At a certain age, you will not be angry when you are in trouble.

Author: insident ATao

The world was stunned, and the heart was repaired.

The Ming Dynasty scholar Hong Yingming wrote a Zen poem:

Pulling away the dust in the world, there is no fire in the chest.

It was indifferent in my heart, and the moon came in front of me.

When we were young, we were restless, and everyone was not good at seeing anyone.

After years of ups and downs, a compassion was gradually cultivated, and it became calm.

As the saying goes, if you really practice pedestrians, you will not see the world.

At a certain age, you will eventually be angry and do not blame people.

01

Not angry

The writer said that the moon said that people who are easy to get angry are often fragile, because truly excellent and powerful people are confident and confident will be mild.

The word "anger" was disassembled by "slavery". When people were angry, their hearts were slavered.

Artest was one of the most potential basketball players in the United States.

But when he was young, he was irritable. In a competition, a audience threw a drink bottle to him.

A furious attack on the audience's seat, eventually caused a big melee of teams and fans.

Because the incident was too bad, Artest was banned 73 games, and the basketball career plummeted.

I like Su Dongpo's words very much:

"It is not shocked, and it is not angry for no reason.

Those who can hold their temper can control their lives.

When the fighting queen Zhang Weili was young, she was also a bad temper. Sometimes she said something wrong with others, and she would move his liver.

Later, she entered the society and traveled to the kindergarten teacher, hotel front desk, supermarket cashier ...

Taste the hardships of life, walking in the wind and rain, and the suffocation on her body gradually converged.

In 2020, Zhang Weili played Polish player Joanna.

Before the game, Joanna provoked Zhang Weili in all kinds, and even pointed at Zhang Weili and said, "I will definitely explode you!"

But Zhang Weili was unmoved, but just looked at each other with a smile.

During the game, Zhang Weili also settled in a steady heart. In the end, she successfully defeated the "Five Crown" Joanna and won the world's top fighting competition UFC championships, becoming the first Asian to win the award.

Shakespeare said:

"Who can keep calm in the surprise, keep stable under the anger, and stay sober between anger, who is a hero."

It is increasingly discovered that people who are anxious when they meet a little offenders often live a mess.

Really powerful people can hold their emotions and stabilize their temper when they encounter great things.

Because they have a sea of ​​ocean, Xiaofeng and Xiaolang can't afford any waves in their lives.

02

Not blame

Lao Tzu said: The trip to the avenue is not responsible for others.

People with deep virtue, open -minded and generous, know how to cultivate themselves in tolerance

Have seen a story.

Zhang Ye and Wang An are worldwide friends, both of which are living with tea shops.

Zhang Yan's tea shop business was hot, and the guests were endless, while Wang An's tea shop was deserted.

One day, the government informed Zhang Ye to make a leave, seized his tea shop, and distributed it to the frontier, and was exiled for three years.

Three years later, Zhang Ye was released home and learned that it was Wang An's stolen fake.

Later, Wang An's crimes were publicly public, and the deceived tea guests came to him to discuss.

When Wang An saw that the East Window had an incident, he locked himself at home, and soon ended depression.

When Zhang Ye learned of this, he was worried that Wang An's wife and children were not taken care of, so he took it home.

His wife complained: "He hurts you for three years, why should he take care of his wife and children."

Zhang Yan said:

"The person in charge is to hurt yourself, and you can live freely."

Forgive the mistakes of others, it is generosity. It is compassion to observe the difficulty of others.

When Su Shi served as an official in Hangzhou, he had a student named Wu Wei who stole the gauze to evade taxes to the capital of Su Shi in the name of Su Shi and was arrested by the tax official.

After some interrogations, Su Shi found that Wuwei was only because he did not enter Beijing to rush the test.

After understanding the situation, Su Shi not only did not investigate, but also sent a toll to him to help him enter Beijing to rush the exam.

As Yishu said, the sign of a person who is truly mature is to find that there are fewer and fewer people who can blame. The reason is simple, and everyone has their own difficulties.

Reading the world, so you can understand everything; after ups and downs, everything can be forgiven.

03

Master Xuecheng, the host of Longquan Temple, first followed Master Yuanzhuang to learn Buddhism.

At the beginning, he was very dissatisfied, and often secretly stirred.

After a period of time, he gradually became peaceful and felt that "doing these things is to keep squatting and bending down. This is a convenient way to regulate arrogance and let go of himself."

His inner prejudice and unevenness disappeared slowly, becoming more and more peaceful.

The life of a person is more and more tolerant in the tempering of the world.

If a person's pattern is improved, there are fewer opinions in your heart; when you see more about the world, you can be more tolerant.

Educator Cai Yuanpei once published a "Stone Model", and the academic circles overflowed with beautiful words

In the book, Cai Gong proposed that "Dream of Red Mansions" is a "political novel", and pointed out: "The ability in the book, the death of the clear death, revealed the losses ..."

Hu Shi did not agree with his point of view after reading it. He publicly developed the document that Cai Yuanpei was "far -fetched" and "nonsense". He threatened to find information to overthrow Cai Yuanpei's discussion.

Unexpectedly, looking around, Hu Shi was gradually discouraged. The opponents of their own eat and change to others. They may be proud of their hearts and fall down.

However, Cai Yuanpei did not have a lip, and quietly sent someone to send the information he got to Hu Shi.

After Hu Shi got the information, he wrote that "Dream of Red Mansions" was the saying "Cao Xueqin's self -report", which overthrew Cai Yuanpei's discussion.

Afterwards, Hu Shi knew that the information was sent by Cai Yuanpei, and said with emotion:

"Cai Gong's actions are tantamount to sending ammunition to the enemy. How many people in the world?"

Writer He Quanfeng said, whether it is criticism or attack, for a person with a wide heart, his heart is like a big lake. If you throw it in a torch, it will go out soon; It will be diluted.

In the world, people with different positions and different views will inevitably be a matter of unwillingness.

One by one is opposite, and the baht will be compared everywhere, and it will only find yourself.

Relax your mind and light up things. When you don't get used to it, people will become more and more mature. ▽

Wang Yangming said: "The world is stunned, and the heart of the sea god is fixed."

Life is a process of cultivation.

If you don't move, the years can be calm.

Like a praise, take the rest of your life, calm down the life, and treat others with generosity.

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