Night reading 丨 Knowing people do not speak up, the person in charge is not strict, and the respect is not humble.

Author:Minsheng Weekly Time:2022.08.02

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"There is a ruler in life, and being a person." "Degree" is the size of a person and the scale of doing things.

Getting along with others, you are expensive, knowing advancement and retreat, which is also the way Chinese people have advocated by people since ancient times.

Knowing people do not speak, it is cultivation

Confucius said, "The wise man is silent." Smart people speak moderately.

When I was young, I read "Dream of Red Mansions" and liked Daiyu's directly; I read the Red Mansion in the middle age, but appreciated the push and others of Baodi.

In a liquor order, Daiyu was afraid of being punished. Two sentences were blocked for a while: "Liangchen Beauty, Heaven", "There is no matchmaker on the screen."

These two poems come from "Peony Pavilion" and "West Chamber". For women who did not leave the cabinet at the time, such "love novels" should not be read. These two sentences were unable to read these two sentences.

Fortunately, after three patrols, no one noticed. But Baodi noticed it, but she did not dismantle it in court.

The next day, after the crowd dispersed, Baodi called Daiyu in private, and joked Daiyu half -jokingly and asked what she said yesterday. Dai Ying suddenly understood, and immediately blushed.

Then Baodi first exposed himself, and when he was a child, he was also naughty, and then politely persuaded Daiyu. He should read the serious reading of the book. Don't be moved by the mixed book.

Disassembling others in his tongue is very clever, but it will be embarrassing, and others will only avoid it. If you say something, you do n’t say it. If you say something, you can say that sometimes it is not a mind, but a kind of kindness that pushes himself and people.

Take care of others and understand the overall situation, knowing people to do nothing, this is the real cultivation.

The person in charge is not strict, it is atmosphere

"Zeng Guangxianwen" said: "Rao people are not idiots, and idiots will not spare others." It means that those who are tolerant and charity are people who are well -known, and those who do not know about stupidity will not be treated with others.

During the Republic of China, Su Qing served as the editor -in -chief of the "Heaven and Earth" monthly magazine. Zhang Ailing voted for a manuscript for her. When Su Qing saw this humanistic writing, he wrote a letter and applied to Zhang Ailing, and Zhang Ailing agreed quickly.

However, Zhang Ailing did not submit it on time. When Su Qing called the manuscript, Zhang Ailing said, "Forget it."

Zhang Ailing's drag on the publishing of the magazine caused trouble. After the colleague Su Qing learned of this, he had a discussion and suggested that the matter was made public and condemned Zhang Ailing.

And Su Qing believes that Zhang Ailing must know that she drag her draft properly, so she must be entangled in other things. In the face of Su Qing's generous tolerance, Zhang Ailing was ashamed and admired. Since then, her manuscripts have never appointments.

Later Zhang Ailing became the golden signboard of the Monthly Monthly Monthly. The two became the popular female writer of Shanghai Beach in the 1940s.

The translator Liang Yuechun once said: "Because we also have the possibility of doing various mistakes, there are more need to forgive others." Tolerance acceptance.

When treating yourself strictly, tolerance for others, and blaming others, you must take care of the other party's feelings. To be tolerant and considerate, this is the gentleman's atmosphere.

Respecting people is not humble, it is a wind bone

There is a saying: "On people, we must take others seriously; under people, you must take yourself seriously."

Cai Zhizhong, a cartoonist, has won the Lifetime Achievement Award in the comic industry "Golden Man Award". His comic "Zhuangzi said" was well received by readers. However, the publication of "Zhuangzi" was not smooth at the beginning.

In 1985, Cai Zhizhong began to invest in the comic creation of "Zhuangzi". After he invested the first draft to a publisher, the editor said that the theme of the work was too esoteric. In order to sell, it was recommended that Cai Zhizhong changed to a relaxed theme.

Cai Zhizhong did not compromise for sales. He grabbed the painting on the table and said: "Creation should go all out and have his own thoughts. This is a respect for readers. of."

Later, another publisher fancy "Zhuangzi" and published it. The sales volume was great. Cai Zhizhong became popular and achieved value.

The person who appreciates you is what you look like "proud", not your pretending to be humble and pretending to be pleasing.

To please others, you can't get respect and lose yourself. There is no humble or humble, and there is independent thoughts and personality, which is the weight that has won the respect of others.

Being a person must have cultivation and bones.

"The sense of proportion is a sign of mature love. It knows to abide by the necessary distance between people. This distance means respect for the other party as an independent personality, including respecting the other party's own right."

The sense of sense not only reflects the interaction skills of people and the outside world, but also shows the wisdom and tenderness of human beings. The world is complicated, I hope you and I can cultivate exquisite heart, just right, and live freely.

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