The golden laws in interpersonal communication, let you take less detours

Adeler once said: "Human troubles are derived from interpersonal relationships."

Communication with others is an inevitable part of everyone.

During the relationship, your words and deeds determine your life.

These 5 golden laws make you handle the relationship more handy and take less detours.

Law of Attraction

In life, you don't have to meet others deliberately, because similar people will naturally attract each other.

There is a way: "Flying with Phoenix is ​​a handsome bird; walking with tiger and wolves must be a beast."

Getting along with others, you are like -minded.

Life is a reincarnation, everything you encounter comes from you.

This is the law of attractive power, what kind of person you are, what kind of person you will meet.

Lunar law

During the communication process, the higher the voice of the two sides, the more difficult the conversation is. This is the law of voice.

When many people communicate, they will always not speak well, causing various contradictions.

I have seen a story online.

A netizen picked up a mobile phone on the road.

Coinciding with the owner of the owner, he heard the other side yelled: "You'd better return the phone to me quickly, but my mobile phone is positioned, you can find out where you are!"

He originally intended to return the phone to the owner, but was roared by the owner, and he grew away when he hung up the phone.

Sometimes, yelling is invalid and cannot help you achieve the goal.

Calling and calmness is really powerful. Learning to control the volume is an effective way to communicate, and it is a manifestation of self -cultivation.

Rule of Winning

Tear each other, only lose; help each other to win.

As the saying goes: "Adults are their own, become their own people."

For people and people, helping each other is far more meaningful than winning or losing or losing.

Because the benefit is the self -interest, and the bridge for others is to pave the way for yourself.

Like a crab in a bamboo basket, the crab below will desperately pull the crab above.

Even if you stand on it for a while, you will be pulled down immediately, and in the end, no one can climb out.

People and people hurt each other, they will only lose both and lose.

Only by helping each other can go further and further, and achieve a win -win situation.

Law

He is enthusiastic about strangers, but he is cold and harsh on his loved ones.

Yishu said: "The biggest mistake of people's daily commitment is too polite to strangers, and too harsh to intimate people."

Because you know that they are not polite to outsiders, they will leave you and hurt you.

If you lose your temper in front of your loved ones, you will be understood, and you will even be caring.

Therefore, we always do whatever they want to outsiders and face, but to our loved ones.

But you have to understand that the closer the relationship, the more tolerant of you, the more worthy of your cherishment.

Shi Tiesheng often lost his temper to his mother after his legs were paralyzed, saying that it was difficult to hear.

It wasn't until his mother died of liver cancer that Shi Tiesheng regretted it, but it was too late.

Therefore, no matter what time, you must leave your best emotions to the closest to the person.

You are polite, at home, be at home, know far and near, be close to your loved ones, and be kind to your loved ones.

Bottom line law

The really good relationship is edges and corners, and never blindly please and pay.

Freud said:

"In any relationship, we must dare to keep our boundaries with anger."

Understand each other, you must not enter the foot.

When should you enter, when should you retreat, what can be tolerated, what is the bottom line, you need to know in your heart.

When the tolerance stays at the time of tolerance, touch the bottom line, don't regret your edge.

In addition to saying "good", you can also say "no" in a timely manner.

When you have principles, others can have a bottom line to you.

Editor in this issue | Wang Sinan

Source of data | Book News Digest, Confucian style everyone, one Monday book, insight, Uncle Ha's workplace micro -class; pictures come from the Internet

Source: People's Forum Network

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