People who haven’t contacted for a long time, suddenly contacted you, can't escape these three reasons

I have heard a word:

People will encounter 826,3563 people in their lives, 39,778 people who say hello, they will be familiar with 3619 people, and they will be close to 275 people, but they will eventually dissipate in the sea of ​​people.

Life is a process of gathering and clutch. Some people meet, and some people are separated.

No matter how sincere feelings of the past, how deep the memories of the past, there will always be some people who walk away.

No longer share with each other's interests, no longer care about their own lives, or even interact until they lose contact.

Most of the relationship between adults has a shelf life.

Some people are destined to accompany us for one journey, and then disappear in the sea of ​​people.

Even if there are occasional intersections in the rest of the day, it is difficult to return to the past.

Just like someone who did not contact you for a long time, I suddenly contacted you, maybe not to tell you the old, but because of these 3 points.

Economic Value:

Find you to borrow money, follow the part

There is a paragraph on the Internet that people who have been disconnected for a long time suddenly contacted you, either borrowing money or marriage.

I believe many people have a deep understanding.

I remember last year, a primary school classmate suddenly asked me to chat and asked me, "What happened recently, when to go home?"

Since she graduated from elementary school, I have hardly contacted it.

Even I don't even know which city she was studying in the university and when she graduated.

But these do not affect her and me, and the nostalgia for childhood.

She said that when we went to get out of class together, she often came to my house to find my homework, and she would jump rubber bands and watch TV series together on weekends.

After her, I did think of many past events, and I thought of the two of us had a particularly beautiful and innocent time.

But she suddenly came: "I am going to get married, you must come." Instantly pulled me back to reality.

It turned out that it was false to find me for the old.

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Some people say that all the relationships in this world are favorable.

It is true that the relationship between people needs to be maintained, or uses benefits, or emotions.

But what I want to say is:

A long -term and stable relationship must be a two -way rush, not a unilateral calculation or dedication.

Because no one is stupid, no one wants to be the best of the grievances.

And those who are willing to follow the part or promise to borrow money, or the friendship of the year, or what they want to "picture" from the other party.

More often, we can also choose to refuse and refuse to maintain a metamorphic relationship.

Some people have scattered, and some feelings disappear, then let go, don't entangle, don't remember.

Go forward, don't look back, I believe there are scenery and more worthy people in the distance.

Practical value:

Please help or like, vote, "cut a knife"

Is this what you often encounter:

Friends who don't contact much, suddenly sent a message:

The first article in the circle of friends helped me like it; please vote for my baby; help "cut a knife", thank you ...

Praise, voting, "cut a knife", etc. Although they are all small things, these trivial matters are annoying.

If you refuse, the other party may feel that you are stingy and not close to it; if you agree, then you will still come to you next and next time.

What is more excessive is the kind of not talking directly, but asks tentatively: "Are you there?"

You want to go slightly, and you are afraid of the other person. You want to reply to him, and you are afraid that the other party will make himself embarrassed.

There was a question on the Internet: "Are you posted on WeChat or QQ, why do you make others dislike?"

One of the answers is like this:

Because it is generally posted "Is there", it is very important to find someone to help.

In this case, you posted "Are you there" without talking about things. When people reply, let's talk about it. At that time, people have a great probability that they are embarrassed to refuse.

If you have something, you will directly explain the situation. If you want to help you, you can help you, and you will naturally return to you.

Instead of saying "Is it" and then don't speak.

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Sometimes, we would rather open the door to see the mountains and talk directly, instead of asking all over and over again, "Are you?"

Because, seeing specific things, we will have a clear answer in our hearts, knowing whether we should help and how to help.

The phrase "Is there" will make us tangled for a long time. I don't know if the other person's intention is to make ourselves embarrassed.

For each of us, it is an emotional intelligence and a kind of cultivation for each of us.

Others help you love you, not helping you.

If you can handle it yourself, don't disturb others at will.

Emotional value: Miss you

He Yan said in such a paragraph:

It is the norm to accept the alienation between friends. Although I have many friends, I also care about the people around me.

But I have never hoped, and I have to stay with anyone for a lifetime, because it is difficult.

Another thing is very important, some people come to accompany you for a while.

Is there such a type of person in our address book:

I used to be a very good friend. Later, with their own circles, their respective lives gradually broke the contact.

Although the connection is less, it does not mean that the relationship is gone.

Some people suddenly contact you, trying to find you to borrow money, or ask you for help.

And some people contacted you, just because he kept concerned about you silently, remembering you.

Maybe because it is not in a city, it is out of the original circle. Your common topic is getting less and less, and life intersections are gradually becoming. However, a real relationship will not be defeated by these.

Seeing something related to you, thinking of something related to you, I still can't help but miss it, I can't help but contact it.

When you encounter difficulties, he will send greetings as soon as possible; when your emotions are frustrated, he will guard you silently.

In this life, there are not many people who really care about you, remember you, and to be good to you.

When you meet, you must cherish it with your heart.

There is a new online word called "work misfortune".

It is said that after work, it may be because we have stayed in different cities. Maybe work is too busy. We have gradually become less time with our friends, and slowly there is no connection between the two.

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In fact, the phenomenon of "unfamiliarity" is not limited to work.

Almost every stage of life, we will lose some friends.

Either forgetting each other, or disappearing in the sea of ​​people, or lying in the address book.

In the face of the person who did not contact you for a long time, the following three suggestions may be helpful to you:

1. Clarify the other person's intention.

Know the other party to find you to borrow money, let you follow the part, please help you, or simply miss you, and want to talk to you.

Of course, the previous three types may also play emotional cards to you in the form of the old narrative. When you talk to a certain degree, you will show your true intentions.

But no matter what kind of, in the end, you will definitely tell your true purpose, except for you to chat.

After you clarify the true intentions of the other party, you know how to deal with it. Are you promised, refusing to see your own decision.

2. Good relationships can stand rejection.

Everyone has the right to reject others.

If you can't do it or you don't want to promise, then make a clear rejection.

Don't think about whether you reject it too badly, because a good relationship can stand the rejection.

If the other party has a good deal with you because of your rejection, it means that he is not your real friend.

This relationship, don't.

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3. Don't be embarrassed at any time.

When we get along with others, we must follow a principle: don't be too embarrassed.

Follow your own mind, don't please others, and don't embarrass yourself.

If you are wronged and accommodate others, you may not be respected, but for granted and unscrupulous.

And a friend who really cares about you and miss you will not make you embarrassed to satisfy your own interests.

Friends, "Quality", not in quantity.

Don't spend too much time and energy on people who are not worth it.

Learn to manage your own circle, eliminate those who do not cherish you, and keep it attentively to maintain people who are really good to you.

The rest of my life is expensive, don't be wasted by people who are not worth it.

Pay attention to readers, I hope you want to say what you want to say, do what you want, and love to love.

I hope that every sincerity will not be disappointed, and everyone who is good can be treated gentle.

mutual encouragement!

Author: Jiali sister, reluctant to love and freedom in her life. Source: ten o'clock reading (ID: duhaoshu), ten o'clock in the middle of the night, accompany you to read, a good life.

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