53 -year -old Liu Ruoying: People are middle -aged and no longer be crazy for love

Do you often feel lonely?

Writer Zhou Guoping said: "Loneliness is a great gift."

In this one -way journey in life, you have come and go all the guests.

I often feel lonely and sometimes cure.

There are two types of people on the road, one, thinking about the destination, and unwilling to appreciate the scenery; the other is that even if you take the wrong car, you can also appreciate the scenery along the way.

Liu Ruoying said she belongs to the latter.

Once upon a time, she was the woman crying for love and love.

Now that people are middle -aged, she finally understands the relationship between love and loneliness.

The changes of this years are experience, practice, and flowering process.

General of General

"I grew up with my grandparents. No doubt, I am the little ancestor at home.

Because the father -in -law was a general, his deputy named me as a "general's general". From this we can see how my father who was born in the battlefield and died in the battlefield was helpless. "

In the article that misses her grandfather, Liu Ruoying touches the article with such a light and strong strokes, just like her life story.

In Children's Day in 1969, Liu Ruoying was born in a well -known family in Taipei. In addition to the male and female owners, there are five deputy and one chef.

His grandfather Liu Yongyao was a general of the Army. After withdrawing from the military community, he founded the issue and served as a professor of a university. Therefore, he was known as "Confucian generals."

Grandma Zhong Guangyi is a girlfriend, wearing sloppy pajamas, slippers decorated with peacock hair, watching foreign novels, and walking out of the bedroom door, you will change to cheongsam and heel shoes.

When Liu Ruoying was very young, her parents divorced, and she grew up slowly by her grandparents.

Grandfather spoils her, and her grandmother cultivates her. In addition to providing the material life of Jinyi jade, she also bought expensive piano and urged her to practice the piano every day to cultivate a skill.

In a large population, everyone is in awe of the generals, and the general is afraid of his baby granddaughter. To this end, the associate officials joked that Liu Ruoying, a young age, was the "general of the general."

In his childhood, his family was in strict care, and Liu Ruoying rarely went out to find friends.

After studying, she will let the deputy at home play badminton, or the two deputy "command" can pull up the rubber band. She jumps in the middle or goes out with her grandmother.

Sometimes she locked herself in the closet, arranged the story in her heart, and decorated a polygonal angle. That's it, you can play well.

She is quiet and can find fun from a young age.

A smile on his face is always full of joy, everything is suitable, elegant and humorous.

This is the family style that Liu Ruoying accepted from an early age, which has a subtle influence on her life.

After graduating from high school, she drifted through the sea alone and studied at the State University of California in the United States, with vocal music.

In other places, in the face of a strange environment, you will suffer, and you must endure loneliness. She thought about giving up halfway, was reprimanded by her grandfather, and finally persisted.

Back in Taiwan, she made three years of assistants for Luo Dayou. Every day I heard the music masters such as Luo Dayou and Lin Xi, she felt that life was extremely rich.

In this unknown years, she moved out in order to maintain a lifestyle of student days.

In order to save the expenses of life outside, she escaped the property fee and often took back the bento that others did not eat.

His father was a romantic person who was willing to give up the navy profession, went home to open a coffee house, and also named "Writer Coffee House". Later I opened the movie company, and finally seemed to lose money ...

Perhaps it is the inheritance of the blood. Liu Ruoying's original ideal was to be a writer.

Even if she sings, performs, films, and the mountains are repeated in life, it can be said that she can sit down quietly, as long as she can sit down quietly and write with a pen, she will feel very happy.

I will always love milk tea

Those who are working hard will always meet Bole.

In 1994, 25 -year -old Liu Ruoying participated in the movie "Girls' Fishing", telling the story of smuggling and fake marriage.

People are like duckweed, and they are rare.

She emerged in the entertainment industry with this work.

Zhang Aijia, the director of this film, said: "I will always love milk tea."

This clean, gentle, talented, slightly sad and sorrowful and mellow woman, it is difficult to not make people love.

The more you work hard, the luckiest. Sometimes when you start a good, good luck will come.

Since childhood, the literary temperament and changing performance tension, let her also play the role of a woman Zhang Youyi in the Republic of China, the designer living in the ancient town of Jiangnan (later became the Ambassador of Wuzhen), the arrogance of the ancient town of Jiangnan The affectionate talented girl Zhang Ailing can also play Gu Manyu in Zhang Ailing's writing in the music drama ...

Liu Ruoying does not belong to the amazing beauty, but it makes people look comfortable and has a sense of intimacy.

She met Zhang Aijia; singing, she met Chen Sheng.

Chen Sheng commented on her: "She will sing with emotions, can easily infect the audience, and her singing has an urge to express her sincerity and sense of feeling."

