain kind of in order to allow us to be in some kind of type Methods that can be protected in interpersonal relationships.

"Sending information through social software makes people feel a sense of security, and can show a desired self by careful consideration. Calling means that you do one thing in concentration and mean a" conversation "ability. To pass emotions, we can not let the sound disappear in life. "

Edward Hopper "Chop Suey"

Does the uninterrupted connection make us lonely? In the book "Group Loneliness", Shirley Turker made a deafening and gratifying reflection: What are you eager for us who are hiding behind the screen?

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—— The following content is taken from "Group Lonely Lonely"

SMS (or WeChat) is more secure than calling, because it can show a desired self by careful consideration.

The advantage of screen communication is, "This is a place that can be hidden." Such hidden makes communication easier. On the screen, you can write according to the person you want to be, you can imagine others as what you want, and build them according to your purpose. This is a habit of temptation, but it is also dangerous. When you develop this feeling, a call will become terrible because it will expose you too much.

Young people avoid the phone, and adults are doing this. The 46 -year -old architect Lun Daofu said that he avoided the phone because he felt "exhausted ... because the call needs to pay too much energy."

The pressure of the phone is that you often maintain it and keep it. "Olympic, how are you today?" You are trying to think about something, so that the call will not be interrupted.

SMS and instant messaging products provide a protection. You have time to think and prepare what you want to say, making you feel like your own style. Because you can do it planned, you can control how to play in front of this person, because you can choose to use words, edit before sending, or even block someone or exit.

Edward Hopper "Chop Suey"

Expressing your love or gratitude by electronic media can avoid the embarrassment of the other person's cold encounter. One of the emotional functions of electronic communication is to make people hiding behind the appearance of deliberately pretending to be.

What kind of news is "suitable" and what kind of medium, these high school students have a lot of experience. Some people may say that this is their expertise. Growing up in a free and unrestrained new media environment, they will write messages when they need it.

Vera is a sophomore student. She said that sending text messages will bring "social pressure" because when she sends text messages to others, she will feel sad. IM will make her feel uncomfortable because "if anyone does not reply to you, you can imagine that he is not here now." Although IM is designed for conversation, it is very suitable for people with unclear attitudes and can send "what is doing".

A 52 -year -old divorce said she was surprised to find that she would no longer call her friends. She is satisfied with sending emails and Facebook information. "Calling is like an invasion. I feel disrupting the lives of my friends. Similarly, if they call me, I also feel disturbed. Emailing and turning over Facebook information, I feel contacting people. I'm tired, not ready to see people. "

Edward Hopper "People in the Sun"

The barriers to call are higher. This is a general reflection of everyone. It needs to be fully focused, cannot answer other people's calls, nor can they do anything else, and also require a ability to talk. But enjoying the entire attention of others is a luxury in the Internet age.

Since online communication is safer and more comfortable. Sound, this tool that conveys human emotions, we can't disappear.

However, the real social interaction is the process of continuous construction in the interactive experience between subjects. It includes both the emotional resonance between us, but also the body's posture, facial expression and sound.

National Wenjin Book Award

"Group Lonely"

Author: (US) Shirley Turkle

Translator: Zhou Yan and Liu Jingjing about how we use technical means to create virtual "self", Shirley Turker said the best.She is the "Freud" of our technology community. Before we insight in our hearts, she clarified our inner transformation.This is an interesting book, a depth journey of insight into the future of self.

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