Recommended reading ｜ "Mom's Courage": Look at family education from another angle

The scorching sun is in the summer vacation again. Who should the child bring every day? What should I do if my child is not obedient and does not write well? How can parents get rid of their children's "harassment" and work well? As the mother of the two boys, Ms. Liu Hongyan's "Mom's Courage: Guide the child to find herself" (referred to as "" Mom's Courage "") may have some inspiration for these mothers who are troubled by parent -child education.

"Mom's Courage" was written in 2019. At that time, Liu Hongyan's eldest son had been studying at the economics major of Cambridge University, and his younger son could already go to kindergarten. Regarding the original intention of writing this book, Liu Hongyan believes that it mainly records the growth process of himself and the children, and also provides an example of discussion for other mothers. She feels that every child and family are unique. Education is important to "guide" instead of stereotyped "copying" and "imitation".

In life, Liu Hongyan is not only the mother of two sons, but also a successful workplace elite. How did she raise the baby elegantly and calmly? To sum up, it is a sentence: Mom and learning to control emotions are worse than teaching children to learn self -management.

For example, Liu Hongyan never accompanied the child to write homework, and never urged the child to write homework, but his eldest son was still admitted to Cambridge University! She believes that the child is born with a strong learning ability, and the mother only needs to help the child to develop a good habit of efficient and focused.

Why is her child so obedient? This is because she never allows her child to do homework as soon as she goes home. Many parents are afraid that their children will have procrastination in their homework. Therefore, they can't wait for the child to re -open the packed schoolbag as soon as they step into the house, and meticulously take out the homework to complete. In her opinion, such parents lack the ability to think in discharge.

Imagine that in 5 days or even 7 days a week, the child is studying from 7:30 in the morning to 10 pm or more. In addition The intensity is not lower than that of adults' work intensity. But adults' enthusiasm, ability, and effects are much worse than children.

If the mother returned home for a day, Dad didn't care about "should you drink some water for a while?" Instead, he shouted to let the mother cook and do housework first, which will inevitably make the mother furious. In the same way, when the child returns home from the school, he should not let him write his homework immediately. Parents can first express their care of their children's daily care and talk to them for a day of feeling, so that they can eat some fruits or play for a while. This can effectively restore their rebellious psychology and let them feel the care of their parents.

After children develop good learning habits, they will naturally arrange time and complete their homework independently.

In addition to the experience of writing homework with the children, Liu Hongyan also shared the issues that parents were paying attention to school selection, parent -child communication, money education, art education, sex education, second child, study abroad, etc. in the book "Mom's Courage". Including the raising problems of children aged 0 to 18. Effective guidance is better than tough discipline, so that children can learn to manage themselves. They do not know how much it is efficient than yelling.

Each mother -in -law is dilemma in work and family. On the one hand, we must work hard to achieve self -worth. On the one hand, you must also be anxious for your child's future. Parent -child relationships may have fallen into a deadlock. Give up your career or give up your child? "Mom's Courage" allows us to get the third answer: we can become a duty mother, a successful professional woman, and at the same time we can care for ourselves. Just teach children to learn self -management.

In fact, when mothers don't have to be so tired, they don't have to ask yourself to be a "superman". All you need is a "Mom's Courage".

Brief introduction

Title: "Mom's Courage: Guide the child to find yourself"

Author: Liu Hongyan

Editor in charge: Li Yingxiao

Publishing House: Jiangsu Phoenix Science and Technology Press

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Today's parents have more knowledge and resources (including money) than the previous generation, and seem more powerful to shape their children as expectations.But from the moment every life is born, it is an independent individual.What parents can do is to give their children soil and nutrients, so that they will naturally get rid of the mother and 襁褓, grow themselves, and become a unique and unique self.——The director of Chen Xiaoqing's documentary "China on the Tip of the Tongue"

Freedom is the soul of education.This book shows the struggle and restraint of a mother. She provides protection and guidance to her children, and tries to suppress the urge to excessive interference.

——The writer Xu Zhiyuan and founder of one -way space

Our expectations are to guide children to find ourselves and become a better self.Our problem is that in the process of raising children, did parents become a better self?This book gives us a answer.

——Teng Lixian (Lao Liu) The editor -in -chief of "Reading the Library"

Planning: Tian Meagaowei

Reporter: Lian Xinmei/Wen Zheng Lingling/Drawing

Responsible editor: Lian Xinmei

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