"Excellence Gene": What is the magic of this book that Net Fei reads 6 times?

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Many years ago, Jim and mentor Bill co -authored a book together.

It's called "Beyond Entrepreneurship".

This book was very successful at the time, and many leaders liked it.

For example, the founder of Net Fei read the book 6 times in the early days of entrepreneurship.

And he also suggested that young CEOs: the first 86 pages of the book of this book.

"Excellence Gene" is version 2.0 of "Beyond Entrepreneurship".

It is about how some small companies grow up from excellence to excellence.

You may have such a question: "I don't have a company and don't be a leader. So why do I read this book?"

In fact, this book is to teach us first:

Live your own life.

This is the most important thing in life, none of them.

01

For Jim, Bill is his "noble".

Jim, a 25 -year -old university, met Bill who became famous at the age of 50.

When Bill saw Jim's driving force, he did not hesitate to help.

At the age of 30, he recommended him to be a professor at Stanford University Business School and taught him: how to make the best performance at the most important moment.

This behavior directly promoted Jim's first success.

Bill is very good at letting others accept his generous gift, and will make the other person feel that he is helping him.

Another time, Jim accidentally told Bill that he enjoyed the red wine he chose.

Bill knew that Jim could not afford good red wine at the time, so he decided to send him some.

Then he sent two very large wooden boxes, and there were dozens of bottles of good red wine inside.

The saying is: We encountered some small problems, the wine cellar was full, so we need to make new wines, so I want you to help you share it.

This approach made the Gim couple very warm, and Jim was really grateful and loved Bill.

Really unconditional generosity does not consume our energy.

Instead, this kind of generosity will bring greater power and love for love, which will enhance gratitude.

This is a virtuous circle.

Bill's life, many times like helping Jim to help others, so he also won the respect and love of many people.

02

trust

Yes, in life, our generosity may not always be rewarded, and there are always people who will live up to your trust.

So what is good?

Bill said, "I will think of people's best, and prepare to accept occasional disappointment at the same time."

What if someone uses your trust several times to cause damage to you?

Bill answered, there is indeed, but that is not devastating damage.

When a person is making a choice, he must also be responsible for his choice.

When we choose trust, we must also bear the consequences of trust.

Therefore, it is a very stable safety valve to never make your own life door.

If you find that someone is using your trust, you need to face the situation at this time.

The first is that your trust exceeds the scope of the other party's ability.

The other party did not want to live up to your trust, but he could not do it.

In this case, it can help the other party improve the ability.

The second is our traditionally disappointing trust, and in this case, we choose not to trust him.

It was this trust that made Bill like a magnet that gathered people beside him.

Not only do you implement higher standards, but also cultivate higher standards and quality.

Because I don't want Bill's trust to end.

This can be perfectly reference in our interpersonal relationships.

For example, get along with children. Children are more abilities and cause your trust to end, so you have to help him improve his ability.

For example, get along with your partner. If a derailment partner disappoints your trust again and again, then don't trust him anymore.

Trust is also effective.

When you continue to lower your trust threshold, your trust value will become lower and lower.

Conversely, it will become more and more precious.

03

Bill chat with Jim.

He asked Jim, who do you think more benefited in your relationship?

Jim answered, of course, it was me.

Bill said: This is exactly what I want to say.

When both people feel that when they benefit more in this relationship, this relationship is the best relationship.

Everyone can enter the relationship between themselves with friends, partners, and parents.

See if everyone wants to contribute to each other, not to get something.

Many times, we are doing transactions with the world.

If I am vegetarian, you praise me and health.

If I work, you give me a rich life.

In our cognition, this model will be default.

But in fact, our life can choose to trade constantly, or we can choose to continue to establish a relationship.

When we meet someone, we have a relationship with this person.

For example, in learning, between students and teachers, you can build a relationship that is willing to contribute to each other.

The same is true in work.

Such a relationship is the benefit of both parties, and it will form a good cycle and build a network of continuous expansion.

As the lyrics said: "If everyone presents a love, the world will become a beautiful world."

The "contribution" here comes from the will: I voluntarily build a good relationship. What about you, are you willing to establish a relationship with yourself and family and friends around you?

Just like the little fox and the little prince, domestication has become the only one in his world.

04

The author of this book, Jim, was almost worried when he wrote the first draft of "Beyond Entrepreneurship".

He wrote himself for 6 hours and threw them all into the trash. I even feel that I have no talent at all.

I feel that the process is very painful, so I go to find a way of self -discipline.

Bill laughed, and he said: If you don't like what you are doing, you can't persist for a long time. In this way, you can't really be good at.

So don't write when you can't find fun.

Bill has been very sober in life.

Because there are sudden heart disease and surgery, Bill cannot eat butter.

He often puts butter on his breakfast.

The family and friends are nervous, ask: Aren't you ca n’t eat butter?

Bill answered that even if I was pushed out of the operating room after eating butter, there must be a smile on my face, because I think my life is worthwhile.

When we feel that we already have a good life, from now on, the years are gifts, and we must make every day full of meaning.

Go to find happiness, enjoy life, and love work.

The 98 -year -old Charlie Munger still goes to work every day. There is no retirement in his world because he really enjoys the satisfaction brought by the work.

He loves work.

There is only one heroicism in the world, and that is the person who understands life and loves life.

mutual encouragement.

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