Night reading | Don't care about the definition of others, do fireworks with different colors

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In life, we will be labeled by others, and inadvertently label others, and we also want to get the labels we want from others. Everyone will pay attention to the views of others, and they will change themselves because of some evaluations and definitions of others.

When a person is posted on the name and defined, he will make self -impression management, so that his behavior is consistent with the label content he posted. This phenomenon is caused by labels, so it is called "label effect".

Many people feel that they must have specific behaviors to be recognized by people around them. Many people feel that they are wearing a mask, so they are dissatisfied with their lives and their lives.

It is a good thing to align with a "good label". However, many people are labeled and cared too much about the label. If you want to reach the label that is posted or wants to get rid of the label, Constantly denying yourself and disagreement, it is likely to lose people's cognitive ability.

Many people want to "do themselves" and want to do what they like, not troubled by others' opinions and opinions. However, it is always labeled and caught in a "label effect". So how to tear off the label and bravely be yourself?

There is a blogger on the Internet@网 网 and Dad, which uses Coca -Cola to make metaphors, conveying a clever and simple and easy -to -understand tearing sign. In the video, the dialogue between the boy and the dad is like this:

Boy: "A bottle of Coca -Cola, torn the label and paste the label of Qixi. Is it Qixi?"

Dad: "Of course not!"

Boy: "Is it the label of the Meridian Daida, is it Midiana?"

Dad: "No!"

Boy: "Is it the label of Pepsi, is it Pepsi?"

Dad: "Very similar, but still not."

Boy: "What makes?"

Dad: "Coca -Cola will not be Coca -Cola because of other labels."

Boy: "You are right, all the labels are not yourself, you have to believe that you are the best, do not be around others, and do not live for others."

"I am me, it is a fireworks with different colors." It was not what others evaluated us, what we are, and the evaluation of others is just the subjective view of others. Everyone has their own lives. We must be responsible for our lives and combine our own situation to get out of our own life path, not to imitate others, or to live according to the labels posted by others.

Nietzsche once said: "You have to figure out the script of your life -not the sequel to your parents, not the prequel of your children, nor the outer chapter of your friend."

Lin Yutang once said: "I want to have my own freedom, and dare to be my own guts."

Shi Tiesheng also said: "And the condensation of others is like a ghost fire, and go boldly to walk your night road."

Being yourself is your favorite appearance, and will not be left or right by the mind of others; you can allow yourself to rest for a short time, and you are brave to ask yourself to improve; you allow yourself to allow yourself not to follow the big flow, and it is also strictly requested Self -discipline. The most important thing is to accept yourself, know yourself, find your own comfortable state, and love things.

We can define ourselves or not to define ourselves. We can accept the definition of others or tear off the labels of others.

May you not care about being defined by others, bravely be yourself, and live in your own love.

Author, photography: A Yuan

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