Scientific authority of behavior: 4 steps for simple steps to achieve the target efficiently!

We have all heard a word:

A certain behavior can become a habit as long as it persists for 21 days.

However, the general situation is that after 21 days, most people mistakenly think that they have developed such a good habit ... The result can be imagined, that is, "the defeat in repeatedly."

Studies of behavioral scientists have found that the problem of habits only accounts for 40%of our behavior, and more than half of life and work problems cannot be solved by developing good habits. This is why even if we persist for 21 days, or longer, once loose, we will soon return to our original behavior habits.

Of course, at this time, the successful chicken soup will give the standard answer to the above questions, persist! Persistence is more powerful than you, you have to persist!

However, "willpower" is like a battery with limited power. In this place, the total amount can be called other places will become less. It is always difficult to do things that are difficult to do by willpower. Your "power" will be exhausted at all, and you can't stick to what you want to do.

So, is there a way to better change and achieve the ultimate goal?

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Make some small changes,

Your consciousness will change

The predecessor wisdom teaches us, and the change of behavior begins with consciousness.

Pick up a book inspirational or business psychological self -service book, it will tell you that if you want to overcome your fear, make a better salesperson, or have a happier life, you need to change your way of thinking.

Traditional psychotherapists may say when they teach those who want to feel better, using a phrase like "I am good, I am smart, everyone likes me so much", and give up the original negative self -dialogue.

But after years of psychological treatment, after reading many psychological self -service books, it is still difficult for us to control and change our consciousness. And it is important that you have to consume a few years, and even a lifetime to learn to change your behavior through changes.

That's because the wisdom of predecessors in this area is simply wrong. Fortunately, there is a faster and simpler way to solve the secrets of the brain and help you insist on what you want to do. "In", call this kind of psychological skills that can reset the brain as nerve memory, or it can also be called behavior.

For example, if you want to be a kind person, don't just say "I am a good person" to yourself, but to help those in need. At this time, you become a kind person, and this self -identity will make you very easy to be a kind person.

This is the logic of behavior behind the front. Nervous memory is a set of psychological skills, and it is also a way to reset thinking conveniently and quickly. They will let people know themselves again and make people insist on doing things that they can't do before. We can use behaviors to do what we want to do in the previous way, and we can use it to let others do something that is beneficial to them.

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No will require willpower,

Use behavior to win first

Regardless of whether it is changing or habit, each behavior occurs, a computing -based decision -making, because it needs to choose between "making" and "not doing". However, the brain instinct's decision -making method is not based on which choice is more beneficial to our future, but it depends on which the physiological and emotional signs caused by these two choices at this moment make us feel more comfortable or excited. Therefore, you have to "coax" the brain to make it realize that changes are feasible.

Moreover, neural memory changes our inherent cognition through such two psychological processes:

People believe that if there is no pressure to do, it is still because it is important to do something. People will adhere to this behavior in order to be consistent with the important things for themselves;

People identify by reviewing things in the past. In other words, people continue to do something because it is part of their self -image.

Therefore, it is important for willpower, but it is not the key to continuing a change. The core of insisting on doing one thing is to create a new behavior, and then connect new behaviors to positive emotions, so as to build a nerve memory to reduce the psychological resistance of changes. Only in this way can changes continue hard. In fact, those changes that can continue to continue because they persist for a period of time, there is a visible positive result.

When this positive result brings us self -recognition, sense of accomplishment, and confidence in the future, the brain will naturally connect this behavior with positive emotions. When the idea is triggered again, our resistance will be greatly reduced. When this positive emotions surpass the comfort that "do nothing" brings us, then insistence does not need to rely on willpower, and good behavior will be developed.

Although the brain is stubborn, it is very stupid. As long as we master its rules, we can control it well. So what methods can make us form nerve memory, make ourselves and others a positive and lasting psychological change, which is easier to win?

