The only child has exceeded 200 million, and the relatives gradually disappear. Will friends be the closest person?

Recently, "Hidden Dust Smoke" has become a phenomenon -level movie.

In addition to the discussion of the plot, everyone started to two, and even started to find the director Li Ruizhen's relatives in the movie with a magnifying glass.

This movie about the two hard -working people who have been alienated by relatives who have been alienated by relatives are behind the directors to save money in order to save money.

Although such relatives are enviable, the young people who watch the movie cannot be rejoiced because they have long been "disconnected" with relatives.

"I will not notify my relatives when I get married."

When I talked with a friend about the topic of "broken relatives", Wenwen, who left Shandong's hometown alone in Beijing, said so.

Wenwen himself has never deliberately made a "disconnection" behavior, but the status quo is indeed a state of "completely disconnecting" with some relatives.

For Wenwen's post -95s, friends can choose a family when they grow up, and relatives can also choose.

"A relative who has changed the taste is not as good as the gatekeeper downstairs."

After graduating from college to work in the field, I found that after I really got rid of a lot of relatives' living circles, gossip and trivial things disappeared, and life became more comfortable.

Occasionally, the neighborhood relationship with friends who do not have to maintain and work hard, and the enthusiastic station owner, even the uncle who met the door to get off work more kind than relatives.

It can be seen that with the changes in the structure of life, the concept of relatives began to become "blurred" in the eyes of young people. Compared with classmates, friends, and colleagues who get along with each other, relatives seem to be more like neighbors.

"Half Monthly" has reported that now that there are fewer and less interaction between relatives, young people are "disconnected". Many post -90s and post -00s are basically only children. They have no siblings themselves, and their second generation has no siblings.

The concept of relatives is gradually indifferent, the stickiness of the relationship is almost lost, and the interaction between the existing relatives is almost lost.

This phenomenon is summarized as "broken relatives" of youth.

Now the younger generation, especially the "post -00s" younger generation, has no concept for the relationship with relatives, and has become "strange but related person."

The changes in the family structure, living form, social capital, emotional needs, and lifestyle of contemporary China have changed and promoted the awareness of relative relationships of a new generation of youth groups.

1. There are no relatives in the circle of young people

Open the short video brand, social networking sites, we search for "relatives". The topics that netizens care about are "relatives looking for me to borrow money", "relative moral kidnapping", "relatives' ridicule" ...

It seems that "relatives" have become Rong Mi with a needle. They specifically find faults and stabilizes, making young people unhappy.

"No relatives" seem to have become the consistent idea of ​​most young people.

Relatives, quiet families, and lying in the list without more than once a year, the three aunts and six Qi who did not contact once a year.

Even the circle of friends to block relatives has become the norm.

Even more straightforward, in the eyes of young people, those relative relationship network value built through a layer than a layer of shallow blood has been severely weakened in the process of increasingly lacking.

According to the survey data, the younger the younger, the less contacted with relatives.

The investigators under the age of 18 are "basically not related to relatives"; most young people aged 18-25 and 26-30 years old are only "occasionally connected with relatives."

More than 55%of the investigators 30-40 years old usually "occasionally contact" with relatives, only 30%of people "often contact" with relatives; 40-50 years old, 66.67%of people and relatives " "Frequent contact"; 50%of people over the age of 50, 50%of people "often contact" with relatives.

The vast majority of "post -90s" and "post -00s" young people, if there is nothing in the family, can hardly contact relatives.

To be precise, from the perspective of growth, most young people are in a marginal state with relatives.

First of all, after entering a modern, open, and high -flow society, the Chinese social capital network structure has changed greatly. The relationship between classmates and alumni relationships with learning rather than blood, and the alumni relationship gradually occupies an important aspect of social relations. Essence

Secondly, the Internet allows young people of the "post -00" to enjoy the daily lifestyle of "people and networks", rather than the "people" lifestyle in reality. "Pass" for them.

It can even be said that the Internet has seized the time, space and psychology of youth generations, and caused inertia in the subconsciousness of the youth generation.

More objectively, relatives who have gone through the New Year's Eve are brothers and sisters who have grown up together since childhood, and brothers and siblings of common parents.

Under the blessing of blood and traditional concepts, these have become one of the few relatives who are not remembered.

However, if you look at the current fertility environment, starting from a family planning, most children after 80 are only children. Recent brothers and sisters have diverse and watches. Together, it is far less than that of classmates and friends. In the context of lack of emotional connection, this blood relationship is slowly diluted by the development of the economy and society.

To this end, for the younger generation, relatives now exist in the WeChat list.

From "walking relatives" to "relying on relatives to make money", young people know the traffic password of the Internet.

