After reading Zhu Ziqing’s "Back", I know that reconciliation with my parents is a lifetime practice

Some time ago, Dong Yuhui rarely talked about his father in the live broadcast room:

"When I was admitted to college, my dad sent me to school.

He was carrying a big bag with quilts and mattresses inside.

Sending it to the school gate, he looked back at three steps and farewell, until he disappeared into the crowd.

Looking at my dad, when I turned my head, I couldn't help it.

When I was a kid, I couldn't understand Zhu Ziqing's "Back", and I knew it when I grew up. "

After some true love, he poked a lot of netizens tears.

Many people leave a message in the comment area, saying that they are also at a moment when they grow up, and they understand the difficulty of parents.

As Zhu Ziqing's masterpiece, "Back" has shaped a very classic image of father.

After vicissitudes, after being "expelled" by the unit, he must also live in a family and run around;

He is old, because he can't speak beautiful words, so he is "pedantic" by his son;

But he also loved his son very much. The back of the platform that was difficult to go through the platform and crawled down hard. For nearly a century, he did not know how many people had touched the heart.

Ji Xianlin once said:

"Back" shows the true spirit of father and son one of the three outlines.

On the 74th anniversary of Mr. Zhu Ziqing, I want to talk to you about "Back".

Talking about the struggle and reconciliation behind the article, approaching and escaping, talk about this, the father -son love that allows countless Chinese -style families to see themselves, twist and warm.

Different concepts are the root causes of parent -child contradictions

Many people don't know that Zhu Ziqing was postponed for 8 years in the story of "Back" before writing it.

Why is this?

Before that, Zhu Ziqing and his father Zhu Hongjun had always had a lot of contradictions.

Regarding this, Zhu Ziqing also mentioned at the beginning of the article:

"In the winter, the grandmother died, and the father's difference was also unloaded.

From Beijing to Xuzhou ... When I saw the messy things in the courtyard, I remembered my grandmother, and I couldn't help crying. "

At that time, the Zhu family fell.

The source of all this is Zhu Hongjun.

It was in 1917 that Zhu Hongjun secretly disregarded his son Zhu Ziqing and secretly accepted a aunt.

After being known by the aunt of the other room, the city was full of storms, and even Zhu Hongjun's misappropriation of public funds was shaken out.

Soon, Zhu Hongjun was dismissed by the unit.

Knowing what Zhu Hongjun did, the grandmother of the Zhu family did not fight, and it didn't take long for it to end.

Zhu Ziqing's dissatisfaction with his father buried seeds.

Three years later, Zhu Ziqing graduated from college and came to Yangzhou to teach.

At the beginning, he would always take half of his salary and give his father for the elderly.

Unexpectedly, Zhu Hong was not satisfied. He used the private relationship with the principal to take Zhu Ziqing's salary.

This made Zhu Ziqing angry: he had his wife and children to feed, no salary, how do you live?

For this reason, Zhu Ziqing did not negotiate with his father, hoping that he would not take his own money.

But in Zhu Hongjun's view, "the father is the son of the son", and the son gave money to his father is a matter of justice.

Several communication was unsuccessful, Zhu Ziqing left his hometown angrily, and also broke his contact with his father.

This is why Zhu Ziqing said that he hadn't seen his father for two years.

The father and son with different ideas, just part ways because of money, make people sigh.

As a spectator, I did not intend to use a modern vision to judge whether it was right and wrong.

After all, in the era of fierce impact of the old and new ideas, Zhu Hongjun and Zhu Ziqing were the epitome of tens of millions of father and son under the creation of the times.

The "father is the son of the son" that the father believes in, from the son's view, it is the dross of the old society;

But in the eyes of his father's pursuit of "family democracy" and "equality and freedom", is it that it is not a big deal of the world?

Different ideas are the root cause of the generation gap.

As said in "Tragic World":

"Children and parents, like trees, although they are not from the same trunk, but the longer and farther away."

Perhaps, for every parent and child, it is far away from a fork in life, which is inevitable and the fate of parent -child relationship.

Parents' summary, often calm

In 1925, Zhu Ziqing continued to go north and came to Tsinghua University to teach.

But shortly after he arrived in Tsinghua, he received a letter from his father.

There are only a few lines of words in the letter, the idea is:

"My body is safe, and only my shoulders are so painful. It is inconvenient to take chopsticks or pens. It is estimated that I am not far from the death period."

After reading his father's words, Zhu Ziqing trembled.

He quickly guessed what his father meant to be behind the text. He hoped that he could go home to see before he was dying.

The request of the dead is often the most sad.

Zhu Ziqing remembered that he hadn't returned to his hometown for a long time.

Thinking of his father's goodness to himself, Zhu Ziqing couldn't help crying.

His thoughts drifted back to college, his father sent him off for himself.

In fact, his father could not send him, because his father was busy looking for a job at that time, and because he had a secret of marrying a small concubine, he was unhappy with Zhu Ziqing.

