I appreciate this living woman (must read at the age of 30-50)

I have read such a paragraph:

"Beautiful, it's better to live beautifully. Women who have no single power can only leave sadness."

Single force does not mean single in a conventional sense, but an independent state.

Whether a person chooses to get married or single, he has the ability to live well and live a good life.

Women with a single force can be economically independent, have ideological opinions, and they are not emotionally dependent on. Such women can often live themselves into a beam of light.

Single power can be said to be the top charm of a woman.

Regardless of whether you are single or married, please never lose your ability to control your life.

With single strength, a person can also live a wonderful life

There is a topic on Zhihu: Is it really miserable if a woman who hasn't got married at the age of 30?

The highest answer below is this:

I live in the house I bought, and the environment is very good; the latest public cars are driving; reading, fitness, photography, travel, rich life, many friends; will be urged to marry, but there is no pressure ...

This answer is a bit unexpected, but very real.

Women who have a single force, no matter how old they are, no matter whether they get married, they can live a lot of life.

Independent and confident people will never pin their happiness on others.

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After graduating from his friend Ye Zi, he found a monthly salary of 4,000 yuan in his favorite city. Deducting rent, water and electricity costs and living expenses every month becomes a proper moonlight.

In order to change this situation, there are three choices: one is to ask for money with the parents of my hometown; the other is to find another half of the conditions to share the pressure of life; the third is to improve their ability to make money.

She didn't want her parents and love to pay for her life, so she decided to change her own efforts.

She reported a online interpretation training class. After working every day, she listened to class, read books, and practiced mouth translations. After more than 3 months of hard work, she obtained an interpretation certificate and found a part -time interpretation part -time job.

With the continuous study and deep cultivation, more and more leaves have part -time signing orders, and the balance on the bank card has also risen. In less than 3 years, she bought a house by her own efforts. During the period, I also learned illustration and baking.

Now, although Ye Zi has not encountered the other half of her favorite, she said that she was not panicked at all.

The so -called single force is not there: when someone asks me when porridge can be warm, you can work hard; when no one stands at dusk, he can also become a poem.

Only when you live well can the breeze come from.

Many times, life is messy, not because of single, but because of lack of single power.

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Have a single force, the happy marriage is full of confidence

See a point of view in "Marriage and Family" magazine:

There is a basic law in marriage, that is, people who can maintain self -balance are easier to have happiness.

But in life, not everyone can understand the true meaning of them.

Some time ago, I met a friend who hadn't seen each other for many years, talking about each other's life, and my friends cried several times.

The husband's husband is an executive of a company, and the income is relatively high, so she quit her job after pregnancy and brought her baby at home.

But the later life is not as beautiful as imagined.

Bringing baby and handling housework, I worked hard, I had no income, had almost no right to speak at home, and couldn't talk about dignity. Her husband was often impatient to her, and even buying a favorite skirt had to be careful.

There is a saying deep: "Don't lose yourself in front of anything, even love."

Even if you enter the marriage, everyone is still an independent individual.

As the drama Blacht said: "No matter what kind of stilts we step on, it is impossible to have our own feet."

In fact, it is difficult for a person's life to change hugely through marriage. It is not independent before marriage.

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Shu Ting said in "To the Oak":

"I must be a kapok near you, standing with you as the image of the tree."

Smart people never be the vines that are attached to others, but are a tree next to each other, maintain an independent gesture, and walk alongside him.

With a single force, you can live your own charm

Single power is the source of women's charm and the confidence of a person.

The following 4 dimensions can better bless your "single force".

1. Economic independence.

There is such a sentence: 80%of life's difficulties can be solved with money, and the remaining 20%can also be relieved by money.

Very worried, but very realistic. Most of the adults' security and retreat are given money.

Lu Yao wrote in "Ordinary World": "Money is a good thing, it can make people no longer panic and make people confident."

If you work hard to make money, you can please yourself, you can please yourself, you can respect your parents, you can raise your children, and you can not keep your nose.

The ability to maintain money is to maintain a confidence of dignity and cope with life.

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2. Energy independence.

Hayao Miyazaki said: "Don't rely on one person easily, it will become your habit. When you come separately, you are not lost by someone, but the pillar of your spirit."

Whenever and wherever, please learn to walk independently, it will make you go more and more comfortable.

Economic independence is only the foundation of single strength. Only spiritual independence can truly independence. When your spirit is independent, even if someone leaves from your life, you will not lose the courage to live.

Learn to get a sense of security and happiness from yourself. Only if a person has an opinion on his mind and an emotional unwillingness, he can live without panic and anxiety.

3. Has the time and space of alone.

No matter how busy a person is, he must have a separate time and space to get along with himself.

We need a clean space and time. There is no entertainment there, no consequences of violations, and no such as the flow. There is only one free self, we can talk to the soul, we can understand our sadness and joy, or the expectations and choices of the future.

In this "isolation", human beings can put their minds and minds and improve themselves.

Leave some independent space, store yourself; leave some independent time, and think about yourself.

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4. Continue learning and continuous value -added.

As the saying goes: Live to old, learn old.

Only in continuous learning can people draw more energy. This energy is part of the "single force".

It allows us to live calmly and to let us climb from the trough, and also allow us to have the ability to reshuffle and reverse the wind.

No one in this world will be absolutely relying on life.

If you are single, you don't have to be anxious, you don't need to think that "you should get married at the age", make more money when you have time, go to bed early, and live well than anything else.

If you are married, I hope you have the courage to "lonely in your lover's arms", even if the other party can accompany you for a lifetime, please maintain your independence, not attach or attach.

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A person, no matter what time, must maintain his single power.

This single force is not only your confidence and courage, but also your free and easy to confidence.

Born to the sun, independent and self -confidence, can be exciting alone and in love with the world.

Help [forward] This article, I hope you have a single force to resist the wind and rain and live the most beautiful self.

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