People reach middle -aged: through, weaker, open, open, see clearly

Zhuangzi said: "I know that it is impossible to be peaceful, and virtue is the same."

What changes can be changed is a kind of wisdom.

Whether it is gains and losses or bitterness, it is the best arrangement of fate, and it is the most precious understanding of life.

In the second half of life, the best way to live is not everything, but to know how to see through, lightly, open, and see clearly.

01 Seeing Periodic

There is a poem in Jin Yong's "Xia Ke Xing":

"The world of heaven and earth is the rivers and lakes. The world is clever and confused.

In the world, how many people, for the sake of fame and fortune, won for a while, but lost for a while.

The real wise will not walk in the Fame and fortune, but to cultivate the chrysanthemums in the heart, and harvest the inner richness and tranquility.

The famous gourmet Cai Lan, the first half of her life was firmly tied with the movie, and produced more than 20 action movies that were popular in Asia, and became famous.

He was always unhappy and struggled between business and art.

At the age of 56, he let go of fame and fortune, turned around, left the film and television industry, and pursued a more deliberate life.

Countless people are a pity for him, but Cai Lan replied: "Life is limited, you should pursue some of his own and interesting things."

He set off again, entered the gourmet circle he loved, studied food without hesitation, wrote a 40 -year food column, and hosted a number of food programs.

Not for fame and fortune, just to live with all the best.

Being a person does not draw fame and fortune, calm down to be yourself, your mood will be open and life will be clear.

After the publishing of Mr. Lin Yutang's "Jinghua Yanyun", the hot review was like a tide, winning the Nobel Nominal Nomination Award for him.

However, Mr. Lin Yutang was not disturbed by the prestige. In his heart, the unknown "Su Dongpo Biography" was his proud work.

He never forgets the original intention of writing.

Writer Yu Juan once wrote in "Not Completed in this Life":

"People should build happiness on sustainable long -term lives, and should not just look at the short -lived fame and fortune."

Famous and fortune itself is right. The pursuit of fame and fortune is also a common sense. The fault is to pursue the pursuit of fame and fortune. It ignores the more important things in life and forget your original intention.

The short is fame and fortune.

02 See Light gains and losses

Writer Yishu said: "If you have something to lose, it is life, and you should not be uneven."

Life is vast, so why care about the gains and losses of the city and one pool.

I have read such a small story:

In ancient times, there was a greedy man who carried a large bag of gold.

But when the boat drove to the center of the river, it suddenly set off a storm, and the boat was shaking.

Seeing that the boat was about to be overturned by the wind and waves, the boatman advised him to quickly throw away the heavy golden gold.

However, he was lonely and did not listen to the advice of the boatman. He still held the gold tightly after the boat turned over. In the end, he sank into the river with the gold.

Many times, we value it too much, but it is easier to lose.

The gains and losses follow the fate, and in the ups and downs, the talents will live lighter and more comfortable.

One generation of Su Dongpo's career was ups and downs, and he was repeatedly degraded, but he still enjoyed "a smoke rain and raining".

He once wrote in "Huanxi Sand": "Xuemo milk flowers float after noon, and mushrooms of artemisia bamboo shoots try spring disk.

Even if there is only a clear tea and a vegetarian dish, he can taste the taste of life.

When he was degraded to Huangzhou, he built a house on the east slope to write a self -sufficiency, and wrote the red -roasted meat method into the poem to enjoy himself.

In his sixties, he was exiled to Hainan. A barbaric land that was not yet opened. He could also find food. Put the oyster meat into the pulp and wine and simmer. also".

He melted the frustration of his career in his life, and the bitter days of bitterness were chewed by him.

In our lives, we always wander between gains and losses, facing gains and losses frankly, and do everything, and then listen to the destiny, can we meet the most beautiful scenery.

There is a saying: "The heart does not increase or decrease, the gains and losses follow."

All sadness and joy are born from the heart, knowing how to be bleak and comfortable.

03 Watch the past

Zeng Guofan Zeng said: "In the past, not in love, not mixed now, and not to welcome the future."

The biggest pain in life is to look back frequently and regret the past.

I have read such a small story:

A woman seemed to die by the river and was rescued by the wise.

The wise man asked the reason, and the woman said sadly that after her husband died, she felt hopeless.

The wise man asked the woman: "What are you doing before you get married?"

The woman replied: "It's quite comfortable."

The wise man smiled and said, "What is the difference between when you are single when you were single now?"

I was once worried about it, and I only took the place to prison and imprisoned happiness.

Rather than fighting sorrow, it is better to learn to turn over and grasp the present.

Mr. Yang Yan's life was bumpy, but no matter what kind of situation, she was always indifferent.

In 1994, her husband Qian Zhongshu suffered from bladder cancer, right kidney atrophy and necrosis, and his body deteriorated. Soon after, her daughter Qian Qian was found late for cancer, and the surgery was weak.

Yang Yan delivered meals to her husband during the day and accompanied her daughter at night.

When a friend went to visit her, she couldn't help crying from it and pulled her hands and cried.

Yang Yan comforted her:

"Don't you understand, would he stand in front of his daughter and Zhong Shu?

Therefore, think deeply, and the pain from me may not be a bad thing. "

She talked lightly in the past. In the ten years after living alone, she organized Qian Zhongshu's draft and wrote "We". I really like such a paragraph:

"Life is like trimming flower branches. You always have to learn to cut off bad branches in order to have a lush life."

Only by seeing the pain of the past can we live up to the current food and a scoop; remove the inner negative accumulation can we embrace the happiness in front of me.

04 See the heart of the people

Writer Higashino Keigo once said:

"In this world, there are only two things that cannot be seen directly, one is the sun, and the other is human heart."

Walking in this complicated world, you have to experience the cold tea before you can see a few times.

After the vicissitudes of the world, I realized that there were many people who added cake, and few people delivered charcoal in the snow.

Fan Zhongyan was degraded out of Beijing for offending the minister Lu Yijian in his later years.

At the time of leaving, the Manchu Gate was born away, and no one came to see it.

There was only one official named Wang Zhi who was sick at home. He heard that Fan Zhongyan was going to leave. He led his brother and nephew to set up a banquet for him.

Someone asked him: "People walk cold, why not be serious?"

Wang Zhi said: "Even if Fan Gong is difficult, it is still the person I admire!"

As the saying goes: "Time knows people, it is difficult to know."

Indeed, time is the best filter, always filtering and leaving true feelings.

The biggest luck in life is: when you are in trouble, someone comes forward; when you cry, someone will accompany you as the side.

Cherish the person who supports you in the storm, and the person who pulls you in the trough is that they make us feel that everything is expected, and it is worth the world.

05

There is a saying in "Cai Gen Tan":

"The spoils are not shocked, and the flowers bloom in front of the court; go to leave unintentional, and follow the clouds and clouds."

Life is alive, there are glory and humiliation, there are gains and losses, and there are gathers and dispersions.

Rather than learn to let go of it.

Look at the fame and fortune, stay away from the hustle and bustle;

Look at the light gains, ups and downs;

Look at the past, live up to the moment;

Seeing people's hearts, dear and follow.

May we all not be trapped in fame and fortune, regardless of gains and losses, not to be in the past, and not to be cold.

Source: Jingbo Guoxue (ID: jingboguoxue)

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