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The manufacturing behavior is the front,

4 steps to achieve the goal

① "Facing" things that make you fear

The first method of nerve memory is to face things that make you fear. Let a person get more contact with his fear, or a similar thing with a slight degree of fear can help him overcome the fear. This is scientifically supported. In a study, the researchers invited a group of heterosexual men. These people felt anxious and felt that they were not good at socializing and lacking attractiveness because they could not find the object of date. Researchers want to see if they can solve men's brains, improve their self -feelings, and improve their dating career. The researchers asked men to match with women for 12 minutes. They reported that they felt that they were not so anxious and not so afraid of social.

On the next day, the effect brought by the conversation did not disappear: Six months later, the researchers conducted a follow -up investigation of these men and found that they felt more comfortable than the original situation, and they were more comfortable to socialize, and they were more often more common. Go out and date.

Change your mobile phone or computer lock screen password is also a way to move first. For example, if you want to participate in a half -month marathon two months later, you can set the password as a running pinyin or English. When you enter the password every day, you can increase your psychology and body to recognize the running matter, and you are more likely to carry out continuous practice.

② Use action to improve your self -esteem

Most people often think that self -esteem is completely internal, but researchers have found that people's confidence and self -esteem will be affected by some seemingly irrelevant things.

A similar research examines whether people's self -esteem will be affected by "which hand to answer questions". According to the requirements of the researchers, the participants wrote down their personal qualities that are most in line with the direction of career development in the future. Half of them are required to write with common right hands (usual hands), and the other half is written with the left hand (uncomfortable hand) that is not commonly used. Most of the content they wrote are: work hard work, positive attitude, and flexible. Next, researchers asked them how confident of their overall self -esteem and how confident personal qualities listed in the answer.

As a result, students who wrote down the answer with the left hand, and the students who wrote their positive quality with their right hands were higher. The reason is that when people look back at their work, if the handwriting is scribbled and does not seem confident enough, they will lack confidence in themselves.

The use of simple means can affect our confidence. For example, when negotiating with competitors, in order to enhance your self -esteem and self -confidence, you should make strong actions. If you are sitting, lean back, look at the heights and talk about the overlapping hands behind your head; if you are standing, you need to flatten your feet on the ground and raise your head.

③ Create an identity

There is a series of studies asking people to answer the probability of their voting elections. There are two ways to say the question: "How important is going to vote for you" or "as a voter, how important it is to vote for you". Those who see the previous question are how important it is to do something for themselves; those who see the latter question are thinking about becoming a certain type of person (those who vote) How important. Let people pay attention to the identity of voters, instead of just emphasizing that they care about voting and allow people to take different actions. Those who recognize as voters are important to themselves, and the voting rate is higher.

You can also play the role you want to be through the method of "pretending to be done before you can't do it before you can't do it before." Do you want to stop procrastination? Create a self -service group or podcast who treats procrastination to become a leader of the treatment of delay teams. Teaching others how to stop procrastination can also make you easier to stop delay.

④ The easier to choose to choose

Those who voluntarily decide to do, such as determining that they want this job rather than that job, and the date of choosing to complete the task of work will have a greater probability to persist to the end and realize expectations.

This method can be called "making choices easy to accept." If you want others to accept an attitude towards something, you can provide them with a few choices and ask them to choose. If this is their decision, not yours, then they are more likely to adhere to the choice to the end.

If an APP allows users to make a choice question from the option, it actually starts using neural memory: let the user keep this decision. If people think that they have said that using this app to lose weight, they will focus on insisting on using the software to lose weight. In this way, the application has successfully won users by letting people make choices.

The key to making choices easier to accept this approach is that it must make people feel that they take the initiative to choose. If a person feels that he is forced to choose to do something, he will be counterproductive and will make him unwilling to persist.

In the end, if you find that your life starts to become a mess, you can't keep doing something, please calm down and ask your status and understand your state.

In any case, we can't wait for everything. Looking forward to your actions.

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