"Good chat, he was suddenly angry." How did the anger out of control?

Do you also seem to be inherently irritable, and the anger of these irritable people seems to have no logic: Sometimes it ’s just eating together, why suddenly get angry and destroy the good mood of themselves and the people around you?

When I was a child, when some elders with bad temper (such as my dad) were getting angry, I would have a feeling of pressing the pause key.

I remember that when the whole family was eating, I had a good chat when I was eating. I know that my normal reaction at that time should be at least scared, avoiding or self -protection, but I actually laughed ...

At that moment, I seemed to suddenly become a bystander, and my head was just thinking: Why suddenly angry? Angry looks so stupid ~

Faced with anger, I don't know how many people have such a suspension experience as me.

This observation of people's temper instantly became a small habit of me. Later, I read a book, English name: why we snap. This book is to study how people suddenly blew. (SNAP, the meaning of sudden stretching, here can be understood as a sudden outbreak.)

There is a paragraph in the book that people will not be angry for no reason. Except for special mental illness, most of the anger is inseparable from these 9 reasons-

1. Life, limbs

If security is threatened, it will protect themselves. Most animals will do this. This is well understood.

Although it looks very basic, sometimes you don't know how an irritable person will judge that my safety is threatened. Otherwise, there will not be so many people in the subway.

2. Insult

Personal insult is also a common cause of violence. What makes me feel very interesting is that the criteria for my insulting judgment are also vague.

Except for obvious behavior insults (international finger) and speech insults (scolded in characteristic country), some behaviors may not have any insults. However, once they are considered insult, they will still cause the anger of the other side.

For example, a hard -working employee may be regarded as insult that has not been promoted. His wife may regard her husband's no garbage or dishes one day as an insult to her family status.

3. Family

From a biological perspective, animals will protect their offspring and family members from attack and danger, because the key to whether the evolution is successful is whether the individual's genes can pass to the next generation. Protecting offspring and brothers and parents with a highly heavier gene can increase the probability of transmitting gene success.

From the perspective of pseudo -sociology, we have well understood why the mother's mother and even the whole family's curse are so easy to anger anyone.

4. Environment

Kurt Lewin, a psychological psychology psychologist, proposed a Field theory that explained personal behavior, and proposed the concept of living space that affects personal behavior.

I am very lazy to get used to image memory, and I will simply understand this set of theory as the look shown in the figure below

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