Father who wrote to the digital age: Children need to be guarded on the Internet

A psychologist named Geldi once said: "Father is a unique existence and has a special force for cultivating children."

There are different cultures in different countries in the world, but there are many similarities with the expression of father's love: compared to the tenderness and delicateness of maternal love, fatherly love is often described as rough; mother love can make children satisfy, and father's love can be satisfied, and father love can It can make children find a sense of direction; it can be said that in the culture of East and West, his father is playing the role of "guardian".

With the opportunity of Father's Day, I want to discuss a topic that has been mentioned repeatedly with the "father" who sees this article: Most of the post -90s experienced the experience of secretly went to the Internet cafe when I was a child. A "poison beating" can enter the age of more and more post -90s, and also faces the trouble of "children's Internet".

Is it only a way to "discipline" as a Chinese -style father who is not good at expressing?

The digital childhood of "screen generation"

In a report, the British Consumer Council called the children of this era as the "screen generation".

Such descriptions are not accurate. More and more children have lived in the world surrounded by screens since birth. Electronic products such as smartphones, tablets, and children's watches have a considerable proportion in their childhood. Even when some parents saw their children crying, they habitually opened a certain application on the smartphone to coax their children to be happy, which has become a "electronic nanny" to accompany the child's growth.

But when the child reaches a certain age, this habit and dependence gradually makes many parents feel anxious. A typical example is online classes. On the one hand, they have to buy mobile phones, tablets and other products for their children to meet their needs for online classes. They are worried that children will have bad behaviors such as indulging games and live broadcast rewards.

Children and parents around the game of "Internet access" often evolve into a cat and rat game: Parents rack their brains to hide electronic products in places where the child cannot find, and specially sets up very complicated boot passwords; but children can always find these products The hidden place, or fight against it by rolling.

The root cause of the problem does not seem difficult to explain.

Parent -child relationships have natural "inequality". Parents occupy a dominant position in parent -child relationships, and are easy to fall into the strange circle of excessive control. It may just hear that children in other people are addicted to the game, or they are worried about their children to make the same mistake. The child's desire to go online. In the children's cognition, parents' practices are undoubtedly too overbearing, which will cause some rebellious psychology and constantly deepen the contradiction between parent -child.

Most parents' concerns are not groundless. Due to the inadequate minds of minors, the degree of self -control and self -discipline, frequent contact with advertising or games on the Internet is not conducive to children's healthy growth. Reports such as minors to reward anchors, recharge games, watch non -age content, and information leaks are common. Parents' anxiety and sensitive psychology are understandable.

Moreover, there are a pair of invisible "black hands" hidden behind the screen. CCTV has exposed the problems existing in children's watches at 315. Some apps can open a variety of sensitive permissions without user authorization, and then remotely obtain privacy information such as children's position, face image, and call records. These adults may be unavoidable for security vulnerabilities, and they are tantamount to traps that children cannot escape.

Maybe in many parents' cognition, the best way to allow children to avoid risks is to "stay away", reflecting in reality is to prohibit watching TV, play mobile phones, and use computers ... Physical isolation has a relatively safe space, physical isolates a relatively secure space, physical isolation of a relatively secure space, physical isolation of a relatively secure space, physical isolation, a relatively safe space, physical isolation, a relatively safe space, physical isolation, a relatively safe space, physical isolation. Even though it may kill the child's curiosity.

However, the EU survey report shows that the number of children using the Internet every day is almost twice as much as 10 years ago, and the age of contacting the Internet world is much smaller than 10 years ago. In other words, the digital world is an indispensable existence in contemporary children's lives. The Internet is also a way they understand the world. We cannot let children live in an ideal environment that is separated from reality. Compared to blind prohibitions, we need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibit. We need to blindly prohibits. It is to correctly guide children's Internet behavior.

Selection questions left to father

Since the Internet magic cannot be demonized, the way of getting along with children and the Internet must be found.