But before the departure, his father was still uneasy and planned to send his son for a while.

No matter how Zhu Ziqing persuaded him, he insisted on swinging and saying, "It doesn't matter."

So the father and son dragged big and small luggage and went to the station together.

Along the way, his father had to take care of his luggage, but also talked to the price of the foot.

But Zhu Ziqing suspected that his father was not beautiful and always wanted to intervene. Seeing his father in order to take care of himself in the tea room, Zhu Ziqing muttered in his heart:

"They only recognize the money, and entrust them are just white beres! And people like me, can't I cook themselves yet?"

The teenager's heart is unobstructed at a glance.

Perhaps every fledgling child is the same moment as the young man Zhu Ziqing.

The clumsy of abandoning their parents, mocking their rustic, and felt that they were always careless.

We were too anxious to prove ourselves to the world, but forgot to think about the good intentions of each parents after each move.

Writer Liu Na once said:

"The child who is eager to get rid of his father's restrictions and the martial arts always wants to prove the difference from his father.

In the end, it was found that walking away from a distance can not escape the attention of his father. "

My father's trivial life for the child is to protect the child, and the corners are flattened for the peatful things;

Regardless of their suspicion with their children, their father lowered their posture and expressing concern. They wanted to cross the gap and get closer to their children.

When you are young, you do n’t know Yan ’s affection, and you only know how to grow up.

It turns out that the softness of those who infiltrate the fine branches are the deepest love of parents.

When we read our parents, we grew up

At the highlight of "Back", there is no more than the bridge of his father who bought oranges for Zhu Ziqing.

The old father climbed to the fence, turned over the platform, and carefully hugged the oranges bought in his arms.

Looking at his father's back, Zhu Ziqing's tears "flowed down quickly."

Perhaps at this time, he really felt that the truth of his father moved around in a difficult life.

In Zhu Ziqing's impression, his father "made a living, supported alone, and did a lot of major things";

In terms of educating children, he can do his best for the best private school for them. Please ask the best teacher.

However, with the decline of the family, his father's evening scene also "gradually died."

Even so, he still wants to do something for his son and do his heart.

Such a deep affection, which makes people feel sad and moved.

I have read a word: "Someone is waiting for you in the same place, you can get love from him effortlessly. These people are parents."

Regardless of how old age changes, the warmth given by parents can always nourish us for the long rest of our lives.

Since the station is different, Zhu Ziqing went to school, graduated, and worked.

Because the contradiction with his father is getting bigger and bigger, the place where Zhu Ziqing works is getting farther and farther from his hometown.

But when he had his own children, he found that when he was educating his children, he was also at a loss.

The son looked two and a half years old, Zhu Ziqing was upset by his crying, and "pressed him underground";

The daughter had only been years old. Because of her mother's mother, Zhu Ziqing also pressed her tightly in the corner and scared the child to have a few days of illness.

Zhu Ziqing once blamed himself that he was "an incompetent father."

The corners of the teenager, gradually dull by the rice oil and salt of life.

It wasn't until the road where his parents had walked again that he really understood the difficulty of his parents.

Therefore, after receiving a letter from his father's advice, Zhu Ziqing intersect and wrote "Back".

The father of his hometown, after reading this article by word, crying, and tears.

Some people say that the reincarnation of several generations is like a hidden line, the grass -gray snake line, and the pulse is thousands of miles.

We are more or less like our parents.

Those with their parents' 害 and injuries, disliked and escape, when they thought of a certain moment, they suddenly had a understanding and a touch.

In this world, there are never perfect parents.

The differences in many concepts are also the dark injury of the era imprint.

Learning to forgive parents' imperfections is actually forgiveness that is not so perfect.

Just like "Native Family":

"When you really give up the struggle, you will find that your life will go smoothly."

The biggest maturity of children is to achieve reconciliation with their ordinary after reading their parents.

After the "Back" was completed, Zhu Ziqing's relationship with his father gradually broke the ice.

Zhu Hongjun also wrote to Zhu Ziqing in his later years, let him work hard, don't care too much about his hometown.

Zhu Ziqing's attitude towards his children also eased.

He no longer requires children to become a so -called "good child", nor will he use his own experience to guide his children's life.

In an article, he wrote:

"Children are still children. Naturally, they are not high. They slowly start from near and small.

‘God is clear, there is a person’ s person ’.

I just hope that as I think, since then I will do my father, so I claim to be satisfied. "

In the words, it is already explained after the clearness.

Luo Dayou once sang in the song:

My family has the most beautiful time in my childhood. It was where I escaped later, and it was the direction of my tears now.

Perhaps, only when we have seen a wider world and more powerful energy, can we set up a place to understand the past and forgive their limitations.

In fact, all conflicts and reconciliation between parents and children are because of love.

I only want to look back, we still have time to read their old back, understand their silent concern;

I also want to have a long rest of our lives. We can take the warmth and power given by our parents to cherish every day of family and love.Click [watching], encourage you!

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