Some reconciliation requires a long process to achieve

"The Last Year of my mother" tells the story of Quan Quan's last year that Quan was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease and her. In this novel, we can see the entire process of Alzheimer's patients from illness to death, and we can also see the complex and true parent -child relationship around love and injury, gratitude and guilt. This book is not completely tender and delicate, and it also describes the complex and real part of the family, parent -child.

■ Chaoyan

"The Last Year of my mother and I" (May 2022, 2022) tells the story of Quan Quan's last year after Mother Buriez diagnosed Alzheimer's disease. In this novel, we can see the entire process of Alzheimer's patients from illness to death, and we can see the complex and real parent -child relationship around love and injury, gratitude and guilt.这本书，并不全然是令人潸然泪下的温情和细腻，也描述了家庭、亲子关系间复杂又真实的部分：我们不仅仅在爱和被爱，我们和家人之间也会有伤害，有I owe, guilty, and resentment, they will ignore, escape, deceive, and even have no chance and time for reconciliation and release.

Pursuing the dilemma of self and raising children

Single mother, Lily, thought that she would live with her son Quan for a lifetime, until she encountered Asae and encountered her love. In her diary, I said, "I met the Asahi, I knew the whole world." She wanted to live for herself, so she left the spring and ran away from home to live with Qianye. I can't make the right and wrong judging the right and wrong of Lily's departure, and I don't like the reader the year that she ran away as the wrong fork and out of control. In addition to being a mother, she is always an independent individual with the right to pursue love and freedom. In any case, this is her life, her choice, her freedom. Error, out of control, fork's comment, is it the pride restrictions on the mother as the individual rights and choices, harsh requirements and slow referees?

As South Korean writer Shen Jingshu wrote in "Please take care of my mother": "For you, mother has always been a mother. You never thought that when the mother also had a toddler, she was also three and twelve years old. Or twenty -year -old time. You just treat your mother as a mother, and you think that the mother is born as a mother. "Mother should not, nor can it be a mother, she can always be herself.

In this book, the author describes a mother who dedicates everything and annihizes herself for the family and children. But even so, this mother has her secrets, her love, and has unknown spiritual comfort and distant thoughts. When we all praise and praise the selflessness, greatness, and not rewarding of maternal love, do we also need to be alert to these praise and praise to become an invisible persuasion and request, and be aware of the one -sided understanding of mothers and mother love or even misunderstandings? Moreover, whether it is Lily or other mother, in addition to the identity of her mother, she has other identities to live for herself.

However, the abandonment of lily is a fact, and it is difficult to dispel the damage caused by the spring. It's like the new work "Cross" directed by Zhiyu and the director, no matter how much suffering from the female lead, no matter how much suffering, no matter how much helpless choice, she will not change the fact that she has abandoned her child. However, it is difficult for me to blame her and lily self -cruelty, nor can I blame them to choose to give birth to the children. Why should they abandon and cause harm to the children.

In the single -line track of life, some options will always give back to the results and the cost of requesting to bear in the following years. If Lily returned home a year later, he cooked Ni Zeng Tang. After seeing the mother who returned home, Quan just said "early". Since then, both have been tacitly cut off this year like shearing, when this year does not exist. After returning home, Lily dedicated all his time and mind to his son, and used the rest of his life to make up for the shortcomings of Quan this year. However, memory can be edited, and the tacit understanding can be ignored, but what happened is still a thorn buried in each other. Because of Quan, I am not sure about the freedom and courage to pursue love, but I can't deny that she has the right to pursue freedom and love. It can only be sighing that women always have the price and sacrifice when they are pursuing themselves. They are always difficult to raise their responsibilities to raise children and take care of their families.

The complexity of family and human nature

Leaving is abandonment. Slowly forgetting is gradually "abandoning". Death is the last "abandonment". These springs have experienced. Lily was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease, and his condition gradually deteriorated to recognition of the spring. This was another "abandonment". However, not only lily, but also growing up and having their own family and children. Although he was sick, Lily still remembered so much about Quan, Quan himself forgotten; even if the condition was serious, he lost his ability to discern, Lily still remembered and wanted to watch fireworks, but Quan forgot. What Lily remembered and missed was the spring around her at that time. At that time, she and Quan looked at the happy time of fireworks and warm memories. Fireworks are more than time, and the disease is over, and a mother loves the child's deep and strong love from beginning to end.

Before diagnosing Alzheimer's disease, there were many signs that the mother's memory was declining. It may be sick. As a reader, seeing Lily in the memory decline, the abyss of loneliness and helplessness that suddenly forgotten things, seeing her too many signs of illness, and Quan did not notice it, and would feel sad and wronged for Quan's negligence on Lily. Also because of the deterioration of lily's condition, it brings more and more troubles and negative emotions to Quan, and feels aggrieved for Quan. It is also regrettable because Buriezi and Quan's love, thanks and guilt, and guilt until they are not expressed well, and they will feel sorry for their mothers and sons failed to solve their hearts for many years in the end. Is this book alerting readers to know how to cherish, don't let the reconciliation slower than death? I don't think so, so it will underestimate the idea and value of this book. Maybe Quan only had the experience of the last year with his mother, only after seeing the firework after the mother's death, the remembered memory of the fireworks with his mother, his remorse, guilt and movement accumulated to a certain degree before Only then can you reconcile. Some reconciliation requires countless experiences and long processes to achieve, and some reconciliation can only be achieved by death. This is the complexity of love, affection and human nature. Besides, I have no experience, how can I understand, I ca n’t really let it go, how to cherish it.

Some readers read the mother's deep love in this book, and some people read endless regrets and regrets that have no time and opportunities to reconcile. The pain and injuries suffered by the abandoned children, some people read the suffering and difficulties of a single mother, and some people read the difficulty and difficulty of growing up the growth process of a child who lacking a father. Some people read Alzheimer's disease. The pain and helplessness of patients and their families ... Different readers are naturally different from the book. Good works may only provide stories and do not provide answers. Being able to tell the story, let different readers feel the commonality and characteristics of the story they experienced and the story in the book, and allow readers to find some concessions in the text field. It's a good book.

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