People who help you, don't invite him to dinner, learn these 3 repayment methods

British poet John Dimben once said: "No one is an islands, no one can live at all."

Everyone lives for a lifetime, and no one can be truly isolated from the world.

We will inevitably fall into difficulties and troughs, and we need to ask the outside world to trouble others.

After getting help, most people like to return each other to eat with each other.

However, the weight of a meal is too light, and it can only be used to contact feelings and cannot complain about all kindness.

Learn the following 3 repayment methods to help stabilize relationships, enhance feelings, and even benefit themselves.

I have seen a question on the Internet: What are the hidden rules of adults that are realistic?

Gao Zan answered a needle to see the blood:

How do you treat others, how others treat you, this is the law of gold;

What way others use to you, what method you use to treat him is the law of platinum.

Most of the relationships in the world are established from ritual exchanges.

Today, you can walk through the bridge where others are, and tomorrow maybe others need you to support the umbrella.

There is an impressive clip in the TV series "The World".

Zhou Bingkun couldn't find a job after his resignation, so he went to the high school classmate Cai Xiaoguang, a sister who was sister.

Cai Xiaoguang was unambiguous, and used his contacts to arrange him to a soy sauce factory with more benefits and good treatment.

Zhou Bingkun worked hard in the factory, and soon promoted his promotion due to his performance.

He always wanted to thank Cai Xiaoguang in person, but felt that invitations and gifts were not enough to express gratitude, so he had to drag again.

Later, Cai Xiaoguang caused trouble. From the director of the Propaganda Department, he reduced his job as a workshop worker, and he lost the opportunity to go to college.

When Zhou Bingkun learned of it, he immediately tried a way to support him and inquire about the door.

With his help, Cai Xiaoguang obtained a special approval in the factory and successfully entered the university for further studies.

Cai Xiaoguang, who returned from Xuecheng, became the director of the troupe and was still close to Zhou Bingkun.

When the supplies are tight, he bought the sand and cement of repairing the house for the Zhou family, and the high -quality coal for winter;

After Zhou Bingkun's move to the publishing house, he also introduced him to a group of literary predecessors.

Over time, their relationship is getting closer and closer.

In the end, Cai Xiaoguang also married Zhou Bingkun's sister, and the two really became a family.

In this world, there are no eternal strong, nor the weak.

Everyone will encounter a hurdle that cannot be across the past, and encounter the trouble that cannot be solved.

When others are shaking in the cold wind, you sprinkle a sun; when you are suffering in the scorching sun, others will also send a rain dew.

Economists have proposed a "Turtle and Rabbit Win theory":

On the land, the rabbit puts the turtle on the back;

At the river, the turtle put the rabbit on the back of the river again, and finally arrived at the end.

The best relationship between people is to achieve each other, mutual benefit and win -win.

The material feedback on the icing on the cake is far less precious than the true feelings of sending charcoal in the snow.

There are comes, helping each other, to improve each other's friendship and nourish their lives.

Writer Simon Sinek once shared a sentence:

"When you receive generosity from others, the only thing you need to do is just thanks."

And the best way to thank the other party is to be worthy of the expectations behind goodwill.

The only novel published by the writer Harper Lee was completed with the help of friends.

A few months after graduating from college, she left her hometown, with a literary dream, and went to New York alone.

But her pocket was empty, she couldn't support herself at all, she could only put down writing temporarily, and became a ticket reservation.

For 8 years, her life was filled with busy work, and repeated struggles between survival and dreams.

At that time, she lived in a friend's house, and the other party appreciated her talent, and could not bear to see her talent was buried.

So, on the eve of Christmas, a friend hung a envelope on the Christmas tree, saying it was a gift to her.

Harper Lee opened it and found that there was a check in it enough to let her live without worriedly.

She was grateful and decided to move back to her hometown town, writing carefully, and lived up to her friend's good intentions.

One year later, the novel "Killing a Bird" was born, not only won the Pulitzer's novel award, but also translated into more than 40 languages, becoming a world -renowned best -selling book.

