What is small clever and what is really smart?

Have you found it?

Some people, when they first met, you think they are smart, clever and enthusiastic.

But after several contacts, I always felt that behind the cleverness, there was a fool.

The initial favorability also became sigh with the deepening of understanding.

The old saying said, "Little cleverness can't support big wisdom."

Most of those who seem clever and stupid are because of ignoring the following 5 points.

Smart people know how to "think twice".

But everyone who is really smart remembers that there is a sentence in the back, "Again, Sikari."

It means that it is enough to think twice. If you think too much, it is easy to restrain your hands and feet.

I have heard such a story:

In order to establish the image of "Jinkou Yu's words, a word must be done", a wood was erected outside the Dongcheng Gate.

Zhang Bang announced that who could carry the wood to Xicheng Gate and reward a piece of gold.

Most of the people at the gate of the city believe that anyone who is a bit of strength can do it, and they are exploring whether there will be such good things, so no one acts.

At this time, a foreigner came, because it happened to have no entanglement, and picked up the wood and walked towards Xicheng Gate.

Later, foreigners really got gold.

The people who were onlookers began to regret it.

There are also such stories in life. When the opportunity is in front of you, look forward to the front and backs:

What should I do if I fail?

What should I do if I was cheated?

Is it the best plan now?

How can we ensure that everything is lost?

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But he was reluctant to put it into action.

I also think that it is a thoughtful and smart performance.

But when the opportunity slipped away, I started to feel that "I knew it was so simple, I went to do it."

Seemingly smart people are busy "thinking twice" and verify the answer in their minds.

The truly smart people have already begun to act and approach the answer in the action.

Wang Shimin, the author of "Thinking", said:

"Before your value is not valid, don't waste energy on the circle. If you have no exchange value, all social communication is invalid."

In the early days of my friend Xiaoding, he liked to participate in various industry meetings and paid training. He felt that he could meet the industry predecessors and peers from it.

As long as I heard that a friend introduced to his peers, no matter how busy with him, he will always squeeze out time to meet, hoping to get opportunities for cooperation.

During that time, he always said: "You have to make more friends, it's all connections."

After more than half a year, my friends did not make a few, and the connections could not be talked about.

He then started to reflect and retracted his energy to work itself.

After more than a year of hard work, when Xiaoding had improved, those so -called "connections" began to activate beside Xiaoding.

When you are unknown, the connections are just a few names, a avatar in WeChat, and at most the praise in the circle of friends.

And when you have enough ability and value, there will be many "good people" swarming around you.

In the final analysis, whether the connections are useful depends on your own value.

Therefore, when the seemingly smart people are busy making friends, please colleagues, and expand the traces.

Really smart people are doing things down.

Because they understand that instead of operating contacts, they are not as strong as themselves.

Really effective connections are value swaps.

I don't know if you have experienced such experiences:

As soon as I arrived in a new environment, when I met enthusiastic friends and colleagues, I cared about whether you adapt, and whether there was anything to help.

At first, I felt warm and kind.

But before talking a few words, the other party began to care about your past experience, personal emotions, economic conditions ...

Even many of the pasts that they are unwilling to mention, they are still chasing and constantly.

During the period, the other party couldn't help it. To give his own opinions and suggestions, his face was full of three words "good for you".

Then, you feel more uncomfortable and want to escape quickly.

In a period of "The Story of Qi Qi", when talking about "enthusiasm", Huang Zhizhong said:

The reason why we respect, likes, and embrace it is because of enthusiasm to see more and make our lives bright. But if you are putting pressure on others or giving yourself pressure, then there is nothing so proud.

In the communication, there are always some people who wear "enthusiastic" coats, and use "care" and "good for you" to dictate the life of others.

But I forgot that there are always some emotions in life that need to be digested by themselves, and there are always some difficulties that can only be carried by themselves.

Excessive enthusiasm and concern are actually a kind of disturbance.

As said in "Cognitive Breakst":

"Caring and disturbing is a good brother, but the latter looks more polite. But more often, there is not much difference."

Therefore, everyone who really clever understands that enthusiasm must also have a proportion. This is respect for others and the basic to maintain feelings.

There is a question of knowing: "People are in middle age, why do you still have something?"

A high praise replied:

"The reason why you do nothing is because you have been looking for shortcuts.

And just forgotten that the most powerful thing in this world is the seemingly stupid effort every day. "

In the TV series "One Years No Work", after He Yu was unemployed, he started an insurance sales part -time under the introduction of his old colleague.

As a former crown, she knows the routine and shortcut of sales.

In order to approach the target customer, President Chen, she tried her best to investigate the family background of the other party, made a chance encounter, and even went to the other company to squat and played fiercely with the company's employees. However, President Chen asked: "If the insurance can be mortgaged, what is the discount? What is the interest rate?"

She can only stutter and say, "I'm sorry President Chen, I don't know. Because I just did this happened ..."

President Chen sneered:

"Don't think that you are smart, giving people almost, and pour water in the water, you can sell a few insurances.

Each industry has its professionalism, and it is never possible to have a shortcut to speculate and take a shortcut. "

There are not a few stories in life, you see those who think they are smart:

In terms of learning, I always want to find a more clever way to make myself more easily to master knowledge;

At work, I always want to find a more convenient path to make myself achieve their goals faster.

But in the end, I found that people who do things have long been ahead.

Seemingly smart people are looking for shortcuts.

And really smart people are stupid.

The world always thinks that savvy people are easier to succeed than ordinary people, but they do not know that cleverness is wrong.

Those who seem to be savvy must calculate everywhere, and everything wants to take advantage.

However, I do n’t know if I get a moment of benefit, but it is impossible to count the gains and losses of the first life.

There is a supporting supporting role in "The World". She is good at calculating and good at insight.

Her marriage with Luo Shibin is just a transaction, one for money, and one for resources.

When Luo Shibin had an incident, she began to calculate how to use water to flow to help herself get the power of the company.

But she found that Luo Shibin had already made a will and left the company to Zhou Nan.

Although Zhou Nan is no longer in the world, he can eventually fall into Zheng Juan according to the will.

Therefore, she seized Zheng Juan's weaknesses. Through the trial, Zhou Bingkun asked Zhou Bingkun to pay huge compensation to force Zheng Juan to give up the company's inheritance right.

With the calculation and weighing all the way, Zeng Shan got the company as expected.

But in the end, because he was too concerned about the gains and losses of interests, he was driven by the desire.

There is nothing wrong with being savvy, but when a person is savvy, it is used to calculate gains and losses, and his mind is placed in cheap. It is doomed that his way will not be long -term.

As Zuo Zongtang said: "Being a man is not as kind."

Really smart people are disdainful of being careful, but choose to do things and be kind.

Only by treating others will it be true; can you only gain long -term if you do things.

What exactly is a smart person?

Nothing is:

Know how to think twice when doing things, but do not let thinking hinders action;

When you encounter something, you will help each other, but do not send hope on the connections;

When you get along with others, you have a passion and do not add a burden to others;

Do not find shortcuts when facing difficulties, willing to work hard;

Do not count when you are living, know how to treat each other sincerely.

In this way, Fang is great wisdom.

I wish you and me, I can be a smart person, and live a lifetime.

Author | Jiang Yan, live and write with heart.

Picture | Visual China

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