What kind of personality is the most popular?Studies say: Look at these 7 points

In the past two days, I talked to my friends about the number of likes of WeChat "Friends Circle".

Friends say that they only have less than 10 each, and each of the good colleagues and sisters can have 100 praises each.

"Her popularity has always been very good. It is the kind of person who sees people, and it is very natural and natural to get along with her. Everyone is willing to make friends with her, of course, including myself." She said very much. " Jealous, even want to learn interpersonal communication with her. "

When she listened to her description of the personality of my colleague, I also thought of some of my friends -it made me feel comfortable since I met, and I only wanted to understand and communicate more with the TAs. Is there something in common in such a person worthy of reference?

Let's take a look at today's article.

What kind of personality is the most popular?

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1. People who actively evaluate others can also gain positive impression!

Always look at others with appreciation, do not hesitate to praise or judge at will, talk about the shortcomings and deficiencies of others

In life, we often understand others through social activities. However, the study found that when we generously given others in social networking, we will also leave a positive impression (Mae et al., 1999).

For example, if you praise someone very cute, people who chat with you often feel that you become more cute; otherwise, if you talk about someone bad temper, even if you are usually a very gentle person, talking to you, talking to you People often leave your psychological impression of poor temper.

Studies believe that this phenomenon is related to the spontaneous characteristic empathy. When a person describes a certain characteristics of others, people often unconsciously associate this feature to those who say this sentence. And, even if this feature is inconsistent with people's previous evaluations, this impact will happen.

At the same time, actively evaluate the enthusiasm, happiness, kindness, politeness, emotional stability and ability of others and a person. Dustin Wood, a professor of psychology, said: "People's views on others largely reflect their own personality, and actively treat others to show their positive traits, and a large number of negative personality characteristics are related to negatively treat others."

In addition, people's positive attitudes of others can also reflect the satisfaction of people's life and the degree of love by others.

2. People full of curiosity will make others feel closer socially!

Like to explore unknown things, like to ask openness

"Curiosity" has been linked with intellectual development and memory learning for a long time, but in fact, curiosity also played an important role in human social relations--

Curiosity may be a feature that helps social intimacy (Kashdan & Roberts, 2004).

The experiments set up "participants" and "research volunteers" in turn and answering questions. The results show that research volunteers are more likely to be attracted by more curious participants and feel closer to each other. In addition, even if considering the influence of the emotions and social anxiety of the participants, the curiosity still has a unique connection with the intimacy score.

In addition, more curious participants can better predict the degree of acceptance of their research volunteers. Another study also found that curious people may be better at "reading" others. Compared to those who are not very curious, very curious people can better predict the external direction and openness of random distribution objects. This may be because curious people are more accurate in capturing language and non -language clues.

Therefore, people are often attracted to people who show curiosity, and they feel closer to TAs socially.

Psychologist Todd Kashdan said: "When you show curiosity, ask interesting questions, and find that the other party is interesting, the other party will also be willing This establishes a spiral that gives and obtained to promote the intimacy of the relationship. "

3. People with high response are more attractive!

Listen carefully in the chat, perceive the thoughts of the other party, and care about the feelings of others

Studies have found that an important characteristic of a heart is a positive response to others' ideas and emotions, which is also known as "Responsiveness" in psychology.

When we get along with a highly responding person, we will find that our thoughts and feelings can be keenly aware of, understanding, affirmation, and concern by TA. , 2012).

Researchers let the participants randomly match the opposite sex, talk about negative events that have happened to themselves in the near future, and after talking, they evaluate the response of the other party in the interaction process, and how much they are eager to have sex with the other party. It was found that high -response people would be considered more attractive by the other party (BIRNBAUM & Reis (2012).

The high response of the other party will make us feel that our emotions and ideas are perceived, understood, and "see", and this is the embodiment of intimacy in the relationship.

It is worth noting that the impact of response on attraction may have gender differences. High -response women are more attractive to men, and also make men willing to establish long -term intimate relationships with them (Brinbaum et al., 2014 To. 4. Focus on the current people are more attractive!

Perceive and accept your current state of emotional state that is not entangled in the past or anxious future

If girls with high response in boys are particularly attractive, what kind of boys are more attractive in the eyes of girls?

A very easy character that is very easy to be ignored turned out to be "living in the present" -also known as "righteous thoughts", which is from Buddhism. It is a kind of consciousness and purpose in people's physical and mental state of mind and mind. Essence

If a person can often be in a state of mindfulness, then TA is often high -minded in personality traits (Brown & Ryan, 2003), and is also known as Dispositional Mindfulness.

There are not many "noise" in the brain of high -trait mindfulness, and have the self -regulating ability that keeps pay attention to "at this moment". TAs can find the fun in daily life, and the level of anxiety, depression and stress will be lower (Tomlinson et al., 2018). Getting along with such people will feel easier to feel the beauty of life itself, and the relationship is easier and stretched.

Under the circumstances that the appearance is quite attractive, female participants will prefer men Janz et al., 2015). In other words, the phrase "the most attractive man is the most attractive" is really scientific ~

5. Low nervous people have a higher relationship with people!

Emotions are stable, but more complaints to seek comfort rarely conflicts, tend to solve the problem by yourself

Nervous is a characteristic that reflects a person's emotional stability, and the personality of high gods is often considered to have a negative impact on interpersonal relationships.

High nervous people can easily cause negative reactions when they are stimulated, and it is difficult to calm themselves. It will bring great emotional distress and lower satisfaction with people around them. For example, people with nervousness often have a strong response to pressure, prone to negative emotions, full of complaints and anger, and these tendencies are likely to radiate people who get along with TAs and threaten the relationship.

Psychologists found that "satisfactory friendship" found that low nervousness and higher friendship satisfaction related to friendship (Wilson et al., 2015).

In addition, in the investigation of the married couple, the high gods of the spouse often mean low -level relationships and sexual satisfaction, and it indicates that the low recovery after divorce (Kelly & Conley, 1987).

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