The European Commission has recently adopted a new strategy of "creating a better Internet for children", which aims to provide children with scientific Internet guidance to avoid children's contact with network harmful information. It is planned to formulate online age verification standards by 2024, improve the accuracy of age verification through "European digital identity" and other means, and organize related training for children, teachers and parents to improve children's network literacy.

Domestic has also publicly solicited opinions on the "Regulations on the Protection of the Minor" and clearly proposed to strengthen the protection behavior of the minor's online indulgence. Products and services, irrational online consumption of minors, chaos in the "rice circle", "Internet addiction correction agency" infringe the sharp social problems such as the physical and mental health of minors.

Standing on the standpoint of many parents, the improvement of policies and regulations is good news, but the introduction of macro policies and landing take time, but the growth of children is an indispensable thing. Just as the different roles of his father and mother in the family, most of the mission of "escorting" the children on the Internet fell on tens of millions of father.

I once talked to many friends around this issue. A 7 -year -old boy's father shared his solution on the problem of children's Internet access: because this father used Huawei mobile phones, the child wanted to buy Huawei when he had online class, For tablet computers, it is found that Huawei equipment can create children's accounts. Different settings are selected according to the children's different ages. Once the child's tablet enters the children's mode, Huawei reading, Huawei Video, Huawei browser and other applications will only show the age level that meets the child's age level Content.

After logging in to Huawei Children's account, Huawei Wallet can also open the inquiry function before consumption. Without parental consent, children cannot use Huawei Wallet consumption, so as to guide children to develop rational consumption habits and avoid "payment accidents."

"At first, I was more worried that the child would turn off the children's mode by themselves, because the TV at home also had a children's model, but it was possible to exit a mathematical problem. It is not difficult for 7 -year -old children. If you want to withdraw from the children's account or pay in the application, you will pop up the inquiry information on my mobile phone. And you can also turn on the health machine mode, which can control the duration of the Internet, the available time period and the screen to stop the time, and easily prevent the child from being obsessed with excessive obsession. "

In fact, not only Huawei launched a similar functional mobile phone manufacturer. After the pain points of "children's Internet" have been publicly discussed, almost all mainstream mobile phone brands have given solutions.

Especially after the negative reports of children's Internet access, mobile phone manufacturers, including Huawei, have continuously strengthened the protection of minors, such as comments, advertising, marketing, and personalized recommendations. In order to create a healthier and green network environment, Huawei even set up a professional children's application review team, and formulated a clear age grading audit standard. The content was strictly reviewed according to gradient. Effectively avoid adverse information.

What I want to appeal here is that the challenge of "children's Internet access" may be severe, but it does not close the door of guardianship. Parents do not lack opportunities to use tools and services to correctly guide children's Internet behavior. The reality of "Father Love Rawn Mountain" seems to add new standards. Compared with the emotional and emotionalization of mothers, as a father, you should be more rational and may not be good at communicating directly with your children, but you can use a subtle way. Silently guarded behind the child.

At the end

Compared with the post -90s generation, the new generations of children no longer live in groups of groups, and the separated unit buildings are destined to grow their lonely growth environment. The time they are on the "screen" every day may be more than the time for their parents, more than the time to play with children.

Especially at the end of the end of the Yuan universe, VR, AI and other new things, children have to learn to adapt to the digital world at the child stage. The Internet is actually a channel for helping children form comprehensive literacy. Now that we cannot change the growth environment of children, we should follow the way of companionship under the new situation, and learn to use ready -made tools and platforms to join in the actual action of guarding the Internet.

Just like Lu Xun wrote in "What We are a father": "We carry the burden of the cause, hold the dark gates, and put them to a wide and bright place." It is so heavy, but it is a compulsory course for each father to help children "leave" the dark side of the Internet and put them in a healthy, safe, orderly, and harmonious online world.

Finally, I wish all the father in the world a happy holiday!

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