The less you care, the better you live

Those who stare at the abyss will eventually be swallowed by the abyss.

Author: Lodge Yebo

More than two hundred years ago, Japan's largest temple at that time was completed.

The abbot sent someone to invite a calligrapher Hong Chuan to write a plaque for the temple.

The temple was full of people who watched that day, and Hong Chuan thought: "So many people look at it, but they can't be ugly."

He lifted his pen and thought about how to start.

As a result, I wrote 84 times in a row, and I didn't write a satisfactory word, and finally had to give up.

Think of such a sentence:

The root cause of troubles is that they care too much about others without doing well.

The more you care about the outside world, the easier it is to be chaotic and the more tired you live.

Learn to let go and know how to be bleak to live a good life.

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Don't care about the evaluation of others

I have seen a story before.

A young man, who graduated for more than ten years, saw that his classmates were mixed with water, but he did nothing.

He was very puzzled, so he went to the teacher to solve the confusion.

The teacher asked him: "What have you done these years?"

Young people answered:

In the year of graduation, I liked painting, but some people said that the painter had no future, and I gave up; then I wanted to do the design. Some people said that the design was very bitter, and I would bald in the future. I did not continue to school. But some people say that you go to college and sell things, and I haven't done it.

After listening, the teacher sighed and said, "You always live in others' mouths. Where can I live wonderful?"

Schopenhauer said: "One of the most special weaknesses of human nature is that they care about how others think of themselves."

If we pay too much attention to the eyes and opinions of others, we can only make life beyond recognition in the end.

Do not take the evaluation of others to be attentive to become the helm of his own life.

In the 1970s, Zhou Meisen, who graduated from high school, was assigned to work.

Zhou Meisen loved literature since childhood, dreaming of becoming a big writer like Balzac.

For this reason, he work during the day and write a manuscript at night.

The workers all felt that he was getting angry and laughed at him: "If you can become a writer, then the world is strange."

His manuscript was sent out in a large bag and was returned by the big bag.

The number of times is more, and even the local postman starts to laugh at him. Every time he shouted across the street: "The manuscript fee (abandoned), the manuscript fee (waste)."

Faced with these evaluations and ridicule, Zhou Meisen continued to write.

Four years later, he successfully published his debut at Xinhua Daily and officially embarked on the road of writers.

In 2017, the TV series "The Name of the People" adapted from his work made him popular overnight.

It is precisely because of ignoring the evaluation of others that he is able to concentrate on his creation and eventually occupy a place in the literary world.

Haruki Murakami once said such a sentence:

What others say have nothing to do with you, although you live according to your own wishes; as long as you know what you are seeking, my life is mine, your life is yours.

The mouth grows on others, holding life in his own hands.

Pointing on the way forward, it is better to ignore it; it makes people unwilling to ridicule and forget it as soon as possible.

Learn to block the noise of the outside world, in order to take every step of life in your own rhythm.

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Don't care about the gains and losses for a while

Hemingway said: "As long as you don't care about gains and losses, there is nothing to overcome life."

Jia Pingwa told a story in an interview.

In 1997, a French translator named An Panlan suddenly found him and expressed his willingness to buy the copyright of the "Waste Capital" for $ 10,000.

At that time, the novel was controversial. He was criticized a lot and was in the lowest valley in life.

So when he heard this condition, Jia Pingwa gladly agreed and quickly signed the contract.

It didn't take long for a friend who understood French to visit. After reading the contract, he said, "Old Jia, you were deceived."

It turned out that the contract was written by 10,000 francs instead of $ 10,000 at the time, and the two were four or five times the difference.

Jia Pingwa was immediately decided to fly to Paris to fight with the other party.

My friend quickly held him and said, "Are you going to the lawsuit now, will you French? Do you have a way to ask a lawyer?"

When he heard this, Jia Pingwa was silent.

After a while, he slowly said, "Forget it, after all, the French people can see my work, after all, it is a good thing."

Soon, he left the matter behind him.

But I did not expect that a few months later, an explosive news came back to China:

The French version of "Waste Capital" has won the "Femina Literature Award" of one of the three major French Literature Awards in one fell swoop.

The award made the domestic literary world re -evaluate the "Waste Capital" and eventually affirmed its value.

Afterwards, Jia Pingwa's heart was mixed in his heart, and he did not expect that he gave up some interests, but reversed his life.

Thinking of Yu Guangzhong in "The Sad Song of Zhouzi":

"An old Bai Fan leaked half of the breeze, but attracted two or three seagulls."

Life less baht must be compared, avoiding the vortex of gains and losses of interests, in order to be more comfortable.

As Zhuangzi said: the blessing of the blessing, the blessing.

Don't care too much about temporary gains and losses, enlarge the pattern, relax your heart, and the road ahead will suddenly be open -minded.

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Don't care about past damage

In the movie "Angel Love Beauty", a middle -aged landlord wife often sighed alone in a photo.

In the photo, her husband died unfortunately in an air crash more than ten years ago.

The perspective of outsiders thinks that she is deeply righteous with her husband, and so far she has never been forgetting. But in fact, she is not loved by her husband, but a deep hatred.

It turned out that her husband lived in a foreign country before his death, fell in love with other women, and insisted on divorcing her.

Just when he came back by plane and was ready to go through the divorce procedure, he encountered a plane crash.

The husband was gone, but the damage he caused was like a piercing, deep into her heart.

She was sad every day, hard to sleep all night, and her life was not peaceful.

The cartoonist Jimi said:

I have been entangled in one thing for a long time. In the end, you are not overwhelming with things, but you can't live with yourself.

Those unforgettable things are all the thorns in your memory, which will make you suffer every moment.

Don't entangle the grievances of the past, to forgive the harm of others, but it is to let go of yourself.

A entrepreneur, once revealed a heart that buried for many years.

When he was a child, a distant uncle, who was a teacher, often took him to the podium penalty station and asked his classmates to humiliate him.

For many years, he has been resentful, and also listed a list of Zhang hatred, ranking uncle first.

Even after the death of his uncle, every time he remembered the past, he still gritted his teeth.

Until one time he drove, his uncle phantom appeared in front of him, and when he stepped on the accelerator, he almost had a car accident.

He realized how it was not worth it to be tortured by a large living person.

On the same day, he burned the hate list and felt relaxed after burning.

He frankly said: "That day, there was a feeling of getting healed from a serious illness that day."

Zhou Guoping once said:

People cannot dominate their own destiny, but they can dominate their attitude towards destiny and calmly bear the inevitable encounters on their heads.

Blindly immersing in the past damage will only make yourself deep into the mud of hatred.

Those who stare at the abyss will eventually be swallowed by the abyss.

For the old account, instead of chewing repeatedly, it is better to learn to be relieved and forget them all.

Going out of your heart and unloading your burden can you relieve yourself and live a good present life.

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I have heard a word:

"An important symbol of people's maturity is to discover that fewer and fewer things can affect themselves."

The world is complicated, and everything is destined to drag itself.

Learn to delete complexity and simplify people, light people, and lighten things in order to calmly go forward.

In the future, you may wish to see the world with your usual heart and live with a blunt feeling.

Like a praise, I hope you and I can not be troubled by foreign things, follow the inner thoughts, and live in this life in the way you want.

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