They are not familiar with relatives, but they know the topic of relatives and replace the traffic. On social platforms to retrieve "relatives" related videos, play and interaction are very powerful.

Why can relatives resonate?

With the development of the times, today's lifestyle is no longer like the past rural areas, and relatives need to report to each other to defend the interests of family members.

In the past, it was very important for kinship. Expanding the family will try to maintain the blood connection of a large family to enhance the survival and development capabilities of the entire family. This is very clear from the concepts of everyone and clan in ancient times. In "Knowing not", the concept of the family is as good as the family.

At that time, the distant relatives were better than the neighbors, and trying to climb the relatives is a kind of survival wisdom.

In addition, another role of relatives is the help of life.

In the previous farming era, spring plowing and autumn harvesting was the busiest time, and the cooperation between relatives could greatly improve efficiency.

Of course, from another perspective, the older generations still insist on maintaining the relationship between relatives and neighbors. In addition to the habit left by the times, they are also people who are married for their children in the future.

In rural areas, such major events of marriage and funeral need to be lined with relatives. Similarly, for previous people, without relatives to share some complicated trivial matters, these scenes cannot be decent.

Even when you use money at hand, you need to take care of people for a few days, and you need to use tools and the like, etc., and other relatives can often do more with more.

On these basiss, the most important thing is to thank each other for helping each other this year. It can also be said that it is a relationship.

Now, with the advancement of public security and legal systems, there are chapters to resolve these conflicts of interest.

The original Blood League did not break, and it was even more difficult for our young people to realize that the previous generations had their own enemies and united affection in those miscellaneous interests.

In simple terms, it is mainly because there is no industrial society, and the mutual help between relatives and relatives will be reduced. Different times and different interpersonal relationship processing are the progress of society, and everyone is more independent.

In fact, this is also a sign of the industrial society. The large clan disintegrated into a small family, because the clan did not bring more interests.

Data show that over the past 40 years, China ’s over 600 million population has been relocated from rural to cities, and the population of over 200 million has achieved the living flow of cross -provinces and cities.

The high degree of liquidity has weakened the construction of common memory. Many relatives accompanied by each other have evolved into a hurry and festival.

On the other hand, the migration of the place of residence has caused people to dilute the needs of relatives to a certain extent.

And the emotional reliance is still one of the elements of human survival. So while relying on the emotional reduction of relatives, those like -minded friends and the uncle and uncle of the gatekeeper and the grandfather may be better in daily life.

Today, compared to the older generation, young people actually have their own way to express this sustenance.

3. Performance of geography is possible

The most obvious thing is that during the growth of post -90s and post -00s, classmates and alumni based on the relationship between the relationship between the relationship between the study fate, the neighbor friends based on the geographical relationship, replaced the relatives who were "not present", to a certain extent satisfied their. Emotional needs.

However, there are also opinions that young people's needs for relatives will return to the essence of "need relatives" at a certain node.

In the past, the voice of the post -80s and 90s was still in the ears. It was believed that the "post -80s" was the lost generation and the "post -90s" was a collapsed generation, but now we can see that most people in the "post -80s" and "post -90s" have already become the "post -80s" and "post -90s". The backbone of Chinese society and the national construction of the country.

Therefore, the so -called "post -00s" and "generation of pro -relatives" say that when they become the core bonds of the family, they may also awaken the relationship, become the core guardians of the family, and assume the mission of the affinity.

But it can also be said that the separation of relationships with relatives starts from geography.

With the expansion of universities, a large number of rural or suburban constructions, and farmers enter the city, the rural population is transferred to the urban population to gradually rise each year.

According to the seventh national census, the population living in cities and towns was 90.199 million, accounting for 63.89%; the population living in the countryside was 509.79 million, accounting for 36.11%.

Compared with 2010, the urban population increased by 23.642 million, the rural population decreased by 16.436 million, and the proportion of urban population rose by 14.21 percentage points.

Obviously, most people in cities and towns demand depend on economic development, such as weddings. In this way, even in the same city, relatives will move less.

In addition, in the social background of late marriage, relatives are also indirectly.

According to data, in 2021, my country's only children have exceeded 200 million, of which the post -90s accounted for the largest proportion. By 2020, the total number of children in the country has a total of nearly 200 million households.

On the other hand, with the blessing of a low marriage rate, the "less affinity effect" will be more obvious.

According to the data released by the Wedding Industry Observation, a total of 2.107 million newcomers were registered and married in the first quarter of 2022, a year -on -year decrease of 1.17%.Taken together, for young people in the post -90s, post -00s, and even after 10, the dilute of the demand for relatives is more an inevitable process of the development of the times.

Even in the impression of most young people, relatives are just a stranger with blood relationships with each other.

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