The rules of the life of adults

Have you ever been in a situation like this:

Obviously sad, but in the face of others' concerns, "I'm fine";

Obviously I was very angry, but I still told myself resolutely, forget it;

Obviously you need to accompany him, but you can only face it alone and walk alone.

Even if the soldiers were deserted, the surface was light and light, and the smile was full.

It was only at a certain age that the adult's way of life was hidden in many incoming grievances.

There was a question and answer on the Internet: "What are the most lies in adults?

There is only three words of praise: "I'm fine."

Over adulthood, we always try to use "I am okay" to cover up the fragility and grievances of our hearts.

In the TV series "The Great River", Song Yunping and his brother Song Yunhui both admitted to college, but because of his father, only one person could go to college.

Song Yunping took the initiative to give up and gave his brother a chance to go to college. He was afraid that his brother was uncomfortable. He deliberately concealed his brother and accompanied him to imagine the future.

Going to college is Song Yunping's dream. She knew from an early age that going to college was the only opportunity to change her destiny, but for her brother, she gave up her dream.

Later, she could have taken the college entrance examination again, but in order to reduce the economic pressure of her parents, she chose to give up again and concentrate on breeding long rabbits at home.

In front of people, she always had a smile on her face, saying that I was fine forever. When I was sad, I could only sneak in tears with my family.

The adult's "I'm fine", it is not really okay, but just don't want to worry about family and friends, and don't want the people around them to see their fragile side.

I once watched a video. A man was sitting on the side of the road late at night, covering his face like a child, crashing and crying.

It turned out that his old father had cancer and did four chemotherapy, and the effect was not good. He is the pillar of the family. In front of his family, he dare not show the fragile look, and even dare to cry.

He said, "I am uncomfortable. I drank some wine today and cried here while the family was not there."

After speaking, he got up, wiped his tears, patted his pants, and walked in the direction of his home. Maybe after getting home, he would squeeze a smile again, saying "I'm okay" to his family.

Adults are not really strong enough to have no emotions, but they silently collect all this.

Only when the night was quiet, and no one was around, he dared to cry.

There is a lyrics singing like this: "You are not really happy, your smile is just the protective color you wear."

When we were young, we fell down and we cried around; and now, even if we fell my head, we smiled and said, "I'm okay."

After adulthood, we are used to disguising ourselves and swallowing all the sadness and pain.

Because there are old and small, there are too many responsibilities waiting for us to carry, and there is no vulnerable qualification.

Those who run forward with tears will eventually become the strong of life.

There is a line in the movie "The Hills Blooming in the Broadman":

No one is a fool. Just sometimes, we choose to pretend to be stupid to feel the things called happiness.

Regardless of the comparison, do not expose it because you leave face for others and laid the way for yourself.

I have read such a thing in a book:

When Lai Hongxuan just graduated, he was invited to the host show of a TV station. The director watched his literary talent, so he wanted him to be a screenwriter.

After the recording of the show, the director not only did not pay for Lai Hongxuan's screenwriter, but even the good hosting fee was deducted by half.

The director handed him a receipt and said, "You sign two thousand, but in fact, I can only give you a thousand, because this show has been overdrawn."

Lai Hongxuan said nothing and signed it directly.

The director later found him several times, and each time he only gave half of the money.

In the last time, the director not only did not deduct money, but was very polite to Lai Hongxuan.

It turned out that the leaders of the news team in Tauri fancy Lai Hongxuan and decided to cultivate him to become a news anchor.

Lai Hongxuan has never been in front of others.

But the director was afraid of Lai Hongxuan to sue him because he did a loss.

Once, the director finally couldn't help it. He asked Lai Hongxuan: "Do you still mind the past?"

Lai Hongxuan laughed and waved his hand and said, "See what you said, it's all of me voluntarily."

Adults have already tuned their emotions into mute. Forget it, it is the decision they have made the most.

It is not really not angry, nor is it cowardly, but to understand that if you want to achieve your goals, you must first learn to eat the loss in front of you.

Can tolerate villains, can be achieved.

How far a person can go, not to see how much his ability is, but to see how much he can bear it.

Writer Li Ailing wrote in the book "You Are You Come":

"For those who hurt you, there is no need to remember hatred, nor does it have to be gratitude. They are not worth remembering, you don't need to waste time and spirit for this."

Rather than trying to retaliate with the annoyance, it is better to use time and energy to improve yourself.

Your glowing is the biggest revenge to those who hurt you.

Really mature people have a pattern of turning.

One issue of "Essence of OFFER3", a 23 -year -old female patient, impressed me very deeply.

Female patients are teachers, and their parents are in the field. She couldn't rush to the hospital in time. She had to come to the hospital alone and undergo craniotomy.

When the doctor asked her, "Who came with you today?"

Sitting in the corner, she said, "I came by myself." She came to the hospital by herself, communicated with the doctor, handled all procedures by herself, and signed all the lists by herself.

The night before the operation, she was lying alone on the bed, covering her face with a quilt, crying silently.

The next day, she took a long hair photo for herself. Then he looked for the shaved master alone and shaved the beautiful long hair.

Touching her bare head, holding her beloved long hair, she never resisted and cried.

Looking at her thin figure, I broke the defense, and I burst into tears.

In this world, loneliness is the norm in life, and no one will excel.

"Centennial Solitude" said:

Life has never left lonely and exists independently. Whether we are born, we grow up, we love each other or we fail, until the end, loneliness exists like a shadow in life.

It ’s not that we are born strong. There are too many ways. We need to walk alone, and we will become strong when walking.

When no one helps you, you have to escort yourself, and you have to learn to be your own airport.

If you live for a lifetime, you ca n’t escape some lonely, and some roads are destined to go alone.

Only by learning to coexist with loneliness can we become butterflies and live in their own light.

There is a saying good: "People always go through a deserted life in order to reach the inner spring flowers."

Some people say: "The growing growing, there will be more and more responsibilities and scruples. Many things always weigh the advantages and disadvantages in order to make a choice."

There are too many in the world of adults, too much helplessness.

Always say "I'm fine", I don't want to bother people;

Always "forget it", it is a peaceful person to stop the loss in time;

Always walking the "Duguqiao" because there is no one around them.

In the sea of ​​life, we can rely on ourselves.

For the rest of your life, I hope you don't need to lie, and you wish you all meet a good person, and you wish you all your wish.

Author | Xiaoxiao, pass warmth with fingertips, nourish the soul with words.

Picture | Visual China

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