Regardless of being a man or singing, frankness is more important than ingenuity. This sincere emotion is the bravery of love, and the fearlessness of fear, just like what she sang in her classic song:

Want to ask you dare

I love me like you said

Want to ask you dare

Like love like me

Want to ask you dare

I love me like you have said, I am crazy like me

What will you think

In 2018, Liu Ruoying walked from the stage to the behind the scenes and directed the film debut "Later Us". Once the performance was staged, the box office broke the billion.

In the film, a pair of young lover in the north drifted in the cold basement to warm each other and encourages each other. Even a bowl of instant noodles can be eaten. The love of youth is also like enjoyment.

The power of bread was stronger than roses, and later parted ways.

Ten years later, the two met in the sea and found that they had the most precious each other.

Even if you say thousands of words, you can only cover the tears in your heart with laughter.

Because you see you in the rivers and lakes, you are no longer you, and I am not at the beginning, but we still miss us.

Among them, maybe there are so fewer you, there are me, and her shadow?

Let everyone see ourselves in different ways. This is the original intention of Liu Ruoying to try to be the director.

"I still want to do everything, as long as I like it. Of course, I have always been a very concentrated person. Whether singing, acting or writing, I do everything very seriously."

Seriousness, focusing, and doing what you like, in the era of temptation, this is the best attitude towards life.

I dare to be lonely in your arms

"I want to get married, I want to get married! Don't give up, don't give up!"

In the play, Fang Xiaoping, played by Liu Ruoying, shouted such a slogan every morning. Da Ya teeth, mushroom heads, and stupidly speaking, she is a persistent marriage madness.

Outside of the play, Liu Ruoying sang "I think I will always be lonely, just like this for a lifetime ..."

How can such a beautiful woman lonely for a lifetime?

In 2011, Liu Ruoying, who was not confused, met the person in his life.

His name is Zhong Xiaojiang. He is rich in his family, low -key, and loves photography. He is a handsome and literary merchant who is handsome and has no lack of literature and art.

On the day of marriage, the two still maintained independence and were well -established, but they had a concern and dependence in their hearts.

At home, the two of them would nest on the same sofa, read books, turns through the magazines, talk and laugh, and put their heads on his leg. Or go out to find food together and use the camera to capture the wonderful bit of life.

Sometimes, they will go out together, and then go their own way to watch their favorite movies. After watching the movie, make an appointment to meet somewhere and go home together.

When I arrived at home, I walked to the left, the other walked to the right, returned to their room, and did things in their respective independent spaces, and did not interfere with each other.

Knowing the other corner of the other party at home, he will feel at ease.

In order to achieve this lifestyle, Liu Ruoying deliberately placed his and her husband's study at both ends of the diagonal line.

Because, according to her understanding of herself, having a separate space will make getting along more comfortably, and can the relationship go longer.

Sometimes Liu Ruoying goes out to filming, and he will not meet for a long time.

In her opinion, the husband and wife get along with clay, water and mud together when they are together, which can shape the third appearance; when separated, it looks like a disk, attracting each other and maintaining independence.

Not only enjoy the warmth of lover's company, but also to keep the quietness alone.

This is Liu Ruoying's marriage wisdom, just like she wrote in the book "I dare to be lonely in your arms":

"Because of keeping you, I feel happy, and at the same time, I can be free."

At the age of thirty, Liu Ruoying sang "Later, I finally learned how to love" at the concert.

Later, she really learned how to love. It is also more convinced: live according to your own rhythm.

Those who have the ability can get along well with others.

It's easy to get along with yourself.

The woman who lives transparently has a unique insight for marriage. The actor Lang Yueting also said:

When you choose to enter the marriage, if the original intention is not because of love, everything is meaningless. If you have found the person who joined hands, please do not expect too much to make him completely turn into your fantasy. Even if you walk into the marriage, you must keep yourself at your partner independently.

Because of love, I stepped into marriage.

Because self -love, keep independent.

Only by becoming yourself can you know what you love in your heart.

Let yourself be comfortable first to make the other party feel comfortable.

This is the way of Liu Ruoying's marriage and her wisdom.

Like Zhang Ailing she played by her, Liu Ruoying has a prominent family and her beauty and sorrow, but she does not love others, just like this peerless woman, she can no longer love others, she can only wither.

In laughter and tears, encountering and missing, and getting along with each other, she learned how to love and how to make herself living ideal.

As writer Zhang Jiajia said:

"I like Liu Ruoying, not a certain stage of her, but the process of flowing through the whole game."

Author | Jiang Xu, a post -80s woman, cooking words to heal hunger, and draw the heart by pen.

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