After having fame and wealth, Harper Lee insisted on returning the money to friends.

But in her friends, her success is the biggest return on herself.

As the saying goes: Qian Yi is repaid, and it is difficult to pay.

The money or resources that others pay for you are inestimable deep friendship behind it.

Instead of repaying all the prices, it is better to be a better person, so that the other party is so comfortable.

Someone promotes you during the trough, you should make achievements desperately and do not shame the other person;

When you are confused, someone can point you, you should actively overcome the difficulties and prevent the other party from being disappointed;

When you are embarrassed, someone will fund you, you should work hard to give back the kindness to prevent the other party from chilling.

If you do not take the initiative to make a change, try to solve the problem, and the help of others is futile.

Only by being injected into the power of goodwill and living out of their own wonderfulness is it the best response to the assistant.

When you are grateful and do yourself well, you can live up to all your encounters.

In Tongchuan, Shaanxi, there is a seemingly inconspicuous lamb noodle restaurant.

The owner Xue Sanlin is kind and has a good relationship.

On weekdays, when he saw the sanitation workers who had no place to rest, he would always invite them to come in to eat a bowl of hot noodles.

In winter, he provides free hot water and sheep soup for the workers; in summer, he let them enjoy iced beverages and mineral water;

On the New Year, he also distributed condolences such as towels, soaps, gloves, etc. for free.

During the epidemic, he also took the initiative to donate and donated money, and even removed the money from foreign migrant workers and elderly people over the age of 70.

Knowing that the employees in the store worried about their children's tuition, he did not hesitate to pay the other party's salary for several months in advance.

Every time he mentioned him, the surrounding residents felt particularly kind, and they called his shops as "the family of love."

But Xue Sanlin is not a locals, and the shop has been opened for more than three years. Why does it help others?

It turned out that he was from northern Shaanxi and entered the society at the age of 16 to start a business after saving enough capital.

As a result, he repeatedly failed to do business, owed a lot of foreign debt, and relatives and friends could avoid him.

In 2018, he left his hometown and went to Tongchuan to seek development.

Once, he saw a store transfer and wanted to open a special restaurant in northern Shaanxi here.

But he didn't have enough money to rent the store, and decided to give up with discouraged.

At this point, a boss named Hu Jianhua accidentally learned his encounter.

Hu Jianhua, who was enthusiastic about public welfare, helped him solve the problem of funding.

The surrounding residents also frequently came to the store and introduced relatives and friends to come and eat together.

Everyone's kindness warmed Xue Sanlin, letting him go out of the trough, and he was full of hope for the future.

He didn't know what to return everyone. After thinking about it, he decided to help more people in trouble.

In addition to taking care of sanitation workers and actively participating in resistance, he often donates nursing homes and left -behind children.

He said firmly: "As long as I opened the shop for a day, I will pass this love."

There are many ways to be grateful, but the most powerful is to let good faith distribute to more corners.

As Xiong Hao said in "The Story of Qi Qi":

"The microman attracts the light, and the microman illuminates the light.

When you accept the kindness of others at a certain time, and when others need, the hand of assistance is the greatest return to goodness.

Because the meaning of life lies in the illustrations between people and dependence on each other.

The continuous flow of goodwill, the endless tenderness, will sooner or later benefit the benefactor and return to themselves.

Let the kindness take root and pass to a wider place, the world will never fall into barren.

I like a sentence in "Little Prince":

"Cherish those who are good to you, they can not do that."

Thanks, it is a compulsory course for life and the most valuable quality of people.

In this world, no one will treat you for no reason. All enthusiasm and generosity stems from cherish and care.

Knowing gratitude, not neglected each other's dedication, and not neglecting each other's friendship, you can get people's hearts and respect.

Always be grateful, waiting for those who have helped themselves, and the love and warmth that can be passed on to meet everything in the world.

Believe that there is gratitude in your heart, and his life is blessed.

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