The root of a person's pain: I look forward to too high, too much desire, and give up too early

There is such a question on the Internet: What is the root of a person's pain?

A high praise answer is: I look forward to too high, too much desire, and give up too early.

As in "Brief History Today":

"The deepest sources of pain lies in my mind. If there is anything I think, but the mental response is pain."

One thought of becoming a Buddha, one thought becomes a demon.

What makes life full of pain is never others, but yourself.

Expecting too high

In the TV series "The World", Zhou Bingkun and Qiao Chunyan are bamboo horses. They have carried out each other since childhood and established deep friendship.

Bing Kun was unemployed, and first wanted to find Chunyan to help.

Bing Kun was jailed and Zhou's mother was paralyzed. Zheng Juan was not negotiated. Chun Yan tried his best to take care of the Zhou family to get rid of the predicament.

In Chunyan's heart, my friend is "You help me, I can help you."

Later, the demolition of the "Light Word", Bing Kun's elder brother Zhou Bingyi was then the mayor and was in charge of the demolition work.

In order to prepare a wedding room for his son, Chunyan found Bing Kun and wanted to divide a house through Zhou Bingyi's relationship, but was declined by Bing Kun.

At the same time, Yu Hong, the co -friend of their two, also asked for the room for help Bing Kun, and Bingkun made a rotation from the middle, so that Zhou Bingyi approved Yu Hong specially approved a house for Yu Hong.

Chunyan questioned Bing Kun: "Are friends divided into three or six or nine?"

Feelings are not equivalent to exchanges. I look forward to others in the same way to return themselves.

Reducing expectations for others is actually protecting yourself.

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If you don't expect too much on what you don't have, you will not complain because of a little discomfort; if you don't expect too high to the people around you, you will not be painful because of the opponent's rejection.

Rather than keeping hope to others, it is better to rely on yourself.

Too much desire

Hu Xueyan, a well -known red -top businessman in the late Qing Dynasty, earned countless wealth from his hands.

In his early years, he rely on funding Wang Youling to go to the officialdom and earn the first bucket of gold in his life.

After that, he paved the way with money to use the power of power, humanity, and the ultimate.

With the help of official power, the greater his business, the greater the status of officials.

He once became Zuo Zongtang's left arm, with a strategic provincial financial and taxation, and the war in the northern Xinjiang war. He became the richest man in the Qing Dynasty and was given a yellow horse gown to add himself.

Hu Xueyan, who has been in power for a while, is extremely rich, is not satisfied with this.

In order to monopolize the silk cocoon trade, he reprimanded all the raw silk to Shanghai to Shanghai, making it impossible for foreign merchants to be urgently needed.

Later, due to a large number of raw silk hoarding, it was completely empty, which caused the money to be crowded and lost.

If you are rich, you want to be rich, and you want to win when you win.

When desire flooded his heart and was awake at his own negative blocking, the business empire that the red -top businessman Hu Xueyan had worked hard, collapsed in a short time.

There are thousands of things in the world, only the most difficult to fill in. Things obtained by greed will eventually lose due to greed.

"Cai Gen Tan" said that it is not a blessing, no greed for no reason, but the person who is content with less desire and physical and mental.

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There was a golden rush team walking in the desert. Everyone was walking heavy and painful, and only one person walked happily.

Others asked, "Why are you so cheerful?"

The man said, "Because I have the least things."

People live in the world, the desire to expand is endless, and simple happiness can be available.

Satisfaction is not to add more fuel, but to reduce the flames; richness is not to accumulate wealth, but to reduce desire.

Give up too early

The first generation of female conductor Antonia Brid, who loved music from an early age and dream of becoming a conductor.

But the family's economy is constrained, and there is only one old piano picked up in the family.

Due to living in slums, the house sounds poorly, and the piano practice will disturb the people. Every time Brick practiced the piano, he just shot gently, and never dared to press out.

Later, Bridge's dream was discovered by the people around her, and she was ridiculed and accused. She was forced to walk away and continued to pursue her dream.

In a foreign country, Brick was rejected many times, but he never retreated. He finally studied in a prestigious school through struggling to study, and his professional skills were rapidly improved.

In order to obtain on -the -spot experience, she went to the band to apply for a hard work and use all opportunities to observe and learn.

In order to achieve a scene conductor, she slipped into the men's toilet at the scene of the scene with chopsticks and followed music drills.

In the meantime, a rich man proposed to her, asking her to give up music and return to her family to get married and have children. Brick declined and insisted on chasing dreams.

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She started from the bottom of the band. During a large -scale concert, the chief commander was absent from the scene. Bridge's substitute played and performed the first large -scale command in life.

Antonia Bridge eventually became the first generation of female instructors in the world, established the first women's symphony orchestra, and created the "Fangfang Ye Tan" with a very low social status of women.

Life is a marathon. Some people laughed at the beginning, and some people won at the end.

As long as you do not set up limits in life, then all the time is too late to be at the same time.

It is often possible to make a step step in the sky.

Many times, what is obstructing you to succeed is not the matter itself, but the heart that has already retreated before it starts.

Don't be afraid to work too late, not to be too late.

All stunning comes from long -term efforts; all luck comes from unremitting persistence.

Every time you don't give up, you are creating a better yourself.

A philosopher said: "There is nothing that can't be crossed, only the heart that can't be surpassed." Many times, we feel that things are too big and life is too difficult. In fact, it is likely that our hearts are trapped.

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Only by removing the shackles of the soul can we get true freedom.

To reduce expectations and do not overestimate the relationship, you can make yourself less harmful; reduce desire and learn to be content in order to see what you want; do not give up lightly, and insist on moving forward to achieve a better self.

The heart is one inch, and the illness retreats by one foot.

If you do n’t suffer, life is naturally sweet.

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